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just imagine all the boys f*****g her, and your here weeping like a baby? If she really loved you, do you think she will want you/allow you to be like this?

Its pretty clear you dont want to leave her, so just imgaine, would you like to have sex with someone whos already done it 100 hundred times before you? Are you happy with those thoughts? If not, do something about it instead of just feeling sad for yourself while your girlfirend is having the time of her life
Just think of it as a sexual expertise investment.
Original post by Kinkajou93
Are you for real? A walking vagina??
I know shes a sex worker but she is so much more than that. She has a great character and we have a good time together. She will be studying to become a translator very soon and in the long term she wants out.


She is using you. You are a fool. By all means let the walking vagina walk all over you but the walking vagina does not care
Look, ignore all this negativity. As I said in my earlier comment, talk to her.

You need to really reexamine your priorities. Since you're asking for help, it seems like it's a big issue for you. Is it bigger than your relationship? Does she know it's so important to you?

Since she neglected to tell you about it until you found out, either she is not as invested in the relationship as you, or your communication between each other was so poor she felt uncomfortable & anxious talking to you about it.

Talk. To. Her.
Original post by galaxyruler
Look, ignore all this negativity. As I said in my earlier comment, talk to her.

You need to really reexamine your priorities. Since you're asking for help, it seems like it's a big issue for you. Is it bigger than your relationship? Does she know it's so important to you?

Since she neglected to tell you about it until you found out, either she is not as invested in the relationship as you, or your communication between each other was so poor she felt uncomfortable & anxious talking to you about it.

Talk. To. Her.

That's some good thoughts, but heres a better one... shes a slut prob blowing off some random guy now then comes home to kiss you, prob doesn't care bout you as much as you'd think and is just waiting for you to break up with her cus she doesn't wanna do it.... PS OP you're an idiot you don't need to come on tsr to know that you should dump her you seem really really needy
Original post by theBranicAc
just imagine all the boys f*****g her, and your here weeping like a baby? If she really loved you, do you think she will want you/allow you to be like this?

Its pretty clear you dont want to leave her, so just imgaine, would you like to have sex with someone whos already done it 100 hundred times before you? Are you happy with those thoughts? If not, do something about it instead of just feeling sad for yourself while your girlfirend is having the time of her life


while I agree that OP needs to stand up for himself, I hardly think that *his girlfriend is "having the time of her life" as an escort. I doubt she woke up one day and decided she would like to have sex with fat old men everyday for the rest of her life. She just needs to sort herself out and get a normal job and OP needs to stop making excuses for her.*
Original post by LavenderBlueSky88
while I agree that OP needs to stand up for himself, I hardly think that *his girlfriend is "having the time of her life" as an escort. I doubt she woke up one day and decided she would like to have sex with fat old men everyday for the rest of her life. She just needs to sort herself out and get a normal job and OP needs to stop making excuses for her.*


shes having more fun with them then she is with her boyfriend
Original post by theBranicAc
shes having more fun with them then she is with her boyfriend


really? I don't think this is about sex. I don't think any woman (aside from a very advanced sex addict) would enjoy sleeping with guys she didn't have any choice over. I'm not saying she's a victim, it's her choice but I just think she is stuck in this industry now as it's very good money for probably not many hours a day on average. Switching from that to 40 hours a week stacking shelves is obviously a tough transition - maybe she doesn't love him enough to do it for him- but I doubt it's because she enjoys the actual sex that much.*
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Original post by theBranicAc
shes having more fun with them then she is with her boyfriend


No, she hates it.
Shes tried to stop a few times but she feels like she is unable to get another job atm that would guarantee rent, bills, food etc are paid for each month. Its great for financial security but for everything else it sucks. Weve discussed ways of her stopping but she says she cant see heraelf being able to until she has finished uni.

Most of you guys are no doubt picturing her as some promiscous slut who just loves sucking dick all day and is gagging for it.

Couldnt be further. She is beautiful and sophisticated, and compared to most adult workers tries to be as respectable as possible in how she presents herself.

Even so, every time I know shes working I feel and urge to go over and kill the pervert who is ****ing her.
OP if you decided to let her do what she does, then I respect your decision. But:-

Spoiler

Original post by Kinkajou93
No, she hates it.
Shes tried to stop a few times but she feels like she is unable to get another job atm that would guarantee rent, bills, food etc are paid for each month. Its great for financial security but for everything else it sucks. Weve discussed ways of her stopping but she says she cant see heraelf being able to until she has finished uni.

Most of you guys are no doubt picturing her as some promiscous slut who just loves sucking dick all day and is gagging for it.

Couldnt be further. She is beautiful and sophisticated, and compared to most adult workers tries to be as respectable as possible in how she presents herself.

Even so, every time I know shes working I feel and urge to go over and kill the pervert who is ****ing her.


Hey man listen to us.

You HAVE to let go of her. You have to.

I understand you're in love and that you can't see yourself without her, but you HAVE to.

Please. You will regret it in the future.
Original post by Kinkajou93
*Even so, every time I know shes working I feel and urge to go over and kill the pervert who is ****ing her.
*

They're not perverts - she is selling a service and they are buying it. They're doing nothing wrong. She shouldn't put herself in that position in the first place.*
Reply 72
Original post by Ethics Maniac
OP if you decided to let her do what she does, then I respect your decision. But:-

Spoiler



Dude, for a start. I didnt let her do it. I do not condone what she does at all.

Secondly, she probably wouldnt see you anyway, shes very selective and wouldnt see just about anybody, you are probably a complete douche and smell like week old urine, so your best bet is to keep whacking it to cartoon porn mate...I'll be getting amazing sex from a beautiful woman with huge knockers whenever I want.
Original post by Kinkajou93
No, she hates it.
Shes tried to stop a few times but she feels like she is unable to get another job atm that would guarantee rent, bills, food etc are paid for each month. Its great for financial security but for everything else it sucks. Weve discussed ways of her stopping but she says she cant see heraelf being able to until she has finished uni.

Most of you guys are no doubt picturing her as some promiscous slut who just loves sucking dick all day and is gagging for it.

Couldnt be further. She is beautiful and sophisticated, and compared to most adult workers tries to be as respectable as possible in how she presents herself.

Even so, every time I know shes working I feel and urge to go over and kill the pervert who is ****ing her.


why didn't say any of this before, now your just making up ********
Reply 74
Original post by donutellme
Hey man listen to us.

You HAVE to let go of her. You have to.

I understand you're in love and that you can't see yourself without her, but you HAVE to.

Please. You will regret it in the future.


You're probably right. Its just so hard. Theres also the difficulty of if I leave her, I would have to uproot my life. Where would I live, where would I go...
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Original post by Kinkajou93
Dude, for a start. I didnt let her do it. I do not condone what she does at all.

Secondly, she probably wouldnt see you anyway, shes very selective and wouldnt see just about anybody, you are probably a complete douche and smell like week old urine, so your best bet is to keep whacking it to cartoon porn mate...I'll be getting amazing sex from a beautiful woman with huge knockers whenever I want.


So are a tonne of other guys.

You don't condone it yet she STILL DOES IT.

She doesn't care about you
Original post by Kinkajou93
Dude, for a start. I didnt let her do it. I do not condone what she does at all.

Secondly, she probably wouldnt see you anyway, shes very selective and wouldnt see just about anybody, you are probably a complete douche and smell like week old urine, so your best bet is to keep whacking it to cartoon porn mate...I'll be getting amazing sex from a beautiful woman with huge knockers whenever I want.


Ouch you're right. I am the loser here, boo hoo. I can see why she choose you. lmao.
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Original post by theBranicAc
why didn't say any of this before, now your just making up ********




Actually I've mentioned throughout the thread that she doesnt like it.

You're just a bit of a **** tbh. You make yourself look incredibly ignorant and stupid with the comments youve made.
Reply 78
Uni fees for international students are damn expensive. Perhaps get her to consider trying to get onto some sort of paid apprenticeship programme? Try to look for viable job options with her. Does she have any savings? She could study in Germany, where higher education is free and use her savings to live off.

Most of all just communicate how you're feeling with her OP.

If there's no viable way for the situation to change, ask yourself if you can get over this, or else you'll have to leave. My advice to help you cope is this: you say that her clients are using her as an object, but if you think about it from another angle she is also using her clients too, for money. She wouldn't sleep with these guys if not for the money, the sex with them is emotionless and empty. But when she's with you she feels things, because she loves you, right? Having someone's heart and soul is a lot more difficult and valuable than having their body, because then if you have problems in your life she will stand by you. And that devotion is something only you will get, not any of these other guys.

Good luck OP.
Reply 79
Original post by Ethics Maniac
Ouch you're right. I am the loser here, boo hoo. I can see why she choose you. lmao.


Oops, sorry I didnt mean to aim that at you. I thought the comment came from that other guy who keeps making dick comments and I had enough of it. Soz man

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