Alpha traits are generally more desireable imo, but who am I to say, I am a man, not a woman.
Ladies, would you rather your partner to be the leader, the rock in your relationship, independent, goal-driven who stands up for himself when his values are challenged; or would you like your man to be the passive follower, needy due to fear of losing you, always seeking for validation from you and a push-over for people because he wants to please as many people as he can to avoid conflict?
I am guessing most will choose the former, which in my opinion, are alpha traits.