I was a catfish for 10 years. AMA

I did think about it over the years, but that can only help to an extent.
One of the people I catfished spent thousands of pounds on therapy due to things that happened in her past and her mental health issues and it hardly changed anything. Therapy does not fix you.

Imo I've done well to have let go and completely removed it from my life without needing to confide in anyone.

Ultimately it's down to the person them self to deal with and get over the issues inside their mind.

I did think about it over the years, but that can only help to an extent.
One of the people I catfished spent thousands of pounds on therapy due to things that happened in her past and her mental health issues and it hardly changed anything. Therapy does not fix you.

Imo I've done well to have let go and completely removed it from my life without needing to confide in anyone.

Ultimately it's down to the person them self to deal with and get over the issues inside their mind.

You have no regret over hurting people, and you come across as very sociopathic in terms of not caring for anyone else but yourself and you seem little sorry for the actions you have done.

I'm not judging but maybe you do need to see a therapist or a psychiatrist to determine something like a neurological disease you have? I mean, you might just be cray cray without a mental heal illness, but why do you so refuse to see a psychiatrist?

As someone who's been lied to online, I find that really disgusting. But I'm glad you finally stopped, please realise you might have seriously impacted people's lives and that's not funny. It's devastating for the person who gets deceived.

What were you hoping to achieve by catfishing people?

What were you hoping to achieve by catfishing people?

whaaat happened? :O
(you can pm me if you want!)

Ethereal World?
Was that a fake account...?

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It's a looong ass story, people who I tell say it sounds like an episode of Catfish the TV show. You sure you want to know? I don't mind PMing what happened

It's a looong ass story, people who I tell say it sounds like an episode of Catfish the TV show. You sure you want to know? I don't mind PMing what happened

Not exactly. A number of people I got involved with happened to have issues of their own and the amount of hours I invested in listening to them rant about their lives, being there for them at all times and trying to help them with their problems would suggest I was empathetic.

I ended up getting too involved with some people when feelings got in the way, but I know that me being there and feeding their ego all the time kept them going and got them out of some tough times and I never asked for anything in return.

I didn't just care about myself. The 'relationships' were one sided if anything, 70-80% about them, 30-20% about me. Do you know how draining it is when people are that self absorbed?

I'm not sorry or in despair about catfishing because things ended on bad terms and I got hurt and ****ed over too. Obviously it was cruel of me when I knew all along that we'd never meet or anything and I did feel bad at those times, but in the end their actions made it clear that they were not damaged victims and I realised that I deserved better too.

In the last year of catfishing I was emotionally shallow and felt nothing. I stopped showing interest in a close friend/flirtationship (the final person in my catfish life) as she kept speaking about boys non stop. Boys who are into her/who she's slept with, etc. It annoyed and bored me to death and so I left her life. I don't feel bad that I turned into a **** friend because she admitted to someone else that she purposely did that to see if I'd get jealous of her mentioning other guys and that's immature and unreasonable imo. It's a shame because she was my absolute favourite person, but she was toxic in all honesty and began to make me very unhappy so I cut her off.

Ok thanks for your recommendation, but no my life is quite 'ordinary' now and I'm stable and I won't be seeing anyone about that.

So you would have these relationships on screen with both genders? What would you class your sexual orientation then?

I wasn't interested in speaking to guys through catfishing, although I tried it once at the beginning to see what it was like and I ****ing hated it. Talking to guys bored me to death. They were all the same and only thought with their dick. Terrible at holding a conversation, showing no personality or passion about anything and only caring about sexual things. I wasn't into that at all and so I only spoke to girls for the rest of my catfishing because that's where I made real connections.

As my real self I see myself as straight female, I don't want to be with or do anything sexual with other girls. But as the boy catfish that I created, I was consumed in being that character and those were straight relationships.
I know that sounds really old, but read my above post about why I catfished girls (if you haven't already seen it) to understand it more.

did you create characters and what were they like?

Did you get catfished then?

And are there any other questions you'd like answered?

I hope this thread covers what people want to know from the catfisher's perspective and gives people a better understanding of why it may happen/how to look out for it, etc.

Characters as in the identity I played? I did, altogether I probably used 3-4 different identities but the one I stuck with, I committed to it for the last 6-7 years.

At the beginning I got caught by someone who knew the person whose identity I stole and they all added me on MSN and so I had to change characters. That was scary ngl.

So then the next identity I made and stuck with was of this boy who was in my year at school/college and I thought he was attractive and likeable. So I made a character out of him and shaped the character as this 'perfect guy' to the girls I catfished. He was 6'4 and had tattoos. It was kinda warped like when I talked about my day it was mostly accurate and I didn't lie about what I was studying, but I lied and said I lived in London when I don't.
The real boy whose pics I stole didn't go to uni and wasn't active on social media, so it was hard to keep up with updates selfies, but girls didn't care much anyway.

I was really vigilant and only used Twitter so that I wouldn't get spotted by anyone and on there it's normal to follow people you don't know irl. Creating a fake FB or anything else was way too much effort and too risky.
The instant messaging I used were BBM and then iMessage.