Depression over unrequited love

Can't really offer any advice but just wanted to say I sympathise OP, being in a similar situation atm*

Here to talk if you ever need

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Thanks so much, however I feel like I've bored enough people with all the details!

I doubt you'd bore me but I understand if you ever change your mind though, please don't hesitate

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In that case I will drop you a quick line

Can't really offer any advice but just wanted to say I sympathise OP, being in a similar situation atm*

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No worries! From the way I see it, he probably does but I don't think he's willing to accept it. Obviously, I don't know for sure; he could have never had the connection, like he said. Him moving to America could be a mistake but it doesn't seem to be something he's going to put off so you'll both have to live with it. Maybe, as his and your friend said, he isn't ready for a proper relationship so he hopes to explore the world some more first.
Yeah, I'd be very upset if that happened to me too but it's something you have to live with now.

Btw, I've recently started doing some mindfulness exercises which I find very useful fof relaxing the mind. The website says it's for stress but it could be worth doing some of these when your mind wanders back to your ex:
http://www.pocketmindfulness.com/6-mindfulness-exercises-you-can-try-today/
I hope that is of some help to you
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Yeah it is. Well firstly it's the lying to you about the ex. Yes, it could have been a tactic to have a one night stand then end things quickly. However, he told that friend he liked you. His breaking off seems to be him (maybe thinking you're out of his league again) or not trusting himself with you. Sometimes the idea of loving someone so much can be a bit frightening. Him moving to an entirely different country could be read as him trying to get away from anything that could remind him of you. He also refused to meet up last time you were in the area or close, didn't he? It could have been too much for him as may feel like he can't control himself with you.
But yeah, that's my interpretation of it anyway.

Yes, good luck with that

No worries. OK, I hope they work well for you
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Yeah, that was strange. He first told me that he'd had a long-distance relationship with her and that it had ended ,and he'd suffered a lot from it/didn't want it to happen again, so didn't want anything more long-distance.

But yeah, he then told me he'd gotten over her, only to admit more recently that there were still some feelings there.

Yeah, he told my friend, his other friend, and his flatmate that he liked me!

I don't understand why he spent a couple of weeks talking to me online and stuff and telling people he liked me if he knew he didn't want a relationship?

It could be that yeah; the very first time we slept together, he was drunk, but he kept saying how 'unfit he was' compared to me ,how I was 'much sexier' than him etc.. and he seemed quite insecure in that sense.

Oh, the moving away thing was something he'd wanted to do for a while, before he'd ever met me, apparently.

Yeah, that's right. He would have had to make a 45-minute train journey, but yeah maybe he thought that something would happen between us, and he didn't think it'd be a good idea given all the history, which I agree with.

Thank you, yes hopefully they will

Yeah, like I said before, it might be because of confusion of hus emotions. Ohh OK, wel the insecurity is another reason combined with everything else as to why he might not want to be with you any longer. Ohh I see. Well I hope you manage to find a way to take it off your mind for a bit and have a great day

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Thank you I will yes, I will eventually get over him and accept that we will never be together... not talking to him/about him with friends is already helping !

It was his birthday, so I caved in and message him, and now he's said some stuff which has really confused me.

So first of all he made a flirtatious comment about my body. Then later in the conversation, he told me he had something to ask me, but wasn't sure if it was a good idea. I asked what it was, and he asked me if i'd slept with anybody else since him. I told him, no, why? And he said he just wanted to know, and told me he hadn't either.
then he started to talk about when we used to have sex, and said he'd been really turned on thinking about it, as well as the conversations we had, and asked if I wanted to do that again.
Then he said he was really sorry, he shouldn't have said that; it was really stupid of him. etc.

Wow, why is he so confusing, lol

It was his birthday, so I caved in and message him, and now he's said some stuff which has really confused me.

So first of all he made a flirtatious comment about my body. Then later in the conversation, he told me he had something to ask me, but wasn't sure if it was a good idea. I asked what it was, and he asked me if i'd slept with anybody else since him. I told him, no, why? And he said he just wanted to know, and told me he hadn't either.
then he started to talk about when we used to have sex, and said he'd been really turned on thinking about it, as well as the conversations we had, and asked if I wanted to do that again.
Then he said he was really sorry, he shouldn't have said that; it was really stupid of him. etc.

Wow, why is he so confusing, lol

the cynical side of me is thinking maybe he just wants sex again