Not everyone going to uni has a supportive family

I'm now 40, and even now, without kids, finances wanted my parents financial details! 😳😳. Thankfully, with 3 kids, I'm sorted 😂.

Damn you're extra lucky for being Scottish you can literally do as many degrees as you want; all for free!

What did your mum want you to do? Lemme guess: it's starts with an M and ends with an E? 🎣

Lucky I live in Scotland so I don't have to pay for anything financially towards university tuitions, however, my mum doesnt like the degree course that I want to do at all as she wanted me to do a course that I didn't really see myself doing. It can be quite hard because I just want her to be happy but I don't think she wont be. However, I'm doing this degree for myself and nobody else, as much as I want my mum to be happy I have to think about my own happiness too. It sucks.

I do feel for people who can't get financial support. My parents are on low income so can't help even if they wanted to, but while the emotional support is there from my dad, it's absent from my mother. I overheard her the other day saying she prays I miss my firm university offer. This hurt so much, especially when that particular university is one I have been working really hard to get to in the past two years.

My parents really want me to go to university in London so I can stay at home and commute. But I honestly don't and I've been told that if I leave, I'm completely on my own, which is fair enough as far as it goes because I know what they're like with me wanting to go to Bristol/Nottingham for uni. What irritates me the most is that they're willing to fund my brother just because he wants to do a Science degree at university and I want to do an Arts. I remember when we went on an open day to Bristol my mum said to me, "Why do you want to move away just for an Arts degree? It's completely worthless. I'd rather fund your brother because at least his degree is worth moving away for."

They're completely insensitive about what I feel so I've decided that I'll rely on my student loans and work part time to keep going.

Well, your parents are a waste of your time. It's not them going to live your life. You do you-the self supporting will make you much more capable for when you graduate

Just wanted to make a forum/post to people like me, who may be looking at forums and advice documents where it just assumes that your parents are 100% behind you.
You're not alone in not having parents who won't give you a penny towards your studies/living and who didn't ask how any of your exams went.
It can be difficult seeing "and you'll visit for Christmas" because I know that I won't and others may be in the same position too.

Hey guys! Please make yourself known, because I am sure that I am not alone

It's just that STEM supremacy kind of thing. My dad's accepted I want to do English/History at uni then do a Masters/phD or go into Animal rights law. My mum wants me to jump into Law straight away just so she can boast to everyone how there's a lawyer in her family. But yeah I don't get the blatant double standards with me moving out.

Well they're snobs and snobs are the lowest of the low. There is far more respect in following your ambitions than blindly following the desires of someone who hasn't earned any respect themselves.

Come on now, you can't call somebody else's parents snobs, that's really disrespectful. The parents wanting you to do a good reputable degree will only act in your own good interests when you get a good job out of it.

I'm not advising that you forcefully do the degree your parents want you to, but don't just end up doing a degree that won't get you anywhere or a decent paying Job after you graduate, times are getting rough.

You know nothing of my position or background. If the truth hurts, that's fine. But we all know wallowing in self-pity instead of adopting a 'get up and go' attitude is the cancer here. Like I said, get a part-time job, become independent - maybe then your parent's will love and support you more.

If they are not supporting you, how are you coping with this, making sure you can still go to university and do well?

If I do get into my firm and earn a nice salary, I'm not giving her a single penny. She has given me zilch support throughout the whole process.

My dad deserves everything I earn though

I was under the impression that a lot of these "degrees" aren't worth the paper there written on. Whatever, keep funding those hedge funds with your poorly spent money and time at university. And say the actual word "university", it's not "uni".

Anybody here know about becoming an independent student?

I don't really want to see my parents as soon as I go to uni due to issues etc.

Wait.. What? You're angry that student grants have been stopped and you're taking your anger out on this forum? We could all be Cambridge students for all you know and that's your comment? Please. If you were in a position for a grant you wouldn't treat people who's parents won't finically support them like this