Not everyone going to uni has a supportive family

That's funny, because there are literally hundreds of universities poping up everywhere and anywhere. The institution that is the university has become a mass capitalised business and most of you are just fools, scammed out of a lot of money, money some of you will never see again. Unless you are doing a worthwhile degree, in a worthwhile "respected" university, don't bother and save your money.

I think this is where drive outstrips those people trying to hold you back. I don't know.. It's just hard sometimes doing everything alone, for yourself with no one to offer any sort of support when they're genetically programmed to

Just wanted to make a forum/post to people like me, who may be looking at forums and advice documents where it just assumes that your parents are 100% behind you.
You're not alone in not having parents who won't give you a penny towards your studies/living and who didn't ask how any of your exams went.
It can be difficult seeing "and you'll visit for Christmas" because I know that I won't and others may be in the same position too.

Hey guys! Please make yourself known, because I am sure that I am not alone

My mum isn't financially supporting me but I figure, why should she? She spent the first 18 years if my life supporting me. Now I'm an adult, it's my turn to shoulder the burden.

Because you're their daughter
I find it so shocking when parents are able to suddenly shirk responsibility after an arbitrary set of years.

It's like when a kid hits 18 and instead of celebrating, has to start paying rent. Even when their family doesn't even need the extra money

Sir.. You're assuming that to have unsupportive parents means that we are all doing fashion degrees at our local colleges. You're wrong in your assumption and I'm not sure what gives you the right to make such statements.

Because you're their daughter
I find it so shocking when parents are able to suddenly shirk responsibility after an arbitrary set of years.

It's like when a kid hits 18 and instead of celebrating, has to start paying rent. Even when their family doesn't even need the extra money

Hmm but my mum is not rich. She couldn't afford to put my brother and I through uni without incurring massive debt on herself. Up until this point, education has been both compulsory and free for me. Now, it is neither. It is my choice to continue with it, so I feel that I should pay.

That's fine imo, I thought they just didn't want to pay because you were 18 and wasn't their problem anymore

I'll share my story, even though it was many years ago..

My parents divorced right in middle of my A'levels, I lived with my mum who did not support me a single bit. During revision she would shout up "quick, quick, come here, quick" when I went down, she would say "make me a cup of tea" 😡. My boyfriend would testify to this..we lived in a small village in nowhere so I had no chance to go elsewhere to study.
My mum just wanted me to get a job and give her money.
Anyway, I failed my A'levels, came out with 3 U grades, school were no help at all, parents didn't give a damn, as long as I was now able to get a job to give them money...
My boyfriends parents took me in for a few months, I managed to get into Uni to do an HND. I moved out of home and when I went back over summer, I went to my boyfriends parents.
I left uni, got a full time job, bought a house, then went back to uni for 2years and got my degree from Lancaster. And the mortgage was only £149 per month!!
Anyway, long story short, it was a nightmare trying to get funding for uni because while I was independent, they still needed my parents income details because we were not legally irrovocably estranged, and I was under 25. Obviously they refused to disclose, so I basically lived on student loans only. I went to the same uni as my boyfriend so he moved in my house and we both lived VERY cheap through uni. (He did a PhD).
23 years and 3 kids later, we're still together, my in laws I class as my surrogate parents 😂, and I ask NOTHING from my parents.
The best bit was, my mum really wanted to come to my HND graduation, I let her, and then it turned out she didn't even see me..she was infatuated with another girl who graduated same uni and day as me, that she used to work with, and didn't give a fudge about her! 😳😡
My degree graduation, my in-laws came along, and to watch ME. 🙂

I know times are different now, so it is harder to be more independent through uni with housing etc.. But there's always a light at the end of the tunnel.
I sat my A'levels in 1994, Graduated Lancaster 2001, and going to Uni again in September for a career change! I'm now 40, and even now, without kids, finances wanted my parents financial details! 😳😳. Thankfully, with 3 kids, I'm sorted 😂.

I don't think my parents will be quite as bad as you put it but they definitely will not be supporting me financially. I get the least student finance and it only just covers my accommodation so I can see us falling out at some point during university over money.

My parents really want me to go to university in London so I can stay at home and commute. But I honestly don't and I've been told that if I leave, I'm completely on my own, which is fair enough as far as it goes because I know what they're like with me wanting to go to Bristol/Nottingham for uni. What irritates me the most is that they're willing to fund my brother just because he wants to do a Science degree at university and I want to do an Arts. I remember when we went on an open day to Bristol my mum said to me, "Why do you want to move away just for an Arts degree? It's completely worthless. I'd rather fund your brother because at least his degree is worth moving away for."

They're completely insensitive about what I feel so I've decided that I'll rely on my student loans and work part time to keep going.

Come on now, you can't call somebody else's parents snobs, that's really disrespectful. The parents wanting you to do a good reputable degree will only act in your own good interests when you get a good job out of it.

I'm not advising that you forcefully do the degree your parents want you to, but don't just end up doing a degree that won't get you anywhere or a decent paying Job after you graduate, times are getting rough.

No it's not fair enough. You should not sell yourself so short! An ultimatum NEVER works out well. It's just stupid. And a parent shouldn't say "it's our way or no way". That is ridiculous and horrible, in my opinion.

Keep doing what you're doing and you'll reap the rewards. What degree will you be studying?

Well they're snobs and snobs are the lowest of the low. There is far more respect in following your ambitions than blindly following the desires of someone who hasn't earned any respect themselves.

Come on now, you can't call somebody else's parents snobs, that's really disrespectful. The parents wanting you to do a good reputable degree will only act in your own good interests when you get a good job out of it.

I'm not advising that you forcefully do the degree your parents want you to, but don't just end up doing a degree that won't get you anywhere or a decent paying Job after you graduate, times are getting rough.