This is a tricky post to write, but I guess I just need advice about someone who suffers from bad bipolar (and I have known him for over a year and thought about dating him for a long time)
Basically I met a guy (let's call him Aaron) at uni and we got on really well, but it turned out that he had a girlfriend (Sophie), which I only discovered after searching his facebook. He was quite flirty and we met up a lot, but he never mentioned his girlfriend, although personally I was happy being friends. One night we met up and he confessed that he had cheated on most of his ex girlfriends. About two weeks later Aaron cheated on his girlfriend with me. A few days later he broke up with her, and then confessed to me that he suffered from bipolar. We were seeing each other for a while (probably a mistake)... it later came out that Aaron had then slept with Sophie whilst seeing me. I was obviously incredibly angry and upset and didn't talk to Aaron for ages, but then I found out he had gone into a depressive mode and tried to kill himself through guilt.
I was still angry, and eventually we did meet up over summer, and ended up seeing each other again. After feeling very overwhelmed by everything (partially the fact that I had failed a module in second year) I was a pretty awful person, and stopped meeting him quite suddenly. I regret that. In this time he ended up in a safe house too, it was horrible. I was struggling with my own mental health too and was on anti depressants.
I went on my year abroad, and we didn't see each other until Christmas, and he shortly after used the L bomb, and asked me to be his girlfriend. I rejected him due to the circumstances, despite liking him a lot. We both ended up doing some awful and embarrassing drunk texts, and he's just come to visit me on my year abroad and it was all back to how we once were, and it's safe to say that I would consider a relationship with him upon my return.
The thing that will get me though is when Aaron said he'd cheated on a lot of his exes, that he cheated on Sophie with me and that he slept with Sophie whilst seeing me. Has anyone got any advice, becasue I am pretty sure it's due to the bipolar and that he does feel a lot of remorse after? Has anyone got any experience? I was thinking of meeting him and going somewhere nice and quiet with no phone signal where we can just talk, and discuss the possibility of a relationship. I'm just a bit scared of the cheating thing and I mean, I've forgiven him for the last time, but it's still hard.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I've done a lot of research but it's still hard to figure it out, because I do like him a lot really.