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Could someone please rate my tinder for me?/Am I unattractive?

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Original post by Prince of Punani
Some girls genuinely want casual sex, so it makes sense to filter out those who don't. I do agree that pic isn't as breathtakingly beautiful as a lot of guys think, but the point still remains.



Even if I wanted casual sex I'd still swipe left :redface:

I just don't see the appeal.
Original post by Profesh
Your profile is witty, but several of those photographs are virtually interchangeable—a fatal error given how little time one has to impress one's target-audience—and the last makes you look about fifteen.

Keep the first, second, fifth and sixth; but try to tell a story with the others.


i dont have many photos of myself and i don't think selfies are a good idea
Original post by Profesh
Your profile is witty, but several of those photographs are virtually interchangeable—a fatal error given how little time one has to impress one's target-audience—and the last makes you look about fifteen.

Keep the first, second, fifth and sixth; but try to tell a story with the others.


I found this post refreshing, I feel a lot of people on TSR would have you write an essay and add a scrapbook of your life, as if it's your UCAS application.
Original post by markova21
I think your photos , apart from the one with the three of you are fine. They could perhaps be brighter though, but your face is visible enough. Perhaps if you describe yourself a little bit more? For an example you could say something like; Male student 21 , 5FT 11 In tall, Medium build, based in Luton. Great sense of humour. Enjoys music, especially making /playing my own, horror films, rainy days and Chinese food. Would love to hear from a slim, dark haired female with similar interests. That way people reading it will straight away know if your criteria meets theirs and vice versa.


do girls genuinely want this much detail? I always assumed the best way was to have something funny in your bio which told a little bit about yourself. What you have described makes me think it leaves nothing to the imagination and takes away a lot of the "mystery" that girls apparently like.
Original post by Prince of Punani
I found this post refreshing, I feel a lot of people on TSR would have you write an essay and add a scrapbook of your life, as if it's your UCAS application.


see my response above, too much detail right?
Original post by Twinpeaks
Even if I wanted casual sex I'd still swipe left :redface:

I just don't see the appeal.


I agree that it seems mind-numbing and tryhard, but there are definitely girls that sort of thing would appeal to, of course maybe there is an issue of social class at play here.
Original post by VladThe1mpaler
see my response above, too much detail right?


Don't try to be too goofy/funny, 2-3 lines is fine most people cba to read more
You look fine to me bud. If anything, it's the quality of your pics.

1st is good if the light on your face wasn't so strong. You might be able to tone it down with Photoshop.
2nd is fine, I'd include your friend though just to enhance the "social" aspect of the photo.
3rd you've got a streak of darkness across your face. Get rid.
4th is crap.
5th is too dark. Get a better picture of you playing guitar.
6th is fine, maybe reduce brightness a bit.
7th (how can you have a seventh on Tinder?) is not very good quality, get rid.

Tinder you have to impress, so set yourself apart...get a decent camera...and take some good quality snaps. Not a 100% fix, I had really good quality photos of me, but it'll set you on your way! :smile:
Original post by VladThe1mpaler
do girls genuinely want this much detail? I always assumed the best way was to have something funny in your bio which told a little bit about yourself. What you have described makes me think it leaves nothing to the imagination and takes away a lot of the "mystery" that girls apparently like.


Do girls like mystery? [And i'm a 48 year old female]. I personally like plenty of info so I can pick out potential dates from the offset. There must be nothing worse going on a date with someone you know nothing about and it turns out you have nothing in common with them. Your height. I would say it is very important to know. My sister is 5ft 1. She met up with someone on a date. He was 6ft 7 inches tall ! She said she never felt so self conscious walking out of the bar with someone in all her life. If you vote Conservative and she spends her spare Saturday afternoons selling copies of Socialist Worker chances are you're not going to hit it off. If you had already advertised a little bit about yourself, the people replying to you are mostly going to be people who like what interests you have, maybe because they have the same ones themselves.
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Reply 49
Original post by VladThe1mpaler
I'm ready for the brutal honesty.

Basically, I met my most recent girlfriend on tinder and we broke up fairly recently. Now I've got Tinder back again and I really want to meet someone new

It's been 6 months since i last used it but i could remember my profile and I feel these new pictures are much better than the last ones. However, i have had the app back for a couple of days now and had only a couple of matches. I'm sure I had more matches than this by now so I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong.

These are my pictures in this order:

https://imgur.com/a/2oSZD

My bio reads:

"wannabe singer/songwriter pursuing a solo career. Willing to learn the 3 chords of Wonderwall for someone who is worth that kind of effort. Looking for someone to make my two-person halloween costumes a reality"

Basically i would just like brutal honesty on my pictures/attractiveness and my bio to try and see how I can get more matches.

Don't be shy, I have thick skin!


the bio to me seems abit desperate
ok i've edited them/updated the album now

keep in mind that if the issue is the bluriness of the pics then they do not look like this on my iphone screen

the new picture i dont really like (the fountain one) but its the only other ok pic i have and it got a decent amount of likes on facebook at the time i was tagged in it (also i edited the brightness of the guitar one and it looks much better but i haven't uploaded it here for some reason)
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Reply 51
I'm not your target audience but you come across like the stereotype Kingsley from Fresh Meat is based on.
No offence but it seems like you've carefully created your bio to match some kind of cheesy teenage romantic comedy
However, if you only ever get one match, it would be the sort of girl that goes for that kind of thing (aka the girl you want to attract I assume) however, they don't seem like your stereotypical tinder user.
I can't see your pictures but I'm sure it's just an insecurity issue more than anything, remember confidence is key! and your bio is funny which is a good way to go, just keep trying :smile:
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Original post by MJ1012
I'm not your target audience but you come across like the stereotype Kingsley from Fresh Meat is based on.
No offence but it seems like you've carefully created your bio to match some kind of cheesy teenage romantic comedy
However, if you only ever get one match, it would be the sort of girl that goes for that kind of thing (aka the girl you want to attract I assume) however, they don't seem like your stereotypical tinder user.


ok that's bad, i'm definitely changing the bio
Reply 54
yeah don't fret, you may not be a 10 but then realistically a 10 is equally looking for a female 10

i don't wanna rate you cos thats harsh but you're average (sorry) with a cute side to you. but then so are most people so its no big deal. fact is you'll still get messages from women who find you appealing enough. so don't expect hundreds of messages but that doesn't mean you should give up either. as a guy you should make the first move anyways and always write to the girl you find appealing, if shes interested she'll message back, if she doesn't it means its a no. dunno why everyone wants thousands of replys, we all just need one person in the end lol

as the saying goes 'plenty more fish in the sea' for every 10 girls who isn't interested there will be 1 who is.

p.s you bio is fine and shouldn't be changed because your words are a representation of who you are. sadly most people don't even read the bio anyways and just go straight to pics...
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So many guys (not saying you personally) out there who are good looking but don't have that "edge", girls like an edge, a bit of the "rough and ready" or a jack the lad. I bet Danny Dyer has no problem getting laid.
Reply 56
Original post by VladThe1mpaler
ok that's bad, i'm definitely changing the bio


Was it the Fresh meat or romantic comedy?
Original post by Danny the Geezer
So many guys (not saying you personally) out there who are good looking but don't have that "edge", girls like an edge, a bit of the "rough and ready" or a jack the lad. I bet Danny Dyer has no problem getting laid.


What a LAD
Tell them you have PhD in woman's studies and work as a gynecologist
Reply 59
2/10

You have a really unmasculine face.

I feel queasy looking at you.

EDIT: I just looked again I felt like screaming.

You need to radically improve your diet for your face to mature. You look like a young boy on and old boy's body. Sorry bro.
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