Your Life

Do you ever wish you could completely change your life? I feel like I am standing on a rotten floor or tree stump. People want to get the good but nobody cares to help you fix/change your base. I don't want or need ANYthing else. In fact if you're not smiling, being nice or performing, nobody will even acknowledge you or help you, which means you have to live your fake life. You could live your whole life like this even when you know better. Because the alternative is just being stepped on or being abused. When some people see you have real needs, they take advantage instead of helping. So even though you are perfectly capable, you are doomed because someone allocated you a rotten floor/tree stump? In this case, the stump is your family of sorts or the relationship they have with you. To make you angrier, people can withdraw help at any time without addressing the real cause of your problems. They are on a high horse because they say they are "helping" but they can see your disadvantages. What is the way out of this hole? And if you ever came out, how would you know who is really worth keeping in life/who your real friends are? Would you have any or are all just takers?

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

And finally, even if you do try to dig yourself out, people just attempt to stop you and can be quite bad. This also lasts a while so it's not done that fast. Most people only help for their own selfish reasons. So how do you get yourself out, how is it possible to find real support for this? How do you know who to trust, too?

Reply 2

It's****ingWOODY

There are certainly things I'd love to change about my life that I can't really help. However - and I don't know you, so I can't judge you as a person - but I get the vibe from your post that you're quite reliant on other people, emotionally and practically. That's where we differ, I'm very self-reliant. If I'm feeling down about something then I never feel like turning to other people for help unless I absolutely have to, the vast majority of the time I either sit and think how I can solve the problem on my own, or if it's not something that can really be solved then I'll just mope about it for a while but keep out of everyone's way.

Reply 3

Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous

The vibe I am getting from your post is you may have depression or some other mental health issue. I think you should ring MIND, they'll be able to help you

Reply 4

Ciel.

Original post by Anonymous

you've some messed up friends/familyy geez

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

Original post by Anonymous

The vibe I am getting from your post is you may have depression or some other mental health issue. I think you should ring MIND, they'll be able to help you

Why do you think I have a mental health issue?

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

Original post by Ciel.

you've some messed up friends/familyy geez

I have to be honest. Sometimes I think some "friends" secretly cannot wait to take me down and pretend to be friends to gain trust so then they can use this. They take advantage to no end. I find plenty nauseating ... I feel like nobody told me how badly I was left in the world, they are all just actors. Is this possible? I think it is. I just want to know what the best thing to do now is.

Reply 7

shawn_o1

You're paranoid, you think everyone's out to get you (for their own gain according to you).
Or, you're avoidant, like me. You are told to socialise with others but never do. Or, when you feel you're forced to "integrate" with others, you'll do things that intentionally shape the opinion of other people such that you'll be left alone because that's what you wanted in the first place.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

Original post by Anonymous

In fact, I think some collect information they can get and want to get something out of it.
Shawn, I don't believe in avoidant etc. but in any case, I am not, I am just surrounded with interesting cases. And it doesn't help my case that I essentially don't have a family or someone who is there for me, then I doubt things more ...