My parents are adamant on stopping me from going to university

Is there an actual rationale for your mum's attitude toward this? Does she actually have the idea that you are not as smart as your sisters?

Is it that she generally favours them in other areas?

You're right - it is your life, and you kind of should make your own decisions, but it is a super high risk strategy going to uni without support.

Hi, yes she does. I did not do as well as they did in college. She also favours them and everything they do. It's always been different with me. I have many good and loyal friends, my grandmother and my boyfriend who pledged to support me no matter what.

Ok. Well good luck to you.

What I would say is - don't get too carried away with a lot of people on forums giving it the Oprah Winfrey "You go girl". It's not as simple as that. You're relatively young and basically about to have a major confrontation with your parents that might never end. I'm not saying you're not right, but just bear that in mind. I would say no matter what, try to stay calm and don't fight with them - just tell them you're living your own life and even if it goes wrong, you got to make your own mistakes, rather than never knowing.

In general - pardon me for asking - but is there any sense in which your mum might be right? Are you a bit of a ropey student, academics wise? What are you going to be reading at university, and is there a plan afterwards?

Parents sometimes have favourites and there's nothing you can do about that. My brother can basically do no wrong and has been the Prodigal Son on several occasions.

Hi all,

I'm new to this forum so hey! I'm 23 years old and will starting university in North Wales this september.

Sadly, I didn't get a "well done" or "I'm proud of you" from my mum. Instead, she said "You can't do it, you will struggle because you struggled in college. You will go and waste all your money and will regret it. I don't think you should go." Thanks, *mum*. This has really upset me, I just can't understand why she can't support my decision. She then has the cheek to say "OH IVE ALWAYS SUPPORTED YOU" No, she really hasn't. She's forced me to work rubbish jobs ever since I left college, jobs I would call her up in tears about because I was treated so poorly. I was never offered a hug or support, just a "oh well keep doing it".



Back to university, my sisters are studying and my mum is totally okay with that, so why does that change when it comes to me? She actually said that I can't do it. I'm a very responsible person and very mature. I'm not an idiot. The only people in my family supporting my decision is my middle sister and my grandmother. I'm just so upset, but I am not backing down. This is my life and this is what I want to do but it's just so upsetting.

Have any of you ever been in this kind of situation? How did you handle it? What was the outcome?

Thanks all x

EDIT: My step father is yet to come home and learn about my plans, and then bash me for it.