Boyfriend shoved me

I felt a bit sick after A. he shoved you into a wall and B. he took your car.

On second thought I would not take any risks. Have a friend or family member there to protect if you necessary and/or call the police - I think he can be arrested for doing both of those things and maybe that's worth doing.

Thank you all for your advice.
He came back with flowers as if that would help.
He asked me if I'm breaking up with him and I told him I wanted some space for now and we'll decide later. He cried, but it was all pathetic to me. I should be the one crying. Then he left.

I'm on my way to carnival now so at least I'll experience some enjoyment. I've blocked his number for now because I know he would be non stop calling/texting

Thank you all for your advice.
He came back with flowers as if that would help.
He asked me if I'm breaking up with him and I told him I wanted some space for now and we'll decide later. He cried, but it was all pathetic to me. I should be the one crying. Then he left.

I'm on my way to carnival now so at least I'll experience some enjoyment. I've blocked his number for now because I know he would be non stop calling/texting

It seems like he's scared of losing you and doesn't know how to handle it. Perhaps he thought you'd be going to the carnival with your ex?

You should talk to him first and find out, running away from the problem won't do any good especially when you already invested quite a lot of time into the relationship.

assault and battery is a criminal offence. taking and driving away a car without permission is also a felony.

call the cops.

He probably did think I was going to the carnival with my ex, either that or he thought I'd be flirting with guys.

I will probably end up properly discussing it with him, I'm just not ready to do it yet. I can't even stand to be in the same room as him. My parents love him and always say how lucky I am to have found someone who treats me right, that makes this whole thing so much more difficult

It doesn't matter whether he intended to injure her or not. Wasn't a man jailed for Manslaughter recently for punching his mate while on holiday and the one punch instantly killed him? He never intended to kill him. It was just one punch. But his action resulted in his friend's death. He is completely responsible.

It seems like he's scared of losing you and doesn't know how to handle it. Perhaps he thought you'd be going to the carnival with your ex?

You should talk to him first and find out, running away from the problem won't do any good especially when you already invested quite a lot of time into the relationship.

You've indirectly shown that intentions do actually matter as if he had intended to kill his friend he would be in jail for murder right now, instead of manslaughter. Manslaughter is a lessor punishment given to perpetrators who did not intend to kill their victim.

Had the OP written that her bf grabbed her by the neck and slammed her head into a wall and she hurt her head I would probably be saying that she should terminate the relationship, ...

however because he did not intend to hurt her ... i personally think she should perhaps give him one more chance.

My boyfriend of almost 3 years saw a text from an old boyfriend on my phone a few days ago and he got really angry. I tried to explain that it was innocent, but he wasn't having it. Anyway, for those of you who don't know, carnival is today and I planned to go with a friend. I was going to go with my boyfriend but he has work. Anyway, he's staying with me at my house and as I was getting ready, he decided that he's not comfortable with me going anymore especially since he wouldn't be there with me. I told him that I'm going anyway and he took my car keys. I tried to take them from him and we were sort of wrestling for it. I grabbed them from him and he shoved me against a wall and I hit my head. He then took the keys from me again. I told him to get out of my house. He did so, and he took my car with him. This all happened only a couple of hours ago. Since then, he's called me numerous times apologising but I'm still so shocked. I told him to bring my car back and he's on his way.

This has never happened before, he's never laid a finger on me and now I'm fearful that he'll get more violent over time. I don't even know what to say to him when he gets here. What should I do?

My boyfriend of almost 3 years saw a text from an old boyfriend on my phone a few days ago and he got really angry. I tried to explain that it was innocent, but he wasn't having it. Anyway, for those of you who don't know, carnival is today and I planned to go with a friend. I was going to go with my boyfriend but he has work. Anyway, he's staying with me at my house and as I was getting ready, he decided that he's not comfortable with me going anymore especially since he wouldn't be there with me. I told him that I'm going anyway and he took my car keys. I tried to take them from him and we were sort of wrestling for it. I grabbed them from him and he shoved me against a wall and I hit my head. He then took the keys from me again. I told him to get out of my house. He did so, and he took my car with him. This all happened only a couple of hours ago. Since then, he's called me numerous times apologising but I'm still so shocked. I told him to bring my car back and he's on his way.

This has never happened before, he's never laid a finger on me and now I'm fearful that he'll get more violent over time. I don't even know what to say to him when he gets here. What should I do?

Hi,

First, sorry that this happened to you.

I disagree with some posts about you dumping your boyfriend. He has been your boyfriend for 3 long years. If it was a pattern of violent behaviour from his side, then it makes sense to quit the relationship. However, from what you have written, it appears to be a one-off which should not warrant an overreaction in my opinion. Yes, taking your car is a stupid move on his part, but it does not mean that you should dump him.

You know him better than other posters on TSR, so you should decide whether he was just too emotional to control his behaviour. You said that there was a text message from your ex-boyfriend, have you deleted the text(s) and cut off any ties to your ex?

No sane man will be cool with his woman having texts of ex-boyfriends on their phone. It is also the same with women.. If it was you, how would you have reacted to seeing texts from his ex-girlfriends on his phone? Would you have been upset or brush it aside like it means nothing?

Now, I am in no way defending your boyfriend's actions but I am trying to reason with you before you make a mistake and regret later.

My advice is that you have a discussion with him and tell him NEVER to do that again. You make your demands clear and ensure that he agrees to boundaries. if he agrees, then you carefully continue with him; if not, then you part ways.

We need to calm down and make amends rather than looking for the next person, when something happens.

Couples fight and argue, but they make up. That is what differentiates young love from grown up relationships.

In the end, it is your decision, but think carefully before throwing 3 years away.

Good luck.