Did I do the right thing by saying no

You said you think she likes you? Did she ask you out?
There's a saying that opposites attract i have met people where we are completely different but we have a lot of chemistry and get on well. Like others have said you should have at least gave it a shot.
If she cares about your friendship she will come around think she needs time and space to herself to think but you dont need to apologise.

There are different ways and levels of subtelty in mending fences. Id prefer to get it sorted out sooner rather than later. How do you know she will come around? its not a question of their friendship and its not a given.

Its fine though OP you be as hardnosed or as patient as you want. You might be waiting a long time if you say nothing and rely on being hopeful. I alwats prefer to talk to people as communication tends to work better.

In short, No.

I would try and get her back if I were you my man.

Kolia

I do want this to be sorted but at the same time I don't just want to lick her wounds. I am a unsure


Thanks mate

Yeah she asked me out, and we went for a movie. I liked it but when I looked at the bigger picture, I came to the conclusion that I want her to be happy and I thought, still do a bit, that she won't be happy with me.

I do feel that you are happy with being her friend more and she is probably sad and feeling awkward i know it will be hard for her to try and go back to being friends so give her space and reach out in a few weeks time or she might reach out herself. Like someone said maybe do something for her get her a gift or something that shows you still care about her don't give her a card or an apology.

Notting Hill based answer:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uJPI1qu9bE4

Thank you. I think I will try and speak to her in a few weeks time. But right now I don't think she wants anything to do with em. She ignored me today on school, didn't even say a hi.

You say she is the love of your life so why not let her decide if she will be happy with you. Yes you are different but you both could help each other to experience different things whats so good about having someone who likes everything you do it will get boring. If you want to stay in she might want to stay in too at times if she loves you she will do anything to make you happy and vice versa.
Atleast try and explain how you feel she could understand but that is my opinion what you do is up to you, what exactly did you say to her when you told her no?

Well I am in therapy and I kinda used that as an excuse. I explained the condition I have got and how it makes me anxious about a relationship. Now you'd be wondering what made me change my mind now. Although my condition was a reason as well, the main reason was always the fact that we are different and I thought she won't be happy with me.

So you didnt tell her you liked her back? would you be happy with her being with someone else? will you have no regrets when you look back?

I did say I liked her but she might've took it as me just being kind. Would I be happy if she goes out with someone else? well if she is happy then I am happy. I guess that's what liking someone is, always seeing them happy. Regrets, yes I do regret it and I think I always will.
By the way, I really appreciate you helping me out here, thank you