feeling sad at uni :(

You could always skype/facetime her every night if you miss her.

As a father myself I can safely say we never get bored of talking to our kids!!

my parents dropped me off at uni yesterday and I cried when they left, then I cried some more later on and today, I want to call my mum but I'm afraid I'm gonna start crying and I'm crying while typing this. my dad called me earlier to check up on me and I nearly started crying. I don't have the best mental health so I'm worried I'll be like this throughout the entire year I've always wanted to move out but a couple months ago I started to have doubts as to whether I should, my mum is all alone as my dad is usually st work and she gets depressed often and now I've left her
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my parents dropped me off at uni yesterday and I cried when they left, then I cried some more later on and today, I want to call my mum but I'm afraid I'm gonna start crying and I'm crying while typing this. my dad called me earlier to check up on me and I nearly started crying. I don't have the best mental health so I'm worried I'll be like this throughout the entire year I've always wanted to move out but a couple months ago I started to have doubts as to whether I should, my mum is all alone as my dad is usually st work and she gets depressed often and now I've left her


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Hey it'll be fine, I guarantee you the majority of people starting uni feel like this or just down in general. It's perfectly normal, you're starting something new and foreign and you don't have the safety blanket of your parents around you or the familiarity of home. Does your uni have any freshers events or mingles you can go to? Personally for me the freshers fortnight really helped me not feel homesick as it keeps you busy and talking to lots of different people, so the feelings of missing home and sadness get tucked away. I'd also recommend you phone your unis night line, it's anonymous and the callers are supportive and for the most part experienced. Believe me you're not the first or last to be crying and upset because you've moved away from home and started uni, they'll be so understanding and just having someone there to listen to will feel invaluable.
I wouldn't recommend going back home yet as I think it will exacerbate your home sickness, so it's best to stay away for a month or so at least. If calling your parents is making you sadder, you could always text them instead everyday until you feel a bit better. I promise you though eventually you will feel more comfortable and less sad as you settle into uni and establish your own routine. Talk to people, keep an open mind and don't write anyone off based on first impressions and be friendly to everyone and you'll be making friends very quickly. But you will feel better eventually, it just takes time

Poor you I'm so sorry you're feeling like that. I cried as soon as my Mum and sister left in my first year too. And I think I cried a few times when they rang me up. Uni was an emotional roller coaster for me, the best and worst time of my life. There's probably some year-old threads from me on this forum, talking about how terrible my life is. My mental health wasn't great at uni either.

You're not on your own though, a lot of people get homesick. The best cures are time, and being busy. You're only on day 2, by week 2 I guarantee you'll be finding it easier.

Try try try to socialise. Just go to anything where you might meet other students with similar interests, whether it's clubbing or a society, your uni will have the full range of events from full on parties to calm sit-down chat and have a coffee. It's easier said than done but it will help so much. Also if you know anyone at uni, even vaguely, ask if they want to meet up. I went for a coffee on day 2 with someone from my old college and it made me feel a lot better.

If I can help at all, if you just want to chat feel free to drop me a message. I remember being homesick was quite isolating for me and I'd hate for someone else to feel like that. Also what the previous poster said about Nightline is very true - it is a great service and your uni will have one. I actually volunteered for mine, and they were a lovely group of people, this helped with my homesickness a lot!!

Basically though - it will get easier!

It's better to cry and let people know rather than keep it bottled up, it'll do you more harm than good. I'm sure your family will be supportive. It'll take time to adapt, you'll have to go through something similar when you get older, so this will be practise plus you can always visit when you feel like you need to see them.

that's true, I really do want to visit them right now but I will wait until Thursday


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That's the spirit! Until then you can video-call them or you can write how you're feeling down into a diary. Then talk about it with your family.

I said this earlier but I really want to call my mum but I'm afraid I'll start crying I'm just gonna try get through the next few days


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am i the only one itching to leave? is something wrong with me?
awhhhh but im sure you'll be fine, call them once a week and try not to visit every weekend or it will make you feel homesick. Just take care of yourself and as soon as you find a lil group of friends you'll feel much better

I did read that but I do think it would be better to cry rather than keep in it but it's understandable where you are coming from. It's easier said than done

I found it really hard in my first few weeks at uni. On the first few days I'd just cry walking home because I felt so scared and lonely (shout out to the lovely police man who smiled at me and told me things would be okay!). I told myself to give it a week and if I still felt that way then I would go to student support, and then after another two weeks if I still felt like that then I would think about leaving.

Later in my first week I went out with one of my new friends to a museum after a lecture and I had the best time with her and her now-boyfriend. I completely forgot about feeling lonely. We became really close friends after that and, although I still felt lonely and sad at times, I was okay. Going to the museum was completely spontaneous and I almost said no because I just wanted to go back to my room and cry, but I said yes because I knew I had to make more of an effort.

Almost everyone feels upset and lonely in the first few weeks, but give in a week or so and I'm sure you will start to feel better. I don't know anyone who went to uni and was completely fine and happy about it (even if they were right up until their parents/partner left!). Don't go home every weekend, but it might make you feel better to plan the next time you're coming home and then make a countdown to that. I made a countdown with sticky notes and I peeled one off each week, it helped me a lot

You aren't alone. You will be okay.
(Feel free to PM me if you need to rant)

my parents dropped me off at uni yesterday and I cried when they left, then I cried some more later on and today, I want to call my mum but I'm afraid I'm gonna start crying and I'm crying while typing this. my dad called me earlier to check up on me and I nearly started crying. I don't have the best mental health so I'm worried I'll be like this throughout the entire year I've always wanted to move out but a couple months ago I started to have doubts as to whether I should, my mum is all alone as my dad is usually st work and she gets depressed often and now I've left her


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thank you I really hope I do find some nice friends, I'm not really sure if my flat mates are my type :/


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That's why boarding schools suggest parents don't make contact with new boarders for the first week and they keep the kids so distracted they don't have time to think about contacting home. Tough out the first week, thinking about the long term advantages of uni, and you and your Mum will establish the best sort of contact and communication, whether it's setting up a weekly Skype or texting every day or whatever.

The best thing you can do is throw yourself into Uni life and make sure, when you phone your mum after the first week, you can fill the call full of all the interesting and exciting things you have been doing. I'm sure she will feel better if she knows you are having fun, than if she thinks you are sitting in your room crying.

Remember that lots of the people around you are feeling the same way, they are just toughing out the first week and putting on a show. But if you do that, and join in, you'll find your feet and start enjoying uni.