Haven't done anything romantically with a girl yet....

hi everybody,

So i am 16 years old and embarrassingly I haven't gone on a date, complimented a girl (romantically) and never had a girlfriend. I dont know what to do...

I look older than my age and whenever I do want to compliment a girl I usually get things like "creep" and stuff like that which really depresses me :c

With that i'm also quite a shy person and my school is really small, like 8 ppl per class so yeah.

What can I do to be more "out there" as I really want to be in a relationship, so I can be happy with myself and know that someone out there cares and loves me.

Thanks,

Reply 1

neriine

Original post by ZERØ

What can I do to be more "out there" as I really want to be in a relationship, so I can be happy with myself and know that someone out there cares and loves me.

If you're trying to get into a relationship just so someone cares about you, you're going about it backwards! Focus on yourself and how you can make yourself happy. Maybe join some clubs of things that YOU like to do - that way you'll be enjoying yourself and meeting new girls who you already share an interest with!

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Reply 2

Pedrex

Wow your like my twin! Everything you said is the same as me accept i haven't tried complimenting a girl though, im too nervous i guess!. Mate you don't need to worry about it, give it time and don't act like your desperate in front of a girl. Act yourself and a girl will like you :smile:

i know how you feel so your not alone. I don't really have much advice im afraid, as im in the same position as you, im really sorry to let you down.

If you want you can pm me and we can talk etc don't need too though, just thought as we are basically the same it'll be good to talk

Reply 3

username2834970

I'm in the same position, 16 and still no experiences of the romantic kind and generally withdrawn. It kind of sucks, but I want to change too. I've come to the conclusion that I'll let it just happen and I'll go at my own pace, but I'm pretty sure you can reach the same place proactively.

Take care of yourself, people do first impressions and it sucks, but if you look decent you might be noticed more. I don't really mind, but some other girls do. Also you don't have to mess around with makeup since you're a guy (but feel free to do so if you want to), so it won't be too rough on you.

Other than that, try and open up, talk more. It's hard for me too, but I've grown a little by doing activities like drama. Get involved in stuff you enjoy and if you find a girl along the way, you have a convo starter since they have a similar interest.

Positive body language and attitude.

I guess, just be yourself, but louder and more conversational.

Idk if that helped. But I hope you get a girl soon. Just know you don't have to have one, don't be peer pressured.

Reply 4

Danny the Geezer

Wow you're 16 all I cared about at that age was studying and getting pissed.

Reply 5

username2053059

Oh ffs you're 16, it doesn't matter.
Come back when you're 18/19.

Reply 6

UWS

Oh here we go again.

When I was 16, I was playing Runescape and collecting fossils in Animal Crossing. TBH doing well in my GCSEs were more of a priority than worrying about girls.

You are only 16 for god's sake, no need to be so thirsty. Enjoy your life now and opportunities will come your way.

Reply 7

username927016

Original post by ZERØ

Hey don't worry about it I'm almost 25 & in the same position, you're 16 so still very young in the grand scheme of things. Just don't get to invested about this at you age, go with the flow. Work hard, put yourself out there, expand your social circle & always have pride in yourself. Getting a girlfriend isn't either unless you're very good looking & you have to be prepared to get hurt along the way. Just concentrate on being the best version of yourself, dress well, maintain good hygiene, have a good hairstyle etc. Join clubs, volunteer, get a part-time job if you haven't already in order to meet people & improve social skills & generally go out there & socialise as much as you can without putting your academic prospects in jeopardy. The more you put yourself in positions & attempt new things the more experience you will gain & things you will learn. Just don't expect everything to be nice & rosy straight away. Some things you just have to be a bit patient with. Best of luck! :smile:

Reply 8

OddFuturez

OMG these threads again, you're 16 mate, 16!!!!!!!