Feeling pretty *****y about being unattractive, awkward and unable to hold a conversa

What do you like?

People like talking about themselves. Ask them about stuff that is linked to what is happened. E.g. if there's homework ask about if they did it. Even if you don't care. Then they will open up and try another question. It's okay.

I still can't talk to adults, but I've learned to talk to kids my age. You can get better, I promise.

Well I guess that's the main issue, I don't really enjoy doing a great deal outside of chess or playing on my computer, which isn't really something that many people are interested in.

If you like a girl for 5 years then something is wrong. She wont magically turn around and love you she probably doesn't like you in that way. 5 years :/ is she a Uni degree?

Honestly, change is going to come from you. I used to be socially awkward and then I practice now I am alright at talking to random people and those I know. Believe in yourself, there are so many girls out there who would like you.

Fix yourself:
Go gym,read books,watch youtube vida about socialising, practice talk to shop keepers ask them how are you etc,talk to your neighbours. When you get a girlfriend or are successful at something or very popular that girl will be like "oh **** what an absoloute lad".

Its all got to come from you

You any good at chess? I've been trying to get into it myself, but it's hard when you don't know any strategies lol

Playing on your computer? Like, Steam games, or PC games? Video games have a massive following.

I'd suggest getting out of your comfort zone and try new things, maybe you'll find something fun, and find new people too.

Hey

I'm going to try and put this into words as best as I can, I really appreciate any+all help.

I've been feeling miserable for years now, simply because of the above things. The one girl I've ever liked, and have liked for 5 years, won't even look at me now because I'm just really awkward and look really geeky. The one time I managed to talk to her I couldn't think of a single thing to say; I sat there for several minutes without saying a thing (which was obviously extremely awkward and I've not spoken to her since, as I said she won't even look at me now).

This isn't just an "awkward around crush" type thing though, while I've been getting steadily more confident around most people, I tend to really struggle to think of anything to say, I've tried to take an interest in current issues etc. but I feel even worse if I just have a conversation which is me spouting stuff I heard on the news.

Any advice? This is starting to get really, really miserable for me...

Maybe you could create a form of list of interesting questions/ice breakers you could use when you first meet people, like "what movies do you like?" (just a small simple example), and once you've made that list just try and memorise it, so you can use them for future conversations. Clearly it's not just you who isn't quite sure how to speak to people if there have been big awkward silences in chats, it takes two to tango! It is tricky knowing what to say, but if the other person is quite quiet themselves, the best thing to do is keep firing out interesting questions that lets them tell you quite a lot, so you can pick up on things they say and carry on from there! Don't worry, I think about 80% of people don't truly feel 100% confident when speaking to people they don't know very well, it can just be an act they put on to look like they're not nervous. Hope you feel better soon, it's something I've been working on too.

I'm mediocre at best haha.
And I agree, I do need to.

If this girl is not interested in you at all, then don't waste your time on her! Trust me, you will find someone who will love you for who you are, just the way you are!

You gotta get out the house and do some exercise. People are not designed to sit in a room doing nothing all day if you create some happy chemicals it creates good feeling. Youre thought process will change and youll gain confidence naturally.

Watch as many videos as you like but if you dont actually do something yourself nothing will change.

Tried meditation? Great for self awareness despite what the sceptics say.

I dare you to join a gym, its £15 a month, run, row, lift some weights youll feel like the man.

I agree; exercise really helps.
I've been running three times a week and doing press-ups and sit ups etc. at home twice a week for a few months and it's really helped! Would absolutely recommend it to everyone!

Hey

I'm going to try and put this into words as best as I can, I really appreciate any+all help.

I've been feeling miserable for years now, simply because of the above things. The one girl I've ever liked, and have liked for 5 years, won't even look at me now because I'm just really awkward and look really geeky. The one time I managed to talk to her I couldn't think of a single thing to say; I sat there for several minutes without saying a thing (which was obviously extremely awkward and I've not spoken to her since, as I said she won't even look at me now).

This isn't just an "awkward around crush" type thing though, while I've been getting steadily more confident around most people, I tend to really struggle to think of anything to say, I've tried to take an interest in current issues etc. but I feel even worse if I just have a conversation which is me spouting stuff I heard on the news.

Any advice? This is starting to get really, really miserable for me...