Will people always think I'm odd because of this?

I'm dating a man who is much older than me, (in his late 50's but I'm around my late 20's). we go to the same martial arts club I've known him for 5 years previously and he used to train with me/coach me (but not officially). I'm very quiet, socially awkward and private person so I was worried what others would think initially, I avoided going to the club for 6 months. I finally plucked up the courage to go back and found that most people were OK with me but I got a few odd looks. I'm just very worried about people thinking in weird. Two women who I trained with deleted me off Facebook, one of them can be quite gossipy. I tried talking to her and gave her and her sons a lift home once after training. She didn't speak in the car it said 'brill your a star' when she was getting out the car. She still hasn't added me back on Facebook though lol. The thing is we don't even have sex, I'm 'frigid' not that into it (I have a fear of sti's which doesn't help) and it has put lots of pressure on the relationship so we are more like close friends at the moment. I still worry what people think though. Just wanted advice I mean am I over reacting or have I ruined whatever decent 'reputation' I might have had with people in the past. People say don't care what others think but the reality is I think it is just natural to do so.

Of course it's natural to care what others think, but you've just got to decide whether their opinion matters to you. These women who deleted you off facebook don't sound like they're your close friends, or even very nice people for that matter. And you even said yourself that most people seemed fine with it, so focus on that. Who cares if a couple of pathetic *****y people who aren't worth your time have some sort of 'problem' with a relationship that makes you happy? My friend's sister who is in her mid twenties is in a relationship with a guy in his late fifties. When her family found out, they weren't very happy about it buy then when they met him, they couldn't help liking him because he's such a sweet person and makes her so happy. So the people who matter will come round. A few people stopped talking to her and she said 'good. it's a great way to find out which of my friends weren't my real friends!'

You will never encounter a situation when everyone likes you, there also will be some people who wouldn't appreciate your. So you shouldn't put a lot of emphasise on what others think.

Wonder why u went for him?

I'd had a crush on him for years (but he didn't know), since I first knew him.

More specifically why

I don't mean anything personally, but, to other people you'd look like a goldigger. Young girls usuall go for old men just because of they money. What else can you benefit from him? He probably can't give birth to normal children or have any private life.

Thanks for that yes you do find out your real friends i suppose. That girl you mention isnt me is it, lol. No it cant be as ive no sisters. My family wernt very impressed either but i think they just have a 'it is what it is and thats it' attitude now. Even i see myself as weird for agreeing to the relationship and part of me knows the age gap is too much but i still like him