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Original post by Anonymous
28????? 
omg that is amazing
omg that is amazing
Indeed. I am older than the Internet
Original post by The_Lonely_Goatherd
Indeed. I am older than the Internet
that is amazing.
i admire you so much <3
Original post by Anonymous
that is amazing.
i admire you so much <3
i admire you so much <3
So you should! They were tough times, the pre-Internet/pre-smart phone days
Original post by The_Lonely_Goatherd
So you should! They were tough times, the pre-Internet/pre-smart phone days
no i just mean because you have made it to 28 and that is amazing because it is hard enough rn to want to survive the night nevermind get to 28
Original post by The_Lonely_Goatherd
Indeed. I am older than the Internet
My 6 yr old nephew was marvelling at the fact that I'm older than the Harry Potter series today. Turns out I'm 10 years older
But I like being old enough to remember no computers and dial up connection. And being told your download would take 27 years and just giving up lol
Original post by Anonymous
no i just mean because you have made it to 28 and that is amazing because it is hard enough rn to want to survive the night nevermind get to 28
There have been plenty of times when I've thought I wouldn't make it to this age, tbh. It can be very hard to keep going! But I live in hope that I can somehow, someday, live a better quality of life
Original post by ~Tara~
My 6 yr old nephew was marvelling at the fact that I'm older than the Harry Potter series today. Turns out I'm 10 years older
But I like being old enough to remember no computers and dial up connection. And being told your download would take 27 years and just giving up lol
But I like being old enough to remember no computers and dial up connection. And being told your download would take 27 years and just giving up lol
Dial up connection
Those were the days!
Original post by The_Lonely_Goatherd
Thanks hun, I appreciate you writing and showing your support, always 
I'm guessing you have heard of schemas in your therapy/in your own training? It sounds like this person has activated some of yours in quite a strong way. I am concerned about the impact reuniting with this person may have on you and your recovery
It's ultimately your decision but maybe you should bring this up in your next therapy session? 
Absolutely no judgement from me though, coz I do the same thing with people all the time. I can't seem to get away from people who treat me badly or trigger my schemas. In fact, I seem to be really drawn to them in a really alarming way
So I really DO understand, even though the situations may be different 
I'm guessing you have heard of schemas in your therapy/in your own training? It sounds like this person has activated some of yours in quite a strong way. I am concerned about the impact reuniting with this person may have on you and your recovery
It's ultimately your decision but maybe you should bring this up in your next therapy session? Absolutely no judgement from me though, coz I do the same thing with people all the time. I can't seem to get away from people who treat me badly or trigger my schemas. In fact, I seem to be really drawn to them in a really alarming way
So I really DO understand, even though the situations may be different I can imagine my therapist reminding me that I can't heal whilst I'm re-triggering the thing to heal from. Probably put better than that because he has a better way with words.
This week is so long. I really want therapy and to be with therapist, the only person who seems to be able to talk to real me. I spent time with my dad today, whom therapist and I are uncovering dark memories about, and he was normal. I got no weird vibes and now I feel like a liar. But then today I can't remember some stuff i know happened for definite so...memory sucks.
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Had hospital app today. Now have to have hearing aids. Gonna be strange
Original post by The_Lonely_Goatherd
I'm a lot older than you, remember! 
I turn 28 in just over 2 weeks!!!
No worries
I turn 28 in just over 2 weeks!!! No worries
I turn 18 in just over two weeks. (Roughly. I have a basic rota which means it's like two weeks away lol)
I'm older than Google!
Also I really appreciate your posts and support too TLG x
Original post by ~Tara~
I can imagine my therapist reminding me that I can't heal whilst I'm re-triggering the thing to heal from. Probably put better than that because he has a better way with words.
This week is so long. I really want therapy and to be with therapist, the only person who seems to be able to talk to real me. I spent time with my dad today, whom therapist and I are uncovering dark memories about, and he was normal. I got no weird vibes and now I feel like a liar. But then today I can't remember some stuff i know happened for definite so...memory sucks.
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Had hospital app today. Now have to have hearing aids. Gonna be strange
This week is so long. I really want therapy and to be with therapist, the only person who seems to be able to talk to real me. I spent time with my dad today, whom therapist and I are uncovering dark memories about, and he was normal. I got no weird vibes and now I feel like a liar. But then today I can't remember some stuff i know happened for definite so...memory sucks.
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Had hospital app today. Now have to have hearing aids. Gonna be strange
I don't know your therapist, obviously, but I can well imagine he would say something to that effect. Because it is the truth
(I'm such a hypocrite for lecturing you about this, I know, but I'm honestly concerned )The time in between therapy appointments can really drag and be hard, isn't it?
You're not a liar!
Not too sure of the history there but I'd wage that your dad is in the wrong here, NOT you Hold on to that knowledge that he did whatever he did, and that it was not your fault You're very welcome x
Original post by Midnightmemories
I turn 18 in just over two weeks. (Roughly. I have a basic rota which means it's like two weeks away lol)
I'm older than Google!
I'm older than Google!
18, pffffft. I was 18 ten years ago
Original post by The_Lonely_Goatherd
I don't know your therapist, obviously, but I can well imagine he would say something to that effect. Because it is the truth (I'm such a hypocrite for lecturing you about this, I know, but I'm honestly concerned )
The time in between therapy appointments can really drag and be hard, isn't it?
You're not a liar! Not too sure of the history there but I'd wage that your dad is in the wrong here, NOT you Hold on to that knowledge that he did whatever he did, and that it was not your fault
You're very welcome x
18, pffffft. I was 18 ten years ago
(I'm such a hypocrite for lecturing you about this, I know, but I'm honestly concerned )The time in between therapy appointments can really drag and be hard, isn't it?
You're not a liar!
Not too sure of the history there but I'd wage that your dad is in the wrong here, NOT you Hold on to that knowledge that he did whatever he did, and that it was not your fault You're very welcome x
18, pffffft. I was 18 ten years ago
Not a hypocrite at all. If I sit and do what I help others to stop doing..and somehow still not be one then you're definitely not one
It seems silly to be like I can't stop..after a day. But, I can't. I need him. I'll find a way to be more level headed about it.
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Id argue it was my fault but probably wouldn't win.
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Original post by The_Lonely_Goatherd
I don't know your therapist, obviously, but I can well imagine he would say something to that effect. Because it is the truth (I'm such a hypocrite for lecturing you about this, I know, but I'm honestly concerned )
The time in between therapy appointments can really drag and be hard, isn't it?
You're not a liar! Not too sure of the history there but I'd wage that your dad is in the wrong here, NOT you Hold on to that knowledge that he did whatever he did, and that it was not your fault
You're very welcome x
18, pffffft. I was 18 ten years ago
(I'm such a hypocrite for lecturing you about this, I know, but I'm honestly concerned )The time in between therapy appointments can really drag and be hard, isn't it?
You're not a liar!
Not too sure of the history there but I'd wage that your dad is in the wrong here, NOT you Hold on to that knowledge that he did whatever he did, and that it was not your fault You're very welcome x
18, pffffft. I was 18 ten years ago
You old fart!
(no offence is meant by this!!!)When's your birthday? Mines the 20th... I wanna see how close yours is to mine now
you don't have to give it to me though!Original post by ~Tara~
Not a hypocrite at all. If I sit and do what I help others to stop doing..and somehow still not be one then you're definitely not one
It seems silly to be like I can't stop..after a day. But, I can't. I need him. I'll find a way to be more level headed about it.
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Id argue it was my fault but probably wouldn't win.
It seems silly to be like I can't stop..after a day. But, I can't. I need him. I'll find a way to be more level headed about it.
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Id argue it was my fault but probably wouldn't win.
It's not silly at all. Try not to be so hard on yourself. It's hard to keep level-headed when different personalities are involved.
TRIGGER WARNING FOR ABUSE
Spoiler
Original post by Midnightmemories
You old fart! (no offence is meant by this!!!)
When's your birthday? Mines the 20th... I wanna see how close yours is to mine now you don't have to give it to me though!
(no offence is meant by this!!!)When's your birthday? Mines the 20th... I wanna see how close yours is to mine now
you don't have to give it to me though!YOUTH OF TODAY, NO RESPECT FOR ELDERS, GRRRRRR
Mine is the 23rd
Love my TSR friends 
Original post by iEthan
Love my TSR friends
i hope i count if not this is awkward
love u too
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sometimes i dont want them to go bc it is my own world. i can think whatever and i dont have to be ashamed of the things that come up because no-one can see them.
i suppose in that way it is liberating although it is hard to think that when u wake up in some panic thing with palpitations at 4am.
i would miss them in a strange way tho as they are constant when everything else is not.
Original post by Anonymous
i hope i count if not this is awkward
love u too
love u too
Of course you count
love you lots and lots 
Original post by The_Lonely_Goatherd
You be careful too. Huge hugs
Thanks, lovely! I feel a little better, so hopefully I won't go downhill again
Original post by chelseadagg3r
Thanks, lovely! I feel a little better, so hopefully I won't go downhill again
Fingers crossed
Constant from the voices that I deserved it all and I brought it on myself and it's all my fault. Something wrong with me to make people want to do what they did to me and I deserved it all and that's why I scare people all off and they all hate me and avoid me and it's my fault and try to keep people not hating me and always afail. So sick of the nightmares but at he same time jaust want to sleep
Original post by The_Lonely_Goatherd
It's not silly at all. Try not to be so hard on yourself. It's hard to keep level-headed when different personalities are involved.
TRIGGER WARNING FOR ABUSE
YOUTH OF TODAY, NO RESPECT FOR ELDERS, GRRRRRR
Mine is the 23rd
TRIGGER WARNING FOR ABUSE
Spoiler
YOUTH OF TODAY, NO RESPECT FOR ELDERS, GRRRRRR
Mine is the 23rd
Hoping spoiler thing works..probably should use more often than I have been doing, sorry
TW for abuse
Spoiler
It's a strange time of believing and feeling like both versions are true. And why I just jumped on this old friend. Child part was feeling unlovable and all old feelings id blocked from childhood started coming up.
Should have just sat with them and "processed"
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