Flatmate heard me having sex? What should I do

Move out because your neighbour heard you getting pumped?

Yup. Just to salvage some remnants of respectability and not to drag the academic institution in to disrepute.

99% chance she won't want to share with a guy too. Even if its just one guy in a flat.

Unfortunately some people don't want to "integrate", but then they also make life a nightmare for everyone else as OP shows. If it was that big a deal for her she should started looking early and found an all Muslim female house through the Muslim society.

**** it.

Firstly, you're in your room. Walls not being thick are a consequence of that house. She should have realized this before moving in and taken it was a fault.

Secondly, okay, she has a headscarf, so I presume an issue is it's kind of something they don't do in their religion right? Well, in our side of the world's religion, we don't wear headscarfs. Their presence doesn't offend us (well, the logical 'us' so nor should the presence of you doing whatever you want in your own space.

The only problem I could see is if you're having people wandering about the house or something, but as a guy, the last thing I typically thing after getting the ride is "I wonder what kind of accent pillows she has in her living room". I'm thinking "Alright now move over and throw me some covers".

Oh calm the **** down!

Even if her religion has something to do with it, so what? I think if your living together you should try your best to respect eachother. Clearly OP wasn't being as quiet as she thought she was or else her roommate would not have heard.

I wouldn't want to hear someone having sex either, I would find it extremely uncomfortable. It's a bit gross really.

I admit she seems a little difficult, but saying that she sounds very introverted so maybe she doesn't want to give her contact details to the rest of her flat mates. Ngl she sounds like she is singled out, so maybe that is why she doesn't want to give out her details? It doesn't really matter if she gives out her details, the point is they are all living together and she is a part of that house as much as everyone. Just because everyone in that house is okay with hearing eachother have sex doesn't make it okay. You should CONSIDER everyone in the household, since she has as much right to be there as everyone else does.

So what if you don't find it offensive? She does. It's her space too...if she wants to walk around with a headscarf then she should be able to? :-/

You're gonna hear things. The walls in student halls are freaking paper thin. You would be having pretty **** sex otherwise lol. You can legitimately just hear ass slapping against hips through the wall - nevermind moaning or squeaky beds.

So she is just gonna have to be mature about it, because I'm pretty sure the entire flat is not gonna abstain from sex because she finds it awkward. Also, if they're not really friends anyway, that's just a recipe for disaster.

If someone was wanting sex why would they stop it because a flatmate feels awkward about it? Real talk, they ain't gonna. So Miss Headscarf needs to make friends. This is how university works.

Oh calm the **** down!

Even if her religion has something to do with it, so what? I think if your living together you should try your best to respect eachother. Clearly OP wasn't being as quiet as she thought she was or else her roommate would not have heard.

I wouldn't want to hear someone having sex either, I would find it extremely uncomfortable. It's a bit gross really.

I admit she seems a little difficult, but saying that she sounds very introverted so maybe she doesn't want to give her contact details to the rest of her flat mates. Ngl she sounds like she is singled out, so maybe that is why she doesn't want to give out her details? It doesn't really matter if she gives out her details, the point is they are all living together and she is a part of that house as much as everyone. Just because everyone in that house is okay with hearing eachother have sex doesn't make it okay. You should CONSIDER everyone in the household, since she has as much right to be there as everyone else does.

Or maybe they repeatedly asked her to join the group chat so they can let her know? Maybe unis have thin walls and you can hear people having sex no matter what - and it's just a fact of life? Maybe if she has an issue with any male friends, even platonic, coming round it's about more than just loud sex. Given she's the one that has a problem with everyone else's lifestyle yet refuses to compromise or discuss I think chances are she needs to deal with it, or move out.

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But the hearing people have sex probably isn't pleasant for MANY people, muslim or not.

But read what you said.

She should be able to walk around with a headscarft because it's her religion.

AND

OP shouldn't be having sex because of a roommates religion.

So this girl gets it both ways? You can practise your religion as long as you don't require anyone else to do so. If you want people to change what they are doing to suit your religion, then shouldn't you, by your own logic, change what you are doing to suit theirs?

There is no casual sex in Islam.
There are no headscarfs in Christianity.

Why does the Christian need to abide by the rules of Islam if the Muslim won't abide by the rules of Christianity?

But it happens. People are going to have sex. It's typically a loud enough thing. There's obviously different levels to it, but you can't go around asking flatmates to not have sex 3 times in 3 months because it makes you uncomfortable. (Don't mistake this for me ********ting that I'm getting my hole that often haha)

Im sorry but this is one the funniest thing I have ever heard on TSR!
Because you seem too nice, but that girl who has a problem sounds like a ****.
I once had sex in my friends flat which i used to borrow lol. All his flat mates heard the girl moaning loudly but they couldn't care less, as I never did anything wrong
Listen....YOU have the right to do what you like. You aren't breaking rules, you aren't causing disturbance. Its a ****ing bed squeaking thats all.

I dont see why everyone is targeting the room mate. We all have different opinions and different views on everything. Some muslims, like myself, are more liberal towards people and their "activities" whereas other muslims who are more strict when it comes down to their faith are obviously not going to feel comfortable in a situation like the OP is describing.

People need to bemore considerate towards other peoples faiths and if not that just the fact that some people dont want to hear u going at it whether its only once or three times.

I would strongly reccommend just talking to the room mate and finding out what you or her can do to make the situation better so ur nit treading on her toes and vice versa. Living with other people is all about everyone compromising and making small changes and just accepting each others differences whilst still living under one roof.