Sometimes I'm really put off by men???

Especially when they around their male friends and the things they say about girls. You'd think they see girls as nothing more than sex toys and slaves. Obviously, I understand that most of the time it's locker room chat and banter. Men always want to look cool in front of their friends and pretend they are not whipped.

But some of things I've heard men say about women when they taking amongst themselves..like wow. This includes men at work, my brother when his friends come around even my grown up uncle. Maybe it's because I really despise laddish culture and lads. I'm more into reserved men. But I suppose sometimes I wonder if that's what they really think of women and that whether they really resent women for some reason.

Men tend to be different from women in that they treat sex and relationships very separately, so they will see certain women as "sex objects" so to speak purely because the girl is physically attractive but they don't really like her as a person. So hence "ye I'd smash" but they wouldn't be committed toward that person. But when they're actually in a relationship there's a high chance they'll genuinely care and all that lot. I can see why it's off putting though, they sound like right pricks during that sort of conversation. (never really realised it before being male myself but at some point my interest in casual sex just died entirely and suddenly everybody sounds like my 12 year old self)

These thoughts plague me all the time too. It actually makes me miserable and I too wonder about the reserved guys too, what's going through their minds? I guess we just have to teach the goons, take the reigns and show them. Be clever, be wise, don't give yourself away, frown at their comments, respect yourself and make them respect you.

When guys are talking like that especially at work normally I just ignore and pretend I'm too busy to listen, do you think I should butt in some times and join in with the banter?

Men tend to be different from women in that they treat sex and relationships very separately, so they will see certain women as "sex objects" so to speak purely because the girl is physically attractive but they don't really like her as a person. So hence "ye I'd smash" but they wouldn't be committed toward that person. But when they're actually in a relationship there's a high chance they'll genuinely care and all that lot. I can see why it's off putting though, they sound like right pricks during that sort of conversation. (never really realised it before being male myself but at some point my interest in casual sex just died entirely and suddenly everybody sounds like my 12 year old self)

I understand but I suppose coming from an conservative religious background I just find it shocking , and sometimes makes me not want to have a bf since he might really have the same thoughts. Yesterday at work the colleague was saying "I could marry a really super hot girl.. But if she can't cook then that'd be the worse thing ever. I need a wife that can cook or I wouldn't marry her " which is not too bad since everyone has a preference,but just the arrogance in the way he was saying it, a 29 years old man hardly that young. Then the other guy said "I know I'll regret getting married. I'd be like she doesn't put out, doesn't cook for me and spends all my money"

To make matter ways the 29 years old said "I need to get married so I can get my wife to iron my shirts instead of doing it myself or making my mum do it"

giving hope to women everywhere not...

Really? A high chance? Omg phew

I understand but I suppose coming from an conservative religious background I just find it shocking , and sometimes makes me not want to have a bf since he might really have the same thoughts. Yesterday at work the colleague was saying "I could marry a really super hot girl.. But if she can't cook then that'd be the worse thing ever. I need a wife that can cook or I wouldn't marry her " which is not too bad since everyone has a preference,but just the arrogance in the way he was saying it, a 29 years old man hardly that young. Then the other guy said "I know I'll regret getting married. I'd be like she doesn't put out, doesn't cook for me and spends all my money"

To make matter ways the 29 years old said "I need to get married so I can get my wife to iron my shirts instead of doing it myself or making my mum do it"

When guys are talking like that especially at work normally I just ignore and pretend I'm too busy to listen, do you think I should butt in some times and join in with the banter?

Especially when they around their male friends and the things they say about girls. You'd think they see girls as nothing more than sex toys and slaves. Obviously, I understand that most of the time it's locker room chat and banter. Men always want to look cool in front of their friends and pretend they are not whipped.

But some of things I've heard men say about women when they taking amongst themselves..like wow. This includes men at work, my brother when his friends come around even my grown up uncle. Maybe it's because I really despise laddish culture and lads. I'm more into reserved men. But I suppose sometimes I wonder if that's what they really think of women and that whether they really resent women for some reason.