He was eager to meet up but then ignores me and said this..?

bump please help, I feel so confused and upset

do you have feelings for him or nah?

bump please help, I feel so confused and upset

Why? You're at least partly responsible for engineering this absurd and obviously untenable quasi-relationship with the foreknowledge that it could end at any time: have some accountability.

Why does he not know that he raped you? It's pretty obvious when you say "no" or "stop" that you don't want him to carry on. I guess he could have been too drunk to remember or something. However if you went along with everything he did and showed no sign that you want him to stop, then it's not rape. That is my own curiosity though, you don't have to answer.

As for ACTUAL ADVICE: I imagine this happened a while back so I don't know if there's any point taking this to the police. What you should definitely do is find some counselling. Go to your gp and see if they can find you a therapist. If you're a student then talk to the counselling service at your school or university. You sound like you definitely need emotional support right now. And don't talk to him anymore, it's not gonna do you any good

why don't you jus be straight up and tell him that you have feelings for him, see how he responds if he wants to take it serious then great if not move on and dont waste time thinkin about it

Well your friends with benefits, how can you be so sure he even has feelings for you? Maybe he's found another hoe to **** and doesn't need you anymore? You should've just been straight with your feelings before it all got messy. These friends with benefits relationships never turn out good. Lol.

understand your point but it's not something he would just randomly 'end' like that

Then by that same token you also accept that inviting strangers to speculate upon the motives of someone whose character you presume to understand to a profoundly intimate degree is not constructive, and that feeling "confused and upset" is not a rational response; so what does this thread accomplish, other than to wilfully over-indulge in paranoia?

You're right tbh. I'm just sitting here confused and sad so wanted some kind of explanation.. But obviously it's not something strangers can help with.

Well, quite. Here, listen to some Bibio:

Wrong post babes

Then by that same token you also accept that inviting strangers to speculate upon the motives of someone whose character you presume to understand to a profoundly intimate degree is not constructive, and that feeling "confused and upset" is not a rational response; so what does this thread accomplish, other than to wilfully over-indulge in paranoia?

Writing down your issues (especially emotionally ones) can be very beneficial for a person, I suspect it could relate to that.

I think currently you can't do anything other than wait and see what happens. This might be something that's related to another person, that could be one reason he can't tell you. Could be health related and he doesn't want to worry you. Thing is that speculating will make you stressed out, you'll be worrying about all the possible scenarios for no reason. Wait a while and see if it either goes back to normal or if he maybe tells you what the problem was once he sorts it out. For now just trust him to be able to make his own decisions about what is the best approach to his problem.