Easiest way to let a guy down?

yikes that sounds mean. im wary of peoples emotions so this will be hard

Yeah you should tell them straight up, are these people you know irl or just random weirdos messaging you on Facebook/IG?

On my social media such as SC/IG/FB i do geta fair bit of guys popping up to me. we engage in conversation and stuff but if he displays that he has romantic interests in me and i dont feel the same way or the conversation get really boring then i cant be bothered talking anymore.

i feel like a ***** sometimes because i cant say it bluntly to a guys face i dont want to talk or im not interested back. instead if a guy asks do i want to meet up or hang out i used the phrase 'im sooooooooooooo behind on my uni work' or 'ill let you know when im free ' i say these simply because i dont want to hurt peoples feelings. once i told a guy i wasnt interested and he got butthurt then he insulted me (he appologized but i deleted him).

so whats the easiest way to let guys down saying your not interested in them. i can no way say it straight to their face because ill feel like the meanest person in the world (ive said to about 20 guys ill let you know when im free )

On my social media such as SC/IG/FB i do geta fair bit of guys popping up to me. we engage in conversation and stuff but if he displays that he has romantic interests in me and i dont feel the same way or the conversation get really boring then i cant be bothered talking anymore.

i feel like a ***** sometimes because i cant say it bluntly to a guys face i dont want to talk or im not interested back. instead if a guy asks do i want to meet up or hang out i used the phrase 'im sooooooooooooo behind on my uni work' or 'ill let you know when im free ' i say these simply because i dont want to hurt peoples feelings. once i told a guy i wasnt interested and he got butthurt then he insulted me (he appologized but i deleted him).

so whats the easiest way to let guys down saying your not interested in them. i can no way say it straight to their face because ill feel like the meanest person in the world (ive said to about 20 guys ill let you know when im free )

I would a million times rather a girl was straight up honest with me and told me if she didn't want to hang out or get into a relationship with me. I'd understand. Anything else would hurt my feelings so much more.

If I ask you out, and you delay it, or say "I'll let you know when I'm free" then I'm going to ask again at some other time. And if that doesn't work, I'll wait and ask again. And again. Until you've called it off so many times I stop believing you and find out you were lying the whole time, for whatever reason. And that would lead to arguments. Because each time would upset me, and finding out it was all not entirely true "just to not upset me" would upset me horribly.

If a guy likes you, the longer you string it out with him like that, the more his feelings will get hurt. Be honest with him and he'll appreciate your honesty at least, if he doesn't he's a complete ****.

I've had an experience exactly like this which lasted about a year and a half and it damn well upset me. Please, please, do not do this to anyone. You might think it's making things better, but it makes it so much worse.

EDIT: I know my post was more on the friendship/relationship side of things and OP's was more about random people or friends of friends messaging her, but it's the same point or someone could relate to it more.

yikes that sounds mean. im wary of peoples emotions so this will be hard

Sometimes if a girl I have no interest trys to slide in my IG dms and shlws interest. I give 5 hour replies or dont reply at all

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rip the bandaid off is the best method, just tell them the truth

they may not like it but they will respect it more than being led on

I've just been pretty wrapped up with stuff. My life went from this bored fella to a super duper busy businessman

how is it in UAE

rip the bandaid off is the best method, just tell them the truth

they may not like it but they will respect it more than being led on

I would a million times rather a girl was straight up honest with me and told me if she didn't want to hang out or get into a relationship with me. I'd understand. Anything else would hurt my feelings so much more.

If I ask you out, and you delay it, or say "I'll let you know when I'm free" then I'm going to ask again at some other time. And if that doesn't work, I'll wait and ask again. And again. Until you've called it off so many times I stop believing you and find out you were lying the whole time, for whatever reason. And that would lead to arguments. Because each time would upset me, and finding out it was all not entirely true "just to not upset me" would upset me horribly.

If a guy likes you, the longer you string it out with him like that, the more his feelings will get hurt. Be honest with him and he'll appreciate your honesty at least, if he doesn't he's a complete ****.

I've had an experience exactly like this which lasted about a year and a half and it damn well upset me. Please, please, do not do this to anyone. You might think it's making things better, but it makes it so much worse.

EDIT: I know my post was more on the friendship/relationship side of things and OP's was more about random people or friends of friends messaging her, but it's the same point or someone could relate to it more.