He says I'm perfect whilst breaking up with me

What's confusing? He says he really likes you as a person but the distance will strain the relationship, which is reasonable. LDR's can work out but they are more difficult than if you both live nearby.

He said he lost interest in me.. when the day before and leading up to this he was acting fine. His first excuse was that its not gonna work out and we are only going to like eachother more.. then he goes on to say he's lost interest. I don't know something just doesnt add up.

I understand what you are saying about LDRs and agree, its just that what hes actually said doesnt add up

It means what he said it means, he doesn't like long distance and he doesn't think it will work out in the end (regardless of what he/you do or don't do), better to end it sooner rather than later.

I also feel the same way - I don't think it will work out, (religion, LDR)
I felt like this way before we broke up, but as soon as he said it I feel even more determined to be with him. Its odd because even though I felt similarly (sorta) I still feel really really hurt, especially at the interest comment.

See when someone does this it would automatically think he has found someone else.

I'm going to make this quick because no-one likes reading paragraphs after paragraphs.

My boyfriend broke up with me about 4 weeks ago and his reasons at first were:
"its just not going to work out and it will be easier breaking up now rather than later when we like each-other more" later on he said "hes lost interest in me because we are long distance" then I went on to ask him for a little bit of feedback so I could learn from the experience and gain a little more clarity because I was really hurt by his words. He went on to say how he thinks I'm perfect and I'm everything he could ask for in a girl, and he would pursue a relationship if we didn't live so far away from eachother.

The reason he doesn't think its going to work out is probably because we live far away but I don't know.

I'm still confused about what he has said, he went from saying its because we cant work out, to I'm not interested, to its the distance.. Can anyone help me understand this confusing guy. I don't want him back, and I want to stop talking to him, but understanding why hes said these things might help me move on.

Boys speak a lot of rubbish.
You werent perfect for him otherwise he wouldnt have split.
You live too far away.
Dont waste time overanalysing and think carefully about doing long distance again.

ok thank you for your advice.
you're probably right.

The point is its quite common for boys (ir the person calling it off) not wanting to give a straight answer because, they might not want to hurt you or they dont like to face up to things. Hence they give you an answer that seems to be kind, but its because they feel they can avoid telling you the uncomfy truth. That leaves you being confused. Id take what boys tell you with a pinch of salt, stuff happens, Just learn from it and be a bit philosophical.

I told him I just wanted him to tell me the truth. We weren't dating for that long but we were friends - that liked eachother for ages and I feel like he really should have told me the truth, opposed to three different things that have just left me confused and made it even harder to move on.

Not going to work out is probably indirectly referring to the distance, and he'd rather end it now before you get closer. Saying he's lost interest is a bit odd I admit, but maybe to him it sounded better than simply saying it was due to distance?

The truth will be that he wasnt into you enough to wnat to do long distance.
The use of perfect is just some way of attempting to sweeten the pill and a version its not you, but me( a talk you will hear a lot in future).

There is no need to be confused by the above. Some people would prefer a bf/gf that is close by so they cna go out on dates and be with/ sleep with all the time rather thna having to wait till holidays etc. Juts get on with enjoying your life and you are more likely than not going to find someone else. Id probably cut him from (your life) social mediat etc for six months till you get yourself back on track.

Whats the distance between you? I'll be honest if he had strong feelings for you he would not give you up and would want you both to work. It seems he was being polite to you saying how perfect you are. You know that saying 'its not you...its me' so when you let down someone you say sorry you are amazing and blah blah but dont think it will work. Dont think he wants to have a relationship and you have to accept that his feelings have changed.

I'm still confused about what he has said, he went from saying its because we cant work out, to I'm not interested, to its the distance..

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er london - newyork