Muslims, how would you react if your friend or sibling came out?

How would you honestly react, and feel if your siblings or Muslim best friend came out to you as a lesbian/gay?

Would you support them?

I would kill them

Quick query for genuine Muslims answering this question. A colleague of mine seems quite devout (his Facebook has a lot of Islamic scripture quoted/liked, talks about it a bit etc) and his viewpoint is that homosexuality is a lifestyle choice, or whatever you'd call it, as in it is a conscious decision to have sexual relations with a man and that it is not an uncontrollable sexuality. It's not that he's separating being gay and acting on it, he thinks being gay in of itself is a conscious decision. He obviously says we at times and tries to speak for other Muslims. Now I imagine some believe this and some don't, is there any basis for that belief though from scripture?

Some even have children and are divorced! So I can see why many people would claim that it's a lifestyle.

I'm not sure about scripture but it's certainly isn't a choice. Think about it. Why would anyone choose to come out willingly knowing they'd face being seen negatively, estranged, killed, shut out from society etc.? Even if it were a choice, who are we to interfere in someones life?

Tbf I actually know two men in this exact position (one is very late 30's, possibly 40 now I think) and another is in his fifties. For the former the reason he married a woman and had a child is because where he was brought up he felt that if anyone was aware of his sexuality he'd be at risk of severe physical attacks by others in the community including his own family (and this just a white british guy from a working class neighborhood). So he forced himself to live a lie for a while, and just couldn't do it a few years later, part of him hoped if he kept trying to convince himself he'd lose his homosexuality. Unsure if the latters reasoning was the exact same, but it wouldn't shock me if it was.

You have to understand that people tend to exaggerate their feelings in their stories to get a more dramatic effect, or so they can be seen as heroes.I still can't see how he could have children if he's gay. For me personally I cannot under any circumstances have a bonor or sustain one if I'm looking at a man.

Quick query for genuine Muslims answering this question. A colleague of mine seems quite devout (his Facebook has a lot of Islamic scripture quoted/liked, talks about it a bit etc) and his viewpoint is that homosexuality is a lifestyle choice, or whatever you'd call it, as in it is a conscious decision to have sexual relations with a man and that it is not an uncontrollable sexuality. It's not that he's separating being gay and acting on it, he thinks being gay in of itself is a conscious decision. He obviously says we at times and tries to speak for other Muslims. Now I imagine some believe this and some don't, is there any basis for that belief though from scripture?

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only thing in the scripture referring to homosexuality was referring to the people of lot, who were thiefs and rapists and were punished for their since - it so happened that they were men committing homosexual rape. Other than that nothing really.

You should tell your friend to prove it's a conscious decision by making himself gay for like a day and get a boner when lookin at a hot guy
- if he fails it's obv not

i mean gays are being thrown off towers in ME - you think they'd rather choose that than be straight?

I see what you're saying, but I've known the guy for quite some time, he is on speaking terms with the mother of his child and admitted that. I have no reason to believe he's fabricating the situation, he certainly has no interest in females now he's been openly homosexual for some time.

Their sexual relationship was pretty much non-existent anyway, but although you're obviously saying it would be difficult to get an erection or sustain one. If you closed your eyes and someone gave you a handjob/blowjob, you'd probably find you would get erect and sustain it. In the same way that if you really weren't in the mood but a girl started with foreplay and then went on top, at least some of the time (i'd wager a significant amount) you'd probably maintain that erection from stimulation in itself even if you weren't in the mindset to (although a different situation, the same sort of thing which can cause a woman to get wet and even orgasm if she's being sexually assaulted).

A different situation as well but I have a particular paraphilia which is a significant part of my sexuality, I didn't choose it but I would say i "discovered" what it was, in that in early puberty it was on my mind, but the extent of it didn't sink in right away.

Lol I tried, used to joke when the girls were talking about a hot guy that I'd rate him out of 10 tomorrow, because I always find I can't decide to be gay that day if it\s already past 9am.

I suppose for being thrown off towers the argument would be they're the ones acting on it? (not that that's a defence)

But in that way you could justify something like beastiality. If one is sexually attracted to animals then why is it considered wrong?

Reason one - Disease.

Reason two - Consent.

Reason three - It's weird.