Being kicked out of home :(

Hi I'm new here. I live in the UK and my dad is again threatening to kick me out of the home. He's done it before, but I'm sure this time it'll be permanent.

I can't take it anymore, even if he doesn't kick me out I may end up leaving anyway. He's horrble, despicable and VERY unfit to be a parent.

I would have left a long time ago but England is cold and I don't know where to go or what to do. Also I'll miss my baby sister growing up.

I've been searching online for help, bu I've yet to find anything.

I'm hoping some people here can assist a brother :frown:

Some details about me: born UK, moved to Saudi when I was 4, now in England at 18, returning to Saudi in 3 days to sort out visa, then coming back to UK permanently. (My dad may even kick me out of the house in Saudi, I really don't know about my future...)

Any solid help at all would be immensely appreciated.

Much love, Alan.

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Reply 1

Nunchuck-master-2334

Original post by castmesoftly

Why the hell is he threatening to kick you out?

Reply 2

castmesoftly

Original post by Mvine001

Why the hell is he threatening to kick you out?

He's rather unreasonable, I also get the feeling he doesn't actually like me much.

As for reasons: I guess he's fed up of me for not meeting his lofty expectations. Religious reasons are present also.

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Reply 3

Nunchuck-master-2334

Original post by castmesoftly

He's rather unreasonable, I also get the feeling he doesn't actually like me much.

You are the turtles and your dad is the rat.
To quote Splinter:
"All fathers' care for their sons"

Reply 4

nemanuel96

Original post by castmesoftly

I can see that by your profile he's actively preventing you from going college (university?). As you are 18, there is nothing he can actually do to prevent you from moving out to go uni.

Furthermore, what are his religious reasons for treating you in such a way?

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Reply 5

castmesoftly

Original post by Mvine001

You are the turtles and your dad is the rat.
To quote Splinter:
"All fathers' care for their sons"

Well, definitions of 'care' vary greatly, to an obscene extent in relation with my dad. People claim "I'm doing it for the right reason" and I'm sick of it. If it's wrong, then it's WRONG. Unjustifiably so, stop making excuses.

So, in terms of 'caring', yes I had a roof over my head and soup to eat, but a homeless shelter does the same thing. I'm not ungrateful, but all he ever was to me was a biological parent, not a fatherly figure in the slightest.

Reply 6

marple

Original post by castmesoftly

Call Shelter 0808 800 4444 for advice. They will be able to tell you what help etc is available in your area

Hope things work out for you

Reply 7

Nunchuck-master-2334

Original post by castmesoftly

Your dad is obviously wrong in the head.
Tell him that Mvine001 said that and get him to reply.
We'll see what happens then. :angry:

Reply 8

castmesoftly

Original post by nemanuel96

College and, by extension, Uni. I told him I wanted to enroll in college, he said he knew I would fail so he wasn't going to waste anything on me for that. He kept me in Saudi till last month when he sent me here to work (unpaid) for my uncle (his brother).

So of course I can't just off and join a uni. I have no one here in England, no source of income.

As for the religious end, apprently I've been lax -_-

Reply 9

shawtyb

well as your 18, try moving out instead...just a thought?

Reply 10

castmesoftly

Original post by marple

Call Shelter 0808 800 4444 for advice. They will be able to tell you what help etc is available in your area

Hope things work out for you

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It seems...final. I don't know. I'm hesitant. Should I? Seems like a commitment to the end of this all :'/

Reply 11

nemanuel96

Original post by castmesoftly

I can sympathise with you and acknowledge that it is not that easy to just move out. Do tell someone about this whether it be a GP, counselling line etc.

This partly why I hate religion, **** like this gets my blood boiling. He has no right to tell you that you're going to fail as he has absolutely no idea what you are capable of academically.

If you do decide to move out, tell the council about your situation and write a letter to your local MP about the situation. They should try and sort housing out for you.

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Reply 12

castmesoftly

Hahaha. I do wish this would accomplish something bro :')

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Reply 13

castmesoftly

Original post by shawtyb

well as your 18, try moving out instead...just a thought?

I would, but nowhere to go. I'm not fussy at all, I slept bedless in the living room on the floor for 5 years, I eat little, I never complain about anything, I work hard, I'm dedicated. So if there's anyplace that could use a Me, I would love to find it!

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Reply 14

shawtyb

Original post by castmesoftly

try a hostel? ymca or something like that.
i left home when i was 15 and sofa surfed till i was 16 and then went straight into a hostel

Reply 15

MrsSheldonCooper

Have you looked at Centrepoint OP?

Reply 16

castmesoftly

Original post by nemanuel96

Thanks :3

Yeah it's all a bit shakey for me, I'm going to reach out and inquire ahout assistance of some sort.

Academically I think I'm rather gifted, I don't mean to be immodest. I passed 7 igcses, all self-taught with extremely outdated books, highly improper preperation times, and 0 internet access. 3(A* ), 2(A), 1(C).

Rigt now, I do think moving out is the best option for me...

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Reply 17

castmesoftly

Original post by shawtyb

try a hostel? ymca or something like that.
i left home when i was 15 and sofa surfed till i was 16 and then went straight into a hostel

I'm researching all possible avenues available to me, how was the experience, may I ask?

I wanna know wth I'm getting myself into rn :&

Thanks so much!

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