Ex deleted me. This stings a lot more than I thought it would...

So my ex and I broke up a few months ago. We’ve officially been no contact for a month now. A month ago he reached out to me and we talked like old times. I then reached out to him over a week later and he just completely ignored me. We haven’t talked since. I made sure to block his texts and phone calls. For those of you who don’t have Snapchat you post something, it appears on your timeline as a thumbnail, people view it, and it shows you who has viewed your snaps.

Ok so on Snapchat I never looked at his snaps during our break up. He other hand did a lot, but eventually that came to a stop. The last time he looked was the last time he made contact. I saw that he posted something the day before Halloween (didn’t open it and look though). The next day was my friend’s birthday and I went out and posted things, then I was out with my friends the next day and posted things for Halloween (us out and dressed up), and then lastly on Sunday for my friend’s birthday lunch. After that I hadn’t posted anything for another 3 or 4 days (just the pretty foliage of that day). A lot of people post every day so I really don’t snap a lot.

Last week something told me to just go check. Lo and behold he deleted me, so he clearly did it between within that week time frame that I just mentioned above. He didn't delete my friend though. Although she hasn't used Snapchat in a few months so I just chalked it up to him forgetting about her...

I've been going out and trying to keep my mind off things and I know it’s social media but him deleting me stung A LOT. Like he just doesn’t care or that I annoy him. I don’t know how to explain it. I’m also just confused because I never looked at his stuff…

So my ex and I broke up a few months ago. We’ve officially been no contact for a month now. A month ago he reached out to me and we talked like old times. I then reached out to him over a week later and he just completely ignored me. We haven’t talked since. I made sure to block his texts and phone calls. For those of you who don’t have Snapchat you post something, it appears on your timeline as a thumbnail, people view it, and it shows you who has viewed your snaps.

Ok so on Snapchat I never looked at his snaps during our break up. He other hand did a lot, but eventually that came to a stop. The last time he looked was the last time he made contact. I saw that he posted something the day before Halloween (didn’t open it and look though). The next day was my friend’s birthday and I went out and posted things, then I was out with my friends the next day and posted things for Halloween (us out and dressed up), and then lastly on Sunday for my friend’s birthday lunch. After that I hadn’t posted anything for another 3 or 4 days (just the pretty foliage of that day). A lot of people post every day so I really don’t snap a lot.

Last week something told me to just go check. Lo and behold he deleted me, so he clearly did it between within that week time frame that I just mentioned above. He didn't delete my friend though. Although she hasn't used Snapchat in a few months so I just chalked it up to him forgetting about her...

I've been going out and trying to keep my mind off things and I know it’s social media but him deleting me stung A LOT. Like he just doesn’t care or that I annoy him. I don’t know how to explain it. I’m also just confused because I never looked at his stuff…

I agree. It sucks but it's really like ripping of a plaster. Pain now, but ultimately better for you.

Thanks. I don’t know I guess this is just my first time going through this (an ex shutting me out completely when nothing happened). We didn’t even break up because of a lack of feelings or because it just wasn’t working per se. I put my foot in my mouth and said something stupid and backed off for a while. Then in turn he backed off and it just became this stupid stand off to not say anything and that’s pretty much how we got here. So because nothing really happened I’m just having a difficult time wrapping my mind around him trying to get rid of me completely.

All this stinging a lot is silly. No time for it and neither should you.

You have split. the best way to move on quickly is to cut all contact and get on with your lives.

All this checking on who has looked at whose accounts is ridiculous and a complete waste of time. He did you a favour. Didnt you say you had already blocked him? How can you be surprised if he deleted a blocked account?

Move on and enjoy yourself.

Thanks. I don’t know I guess this is just my first time going through this (an ex shutting me out completely when nothing happened). We didn’t even break up because of a lack of feelings or because it just wasn’t working per se. I put my foot in my mouth and said something stupid and backed off for a while. Then in turn he backed off and it just became this stupid stand off to not say anything and that’s pretty much how we got here. So because nothing really happened I’m just having a difficult time wrapping my mind around him trying to get rid of me completely.

Easier said than done

Only she can do it.

She can either take the most straightforward and efficient route or she can tie herself up in knots and waste energy worrying about something that nobody but her is bothered about and wont amount to anything.

Her choice.

If he's refusing to even talk to you, then he isn't worth it. Think of it this way: you dodged a bullet.

You clearly still love him. Why are you running away from him?

You're missing what typicalvirgo is saying.

Look during this process you're going to have set backs and right now you're having one. I'm sure he was having one too and that's why he deleted you. I'm sure seeing you post hurts for him to see. He still cares but he's just trying to reign in his feelings right now. It's frustrating and painful. To alleviate that it's best to remove the source aka you and for you him. If you were a good person to him and things didn't end on a bad note he'll more than likely come back. Not to say wait for him though. Continue to go out and NC

And obviously the guy is bothered as well. If he wasn't he wouldn't have deleted her.

He doesn't want me around lol :/