Possible Sexual Assault?

Something happened to my friend the other night and I've been thinking about it a lot and i'm failing to come to a conclusion about the situation. This is told in her narritive.
There is this guy that I've seen on a couple of occasions and invited him over to my house for film nights and nothing else. Each time he came, we kissed but that was it and although he asked on every of those occasions if we could have sex or do more, l always said no and made up an excuses each time as I was too embarrassed to tell him why. I was in fact a virgin and at university at the age of 19 where everyone is having sex but you, its an embarrassing thing for me to admit.
Before I explain the rest of the story, let me just point out that this guy does not drink at all and had never drank a drop of alcohol in his entire life.
So a couple of nights ago, l went out with some friends and I got very drunk. I bumped into him at the club and he pulled me away from my friends and l was with him for about 30 minutes. he was encouraging me to finish the alcoholic drink I had at the time even though I was planning on putting it down, l downed the drink nonetheless.
I asked him to come back to mine and he offered to drive us since he brought his car to the club. I took the offer and when we got to mine, we made out and I remember both of us taking our clothes off and a lot of things are blurry from then on but I do remember him asking if we could do other things and me saying no and when he asked why, I clearly said it was because I was too drunk. then I remember him penetrating me and me telling him to stop after a minute ad l think he did a minute later.
the next day, he woke up being rather shady and left quickly which I thought was really strange but I didn't pay much attention to it because I was very hungover. When I got out of bed, that's when I felt incredible pain down there and saw spots of blood.
I'm not interested in reporting it or anything nor am I deeply traumatised by the experience but I have cut the guy off and no longer consider him to be a decent bloke.
I am interested to hear what you guys think. I don't think it was rape but my biggest issue with the whole situation is that he was completely sober and I was very drunk. I had said no on all the previous occasions so why would he think I wanted to have sex with him when I was drunk?

I don't want to put my opinion across here- however having sex with someone under the influence of alcohol is considered rape by law due to the fact that consent cannot be given when in that frame of mind.

Wholly incorrect. You can have a few drinks and have sex. It may be illegal when the other person is intoxicated and can't consent (big difference from being under the influence).

Don't stray from the thread though. This isn't about debating the issue of intoxication and consent in general, but about the OPs specific case.

And sounds like clear rape to me. Can't be more clear than saying no.

Wholly incorrect. You can have a few drinks and have sex. It may be illegal when the other person is intoxicated and can't consent (big difference from being under the influence).

Well- if you want to try and say otherwise, that's fine, however where I come from not being able to remember what happened is classed as being intoxicated.

Exactly. And intoxicated is different from being 'under the influence'.

Right?
But she couldn't remember what happened. She was drunk and this guy took advantage of her.
It doesn't matter how you put it- it was rape- if you say otherwise you're probably one of the people who do this type of stuff

I'd suggest you read my posts... Particularly the ones that state this is clear rape. Otherwise comments like you're making become invalid and look very stupid very quickly.

And in this instance the girl was intoxicated, not 'under the influence of alcohol', again - two different things. I'm highlighting this for the benefit of people reading this - because people like you confuse the situation with lies and incoherent statements.

Can't remember/intoxicated - yes, rape.

Few beers/under the influence - not 'illegal' as you make out, and isn't rape on the basis of being unable to answer - instead it's rape if the under the influence person says no - which they will be in a fit state to do.

This can't be made any clearer. I hope I've made it as simple as I think I have for you to understand.

So I meant intoxicated and not under the influence- I apologise. Can we all calm down now please?

Something happened to my friend the other night and I've been thinking about it a lot and i'm failing to come to a conclusion about the situation. This is told in her narritive.
There is this guy that I've seen on a couple of occasions and invited him over to my house for film nights and nothing else. Each time he came, we kissed but that was it and although he asked on every of those occasions if we could have sex or do more, l always said no and made up an excuses each time as I was too embarrassed to tell him why. I was in fact a virgin and at university at the age of 19 where everyone is having sex but you, its an embarrassing thing for me to admit.
Before I explain the rest of the story, let me just point out that this guy does not drink at all and had never drank a drop of alcohol in his entire life.
So a couple of nights ago, l went out with some friends and I got very drunk. I bumped into him at the club and he pulled me away from my friends and l was with him for about 30 minutes. he was encouraging me to finish the alcoholic drink I had at the time even though I was planning on putting it down, l downed the drink nonetheless.
I asked him to come back to mine and he offered to drive us since he brought his car to the club. I took the offer and when we got to mine, we made out and I remember both of us taking our clothes off and a lot of things are blurry from then on but I do remember him asking if we could do other things and me saying no and when he asked why, I clearly said it was because I was too drunk. then I remember him penetrating me and me telling him to stop after a minute ad l think he did a minute later.
the next day, he woke up being rather shady and left quickly which I thought was really strange but I didn't pay much attention to it because I was very hungover. When I got out of bed, that's when I felt incredible pain down there and saw spots of blood.
I'm not interested in reporting it or anything nor am I deeply traumatised by the experience but I have cut the guy off and no longer consider him to be a decent bloke.
I am interested to hear what you guys think. I don't think it was rape but my biggest issue with the whole situation is that he was completely sober and I was very drunk. I had said no on all the previous occasions so why would he think I wanted to have sex with him when I was drunk?

Clear rape - agreed. And more fact checking than straying before some poor guy reads this and refuses to be intimate with his girlfriend this christmas incase there's brandy in her Christmas Pudding sauce! That said, point taken.