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Left all schooling years with truly no friends. Forever alone if I don't get to uni?

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I am sorry that you feel this way.

Have you spoken/considered to speak to someone about this?
You can make friends outside of university - work, clubs, etc.
You'll always meet people at work, but it's incredibly hard to cross that barrier and become "proper" friends who do stuff out of the office unless the other person is in a similar situation to you.
Original post by Wisefire
Exactly. I am only going to get stronger and richer friendships and connections at university, one reason of many behind me for why I do not want to ever leave education.

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To be honest most uni friendships are just as temporary - once you're scattered all over the country you'll quickly see people disappear from your life as quickly as they entered it. I think that's adult life in general though where most friendships are made out of convenience.

You'll meet people you get on with and do keep in touch with though, it's impossible not to, even I managed to make friends and i have the social skills of a 5 year old.
Original post by Wisefire
I left all of my years of schooling with truly no friends whatsoever in May 2015, and also with no A2s. I only have GCSEs and AS-Levels. I am now doing an Access course in order to get to wishfully a good university. I had offers from Manchester and Nottingham while in a boy's private school, miserably outcast in it. I went through a great deal of over thinking and distress in my final year at that boy's school, thoughts which have ruined my life.

I have a terrible past I am terrifically anxious about getting a life and getting happy from. I am desperately sad and lonely. I left this boy's private school in May 2015, and ever since that point, for the last 18 months, I had essentially been doing nothing more with my life in order to get towards getting a life. I didn't get back to studying/continuing with my A-Levels at a college in September 2015, nor have I even gotten myself a job in all of this time. I should've gotten myself a job long ago. What I had been doing from May 2015 to September 2016, nothing at all but solitarily wander the entirety of London for free (with a special oyster card I have), go to the gym sometimes, and use mobile phone apps, being a NEET, was my fault and my choice. Being idle has lost me so much life and time.

I am back in education again, as a 19 year old nearing the age of 20, doing an Access to HE Diploma in Business Studies. I have to make the most of my life with each new and remaining day I have. I have an awful past, and this bad experience out of the real world, doing nothing, behind me.

I want to remain within education for a long time to make up for my past and how I feel. I am applying for Business/Management degrees at UCL, Durham, Manchester and Nottingham this year with my Access course.


The point of this thread is to ask the question of what the hell do I do to get a social life from a base of having truly no friends at all, if I do not ever ensconce myself in education/get to university? If I do not get to university and simply hold goddamn jobs from this point in my life onward, well, I'd be some lonely piece of slaving meat in my eyes.


stop caring so much about education and improve your social skills,. go to social events, meet new people, try dating apps if your that deseprate
Original post by Wisefire
I left all of my years of schooling with truly no friends whatsoever in May 2015, and also with no A2s. I only have GCSEs and AS-Levels. I am now doing an Access course in order to get to wishfully a good university. I had offers from Manchester and Nottingham while in a boy's private school, miserably outcast in it. I went through a great deal of over thinking and distress in my final year at that boy's school, thoughts which have ruined my life.

I have a terrible past I am terrifically anxious about getting a life and getting happy from. I am desperately sad and lonely. I left this boy's private school in May 2015, and ever since that point, for the last 18 months, I had essentially been doing nothing more with my life in order to get towards getting a life. I didn't get back to studying/continuing with my A-Levels at a college in September 2015, nor have I even gotten myself a job in all of this time. I should've gotten myself a job long ago. What I had been doing from May 2015 to September 2016, nothing at all but solitarily wander the entirety of London for free (with a special oyster card I have), go to the gym sometimes, and use mobile phone apps, being a NEET, was my fault and my choice. Being idle has lost me so much life and time.

I am back in education again, as a 19 year old nearing the age of 20, doing an Access to HE Diploma in Business Studies. I have to make the most of my life with each new and remaining day I have. I have an awful past, and this bad experience out of the real world, doing nothing, behind me.

I want to remain within education for a long time to make up for my past and how I feel. I am applying for Business/Management degrees at UCL, Durham, Manchester and Nottingham this year with my Access course.


The point of this thread is to ask the question of what the hell do I do to get a social life from a base of having truly no friends at all, if I do not ever ensconce myself in education/get to university? If I do not get to university and simply hold goddamn jobs from this point in my life onward, well, I'd be some lonely piece of slaving meat in my eyes.



You're not alone because lots of people are in the same situation but even if you went to uni does not guarantee you will make friends as a lot of people experience this too and are really lonely because they made no friends but they don't realise they have to make the effort just by asking people in or outside of their class if they can join them but you can try to help yourself over come this problem by doing all these things but also just sign up with
www. Citysocializer or look it up on google. It's a friendship website but also you can meet a potential partner on it as it shows profiles of people who are single aswell as any one who lives in your area and once you sign up you get messages from peopke inviting you to go out on group events. I think it's brilliant for anyone who has no friends or do not see friends often and the best thing is if you did not make long lasting friendships on it at least you can meet up with different people to go to different events and you won't be lonely because everyone else on it is in the same situation as yourself. It's free to to sign up but if you want to reply back to anyone who contacts you then it cost £6 66 a month but that is cheap and well worth it.
Even though some websites say London still sign up with them to see what they are like and contact them by email to ask if they have similar where ever you live as a lot of them have sister companies in all areas including out side of London

And try www. Meet up London. com which is a free friendsip website.

If you go uni you must go to other people to try to make friends, if someone you like is in the same class as you just ask if you can join them at lunch breaks or if you see other people who are always on their own just ask to hang out with them as it's easier to talk to people if they are alone.

I assume you do not have a girlfriend either so if you see a girl you like on the street, at a bus stop or on the bus, in a train station or actually while sitting in the train, or leaving the station ,uni, college, supermarket, library, coffee shop, cinema, after you leave a bar or club and have not met anyone inside you can still ask someone out as they are leaving or outside, etc, etc just ask them on a date as men have always asked me out on the street and all those other places i mentioned. You can start off pretending to ask for the time or directions then introduce yourself.

Apply online to www. Match . com to meet a partner as they organise singles nights too sometimes

To get a job sign up with several different employment agencies on the high street like Reed and other agencies because agencies are the best way to get a job but only if you apply with several because most people only sign up with one then if they are not offered a job they give up but only choose good agencies not the one's that only have envelope filling, warehouse and cleaning jobs. Avoid those one's that is why i wrote Reed because they get people office jobs aswell as all other types.

Type employment agencies on google in your area you live and a long list will come up then you ring a few for an appointment then they will get you a job or you can ask for a part time job if you want to go back to uni or college

Sign up online with Reed and apply for jobs as Trainee Recruitment Consultants because you need no prior experience and some pay a lot of money and give lots of benefits such as free holidays abroad
Also sign up online with CV Library as i get so many replies back for interviews from those 2 but because i went back to college 2 months ago to do a music course i can only take a part time job to fit in with my course hours
Also sign online with Indeed and Monster as they are good too
Original post by Wisefire
I should attempt these things. I should join clubs/societies too, or try short courses like in Art or language courses in order to meet new people. Of course, I have to care massively about education, for a happy future work-wise and to have a strong and happy running social life. In education you meet the most people.

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ok then you stay in education then lol
Original post by Wisefire
I am sad because of this. I recognise being in education is a much, much better and more efficient and likelier way of getting a strong social and sex life and is where the most happiness and satisfaction with life comes from. However, it increasingly feels like I am not at all terribly academically able and unable to ever get myself to a satisfying university, e.g. Manchester.

If I do ultimately never go to university, my question is on and the point of making this thread is how the hell do I go about getting a social life, and girls, and becoming happy? I will just be a jobs slave, for example working in Burger King or in a dead end slavish job hardly stretching my life.

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are you alright? how can going to school or uni, ie education be the only way for you to socialise?
Original post by Wisefire
I left all of my years of schooling with truly no friends whatsoever in May 2015, and also with no A2s. I only have GCSEs and AS-Levels. I am now doing an Access course in order to get to wishfully a good university. I had offers from Manchester and Nottingham while in a boy's private school, miserably outcast in it. I went through a great deal of over thinking and distress in my final year at that boy's school, thoughts which have ruined my life.

I have a terrible past I am terrifically anxious about getting a life and getting happy from. I am desperately sad and lonely. I left this boy's private school in May 2015, and ever since that point, for the last 18 months, I had essentially been doing nothing more with my life in order to get towards getting a life. I didn't get back to studying/continuing with my A-Levels at a college in September 2015, nor have I even gotten myself a job in all of this time. I should've gotten myself a job long ago. What I had been doing from May 2015 to September 2016, nothing at all but solitarily wander the entirety of London for free (with a special oyster card I have), go to the gym sometimes, and use mobile phone apps, being a NEET, was my fault and my choice. Being idle has lost me so much life and time.

I am back in education again, as a 19 year old nearing the age of 20, doing an Access to HE Diploma in Business Studies. I have to make the most of my life with each new and remaining day I have. I have an awful past, and this bad experience out of the real world, doing nothing, behind me.

I want to remain within education for a long time to make up for my past and how I feel. I am applying for Business/Management degrees at UCL, Durham, Manchester and Nottingham this year with my Access course.


The point of this thread is to ask the question of what the hell do I do to get a social life from a base of having truly no friends at all, if I do not ever ensconce myself in education/get to university? If I do not get to university and simply hold goddamn jobs from this point in my life onward, well, I'd be some lonely piece of slaving meat in my eyes.



Contact Learners direct.com or look them up on google in the area you live
Their number is 0208 509 1666
They help people get jobs as they have connections with lots of employers.
I am going there on Wednesday hoping to get a job that will fit in with my college hours as i found out they can send me for a picker job in Tesco warehouse and the pay is good at £8 or £10 an hour
You did AS. You just need A2s to get to university or do you realistically think looking at your GCSE grades and AS grades there is not much hope of good A2s?

Why do you want or need friends? I love my own company. not everyone has to have a load of friends to be happy.If you do want friends just join things clubs, choirs or whatever your interests are.

Have you considered a year working abroad just to get a different perspective on life?
Original post by Wisefire
I am sad because of this. I recognise being in education is a much, much better and more efficient and likelier way of getting a strong social and sex life and is where the most happiness and satisfaction with life comes from. However, it increasingly feels like I am not at all terribly academically able and unable to ever get myself to a satisfying university, e.g. Manchester.

If I do ultimately never go to university, my question is on and the point of making this thread is how the hell do I go about getting a social life, and girls, and becoming happy? I will just be a jobs slave, for example working in Burger King or in a dead end slavish job hardly stretching my life.

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I do not know what planet you are on but there is no guarantee you will make friends, get a girlfriend or any type of sex life by going to uni because most people are lonely, friendless and single and extremely miserable at uni because of this.
But everyone still needs to get a part time job at uni to support themselves but still no guarantee you will make friends at work either. It's just luck for some people if they never experienced having good friends, etc
But to try to help yourself and to make sure you can make friends if you do go uni you will have to ask other people if you can join them to go to lunch with them or to socialise with them outside of uni and to ask girls out because it will not just fall into your lap. Or look out for other people who are always on their own to make friends with as they are easier to approach and probably in the same situation as you.
whatever you enjoy, there is an online community and in about 90% of cases a real life community you can be part of. What are your hobbies??

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