Will you change your name if you get married?

Yeah if I got married I would definitely change my name. I think if I didn't change it, it would show disrespect to the husband and show that I dont love him as much as other couples who have changed their name.

I don't believe men and women are the same.

But I like to know that if we do reach an impasse on an important issue, ultimately, my way goes.

That is why she can't keep her name or hyphenate because it would be a rejection of my authority.

The desire to be an alpha male and to be control of the direction of the family exists to varying degrees in most men. That is why for most men the idea of taking a woman's name is a unthinkable. There is no point pretending it is not a power thing because it is.

You don't have to be married to change your name, js

Me and my boyfriend of 6 years are at each others throats about this on a regular basis. I don't understand the need for me to change my name when I get married. Personally I think its a massively outdated tradition that I shouldn't have to adhere to. I don't understand why I am expected to shed something to important to my identity just because its 'what everyone does'. My boyfriend on the other hand thinks it shows unity and closeness, he point blank refuses the thought of marriage if I wont take his name. Not only this but he says his family would be offended especially his grandparents. Am I being insensitive to his feelings by refusing? I am anything but a feminist this part of life just doesn't sit right with me.

You're a cretin, good luck in life lmao

I would hope that my future wife would take my surname and if I was a woman I would be happy to, it is a tradition and I like it. but each to their own.

I would love to what you like on this tradition exactly. Would you like this tradition, if it were vice versa in the past?

Yes I would not mind, I feel if it is a continuation of my ancestors and traditions do not always have to really have a logical/good reason

you realise that those that insist that the traditional dictionary definition of "feminism" still applying are those that are severely out of touch with the feminist movement or running damage control for the fact that most feminists now are actually against equality? do you understand that the descriptions of words change over time based on their reception? does the word "liberal" mean what it once did 200 years ago? does the word "nice" mean "silly" even though that was the meaning of that word hundreds and hundreds of years ago in the english language? so if you saw a person calling a "pleasant" person "nice" would you give them a bloody good lecturing about how rude they've been? no? so why would you do it here when the word "feminism", descriptively (not prescriptively) means "a movement whereby women try and degrade men and blame them for any kind of short coming of women"? that's literally what it is. they don't want equality or else why do they never stand up for *any* innocent men? they will defend women who falsely accuse men of rape and base it on things like "oh she was clearly mentally sick" while the man wouldn't even be morally relevant to them. "equality" my ****ing ass. if feminism means equality then that would literally mean that all feminists by definition are mens' rights activists! I suppose they'll be happy to learn about this logic! dictionary definitions are magical!

... Please tell me I'm not the only one who finds this behaviour genuinely unsettling.

I'd like for my future wife to take my name. In my view, it shows that the two of you are starting a new life together and I'd personally be quite upset if she didn't want to take my name, but then again I wouldn't refuse to marry someone over it.