How do you cope with grief?

male - I never cry
if I'm intensely upset, I'll just push through and keep my head in a positive space
but sometimes there's a time and a place for grief
if you failed an exam, for example, it would be ludicrous not to put yourself through some grief, or else how will you learn from such a mistake?
sometimes if I feel I've really ****ed up, I'll have some alone time and some time to recuperate and lesson-draw

Never ever?

Have you had a proper loss? I realise OP said on the previous page 'not too deep' stuff but...


Male - would normally be gym. Kick myself for poor essay grade or whatever. V quickly get over it once i have very logically worked out how i will rectify it.

Can easily then forget about it and be happy the next day unlike my mum or sister.


Proper grief - cry. Deep depression. Lasted for weeks. Only happened once, most family deaths i show little emotion. Rarely cry, has to really be a 'loss'

I tend to cry and stay in my room and stop eating.
The loss of my dad put me in a really dark place though, I just found it difficult to cope with.

I wasn't talking specifically about loss of loved ones which is one of the worst things people experience, but something which everyone experiences, I generally meant day to day nonsense like breakups, exams, stuff which isn't that deep.

I don't cope with it. I wallow in self pity.

Use grief seed

well, I had clinical depression when I was about 17 or 18 - real, hardcore life-dreading depression. so now I've kind of built up immunity to grief. my grandmother died a few weeks ago and even then I was close to crying. I've been almost crying through hard break ups. but still, the more depression and grief you get in life, the easier it gets to deal with. it toughens you up because your default expectation from life isn't happiness but just moderation. a lot of people tend to expect too much from life and that's why they end up physically crying. my advice to them is to chill out and understand that life doesn't owe you jack ****. you are merely 1 out of several billion people and if you aren't satisfied with life then join the club.

Feel you bro.

I find it really sad that so many males have a default "me cry? Never!" response.
Your emotions serve a purpose, they are not a sign of weakness.

But being afraid of your own emotions can perhaps be a sign of weakness.

So man up, and shed a tear or two occassionally. Might do you some good.

Feel you bro.

I find it really sad that so many males have a default "me cry? Never!" response.
Your emotions serve a purpose, they are not a sign of weakness.

But being afraid of your own emotions can perhaps be a sign of weakness.

So man up, and shed a tear or two occassionally. Might do you some good.

im sorry to hear that