My little sister is changing for the worse

She was (and probably still is) the person who I cared about most in this world. Now she has gone wild and is smoking cigarettes and weed, having no regard for her health. She has admitted to doing other drugs like cocaine and won't listen when I try to advise her to stop. I even bribed her with a monthly allowance if she agreed to stop but she hasn't.

She and I got into a fight after she left her cigarettes in my room and went off travelling. I texted to tell her that they were going in the bin, then she got angry, thinking that I had thrown them away. It's ridiculous that we would fight over cigarettes and I feel that this proves she is changing for the worse.

I lost a lot of people over the past two years, but wasn't prepared for this at all. It makes me feel even more alone, but I'm not about to accept her behaviour just to appease her, when I clearly think it's wrong and that she's harming herself. I told her that if she lets these things continue to control her life, she will lose everyone who mattered. I just don't know how to make her see sense and would like some advice.

She was (and probably still is) the person who I cared about most in this world. Now she has gone wild and is smoking cigarettes and weed, having no regard for her health. She has admitted to doing other drugs like cocaine and won't listen when I try to advise her to stop. I even bribed her with a monthly allowance if she agreed to stop but she hasn't.

She and I got into a fight after she left her cigarettes in my room and went off travelling. I texted to tell her that they were going in the bin, then she got angry, thinking that I had thrown them away. It's ridiculous that we would fight over cigarettes and I feel that this proves she is changing for the worse.

I lost a lot of people over the past two years, but wasn't prepared for this at all. It makes me feel even more alone, but I'm not about to accept her behaviour just to appease her, when I clearly think it's wrong and that she's harming herself. I told her that if she lets these things continue to control her life, she will lose everyone who mattered. I just don't know how to make her see sense and would like some advice.

Chill out you're not her mum, let her smoke her ****, she might grow out of it or she might not. None of your business.

Unless she's like 11 but it doesn't sound like it.

This is really heartbreaking. I can't imagine what it feels like to have to watch her basically destroying her life. Is there any way you could get her help? Are there any parents in the picture?

As someone who is basically there to protect her, it is their business. Or would you rather she get introduced to more harmful drugs, given how easily influenced she sounds, and end up physically damaged or dead?

My parents are, but they don't know what she gets up to and I worry about dropping another bomb on them when they're already going through so much. They don't deserve this .

I will sit here down and talk to her tomorrow one last time. If that doesn't work, I may have to get another family member involved.

Chill out you're not her mum, let her smoke her ****, she might grow out of it or she might not. None of your business.

Unless she's like 11 but it doesn't sound like it.

think you're being a bit melodramatic. would have a word about the cocaine but sounds like she's just having more fun than you.

You can only live your own life and let others live theirs. Maybe she'll regret those decisions, maybe she'll be glad that she had all the fun that I'm sure she's having... who knows. It isn't up to you to decide. The more you tell her what to do the more you will push her away.

How old is she?

She's 19. I want her to have fun and don't care about all the drinking and the partying but the drugs will ruin her life. If she was only smoking weed once in a while, it wouldn't matter. But she smokes it regularly and has admitted that she is sort of dependent on cigarettes now. How will she get out of the habit?

You don't actually make any sense. Why would she listen to him about one and not the other

Is she at uni? Is she studying? Has she got plans for the future?

Taking drugs and partying doesn't ruin your life if you continue with your life at the same time and do it in moderation. 19 is an acceptable age for this.

Cigarettes are something unfortunately many people pick up and take ages to drop the habit (if addicted) and will probably affect them in many years, but you cannot STOP a person doing something they want to do... especially when it is an addiction like smoking. You just have to let her be. She is not you and you can't hold her to your standards or make her think like you because she's her own person.

Chill out you're not her mum, let her smoke her ****, she might grow out of it or she might not. None of your business.

Unless she's like 11 but it doesn't sound like it.

I was gonna say I totally get op because I'd do anything for my little siblings, one who is an 11 yr old girl actually.

And she could be 11 you know.

She's 19. I want her to have fun and don't care about all the drinking and the partying but the drugs will ruin her life. If she was only smoking weed once in a while, it wouldn't matter. But she smokes it regularly and has admitted that she is sort of dependent on cigarettes now. How will she get out of the habit?

As someone who is basically there to protect her, it is their business. Or would you rather she get introduced to more harmful drugs, given how easily influenced she sounds, and end up physically damaged or dead?

Maybe if he approaches the issue in a calm and non-judgemental way instead of having a strop and throwing her cigs away