How to stop masturbating and watching p o r n?

I'm a girl with a high sex drive, i already know that. I watch porn and masturabate admittingly but I want to stop, as well as keep myself pure aka not meddling with anyone before marriage.

People with habits will know it is hard to stop a habit. Unfortunately i have gotten into the habit of watching porn and masturbating which is bad because i really want stop before I do eventually have sex with a guy but then realise it isn't what it is in porn because porn is unrealistic.

How do i stop????

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Reply 1

Novascope

17

Original post by Kalikuku

I'm a girl with a high sex drive, i already know that. I watch porn and masturabate admittingly but I want to stop, as well as keep myself pure aka not meddling with anyone before marriage.

People with habits will know it is hard to stop a habit. Unfortunately i have gotten into the habit of watching porn and masturbating which is bad because i really want stop before I do eventually have sex with a guy but then realise it isn't what it is in porn because porn is unrealistic.

How do i stop????

Well you've already acknowledged that you know whatever you experience in person will be different to the porn you've watched so that's good. If watching porn and masturbating is really getting in the way of your life and affecting your relationships then you should probably speak to someone professional lol. Otherwise all you probably can do is block porn from your computer and distract yourself with other stuff

Reply 2

Dafock

15

Original post by Kalikuku

I'm a girl with a high sex drive, i already know that. I watch porn and masturabate admittingly but I want to stop, as well as keep myself pure aka not meddling with anyone before marriage.

People with habits will know it is hard to stop a habit. Unfortunately i have gotten into the habit of watching porn and masturbating which is bad because i really want stop before I do eventually have sex with a guy but then realise it isn't what it is in porn because porn is unrealistic.

How do i stop????

Why stop? masturbating is great in all ways (unless you do it 39 times in a day and die, but try to forget about that legend). Porn isnt like the real thing becuase the real thing is soooo much better. The only time you have to worry about crap sex is if you've been with the same person a long time and no longer love em.

If you dont want to do anything before marriage then masturbating is going to be the only thing that stops you having a mental breakdown.

Reply 3

tapir

8

Original post by Kalikuku

I'm a girl with a high sex drive, i already know that. I watch porn and masturabate admittingly but I want to stop, as well as keep myself pure aka not meddling with anyone before marriage.

People with habits will know it is hard to stop a habit. Unfortunately i have gotten into the habit of watching porn and masturbating which is bad because i really want stop before I do eventually have sex with a guy but then realise it isn't what it is in porn because porn is unrealistic.

How do i stop????

You have to realize the negative effects. It can lead to you not having not much self control/discipline and you will become jaded to sex. When you finally have sex with a guy, it's going to be not nearly as special or exciting. People who are porn addicts tend to have a lot of weird fetishes or be into really kinky porn because eventually they get tired of the same old same old- they get desensitized. A lot of the time I think masturbation leads to fetishes instead of the other way around. You might not particularly proud of what ends up getting you off.

You have good point about porn being unrealistic. Everything in porn is perfect and choreographed. No one finds the other person unattractive, there are no arguments, the sex isn't clumsy and no one makes mistakes, and there's no mention of STDs/testing/preganancy, even though they rarely use protection. I've seen plenty of times where women in porn had bumps on the inside of their vagina. *bleches*

People involved in the porn industry, by and large, are slimy and amoral people. They're exploitative. Some companies are run by criminal organizations. This is very common in Asia and Eastern Europe.

The guy who directed the movie Men in Black (Barry Sonnenfeld) used to be a porn director and said he was unable to get an erection for weeks after finding out how it's really made. He said the smell was intense.

If you masturbate chronically, there will be too much dopamine flooding the brain and you can get sort of numb/zombified after a while. It takes longer for female brains to recover and get back to "baseline" after orgasm. Maturbation can be like a drug- too much instant gratification can make everthing else except masturbation and the internet seem boring and not worth doing.

If you really want to stop masturbating, you should stop watching porn. Try installing web plugins that restrict access to certain websites (like porn sites) with a password (you can give the password to your friends) like Leechblock or something similar. Avoid looking up anything that may trigger you. You should also think about why you feel that it's wrong and how it's negatively affecting your life.

Don't think you can watch porn and not masturbate to it. With someone like you it's not going to happen. It's best you avoid it altogether.

Original post by Dafock

If you dont want to do anything before marriage then masturbating is going to be the only thing that stops you having a mental breakdown.

You have anything to back this up? It sounds like a lie invented by the sex industry to sell more products and get more site traffic. There's always a hidden agenda with this sort of thing.

Reply 4

Dafock

15

You have anything to back this up? It sounds like a lie invented by the sex industry to sell more products and get more site traffic. There's always a hidden agenda with this sort of thing.

Not per say, but i know it has been proven that an extended period of time without pleasure with a partner or by yourself can lead to depression in the majority of people.

Reply 5

tapir

8

Original post by Dafock

Not per say, but i know it has been proven that an extended period of time without pleasure with a partner or by yourself can lead to depression in the majority of people.

Pakistan is one of the largest consumers of porn in Asia, and they're basically the rape and pedophilia capital of the world. Also, most chronic masturbators are depressed, so masturbating doesn't exactly keep you from having mental breakdowns.

Reply 6

username1726117

14

Original post by Kalikuku

I'm a girl with a high sex drive, i already know that. I watch porn and masturabate admittingly but I want to stop, as well as keep myself pure aka not meddling with anyone before marriage.

People with habits will know it is hard to stop a habit. Unfortunately i have gotten into the habit of watching porn and masturbating which is bad because i really want stop before I do eventually have sex with a guy but then realise it isn't what it is in porn because porn is unrealistic.

How do i stop????

I'll echo what @tapir is saying, more-or-less.

Porn is unrealistic but it can also have detrimental effects on one's health, well-being, and can possibly lead to addiction. In fact one of the first signs of a pornography addiction is telling yourself you intend to stop, and not being able to. Research into porn and it's effects is scarce and a lot of people would simply tell you to ignore the naysayers and continue to watch it; I won't suggest for or against, but if you believe it may be a bad thing for you then please consider stopping it completely. The same goes for masturbation, which would be the "lesser evil" in this scenario.

There are online communities such as NoFap and NoPorn that you may want to consider visiting.

Reply 7

Retired_Messiah

21

Might I suggest NoFap? They give pretty helpful advice on dealing with this sort of thing even if you don't get in on the weird af reddit subculture that makes it sound like masturbating one time is literally doomsday

Reply 8

webwolfwizard

7

Porn is the new drug, I believe it is very harmful, especially in nowadays society. EVERYONE and ANYONE can become clean from these things mentioned above, but it takes willpower, and restrictions to your life style. We cannot completely avoid everything, but we can develop thicker skin. First step is to acknowledge, next one is to eliminate anything that leads you to it. There are many ways, but don't forget, you are not alone, it's possible to change and mainly, you are WORTH MORE! Here is the place to go to find out more http://fightthenewdrug.org/ Very useful website. If people would know the effects, they would be a lot more careful. It does affect peoples lives massively!

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Reply 9

Johnsheppard99

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Original post by Kalikuku

I'm a girl with a high sex drive, i already know that. I watch porn and masturabate admittingly but I want to stop, as well as keep myself pure aka not meddling with anyone before marriage.

How do i stop????

Marry me?

Reply 10

xylas

21

Original post by tapir

You have to realize the negative effects. It can lead to you not having not much self control/discipline and you will become jaded to sex. When you finally have sex with a guy, it's going to be not nearly as special or exciting. People who are porn addicts tend to have a lot of weird fetishes or be into really kinky porn because eventually they get tired of the same old same old- they get desensitized. A lot of the time I think masturbation leads to fetishes instead of the other way around. You might not particularly proud of what ends up getting you off.

You have good point about porn being unrealistic. Everything in porn is perfect and choreographed. No one finds the other person unattractive, there are no arguments, the sex isn't clumsy and no one makes mistakes, and there's no mention of STDs/testing/preganancy, even though they rarely use protection. I've seen plenty of times where women in porn had bumps on the inside of their vagina. *bleches*

People involved in the porn industry, by and large, are slimy and amoral people. They're exploitative. Some companies are run by criminal organizations. This is very common in Asia and Eastern Europe.

The guy who directed the movie Men in Black (Barry Sonnenfeld) used to be a porn director and said he was unable to get an erection for weeks after finding out how it's really made. He said the smell was intense.

If you masturbate chronically, there will be too much dopamine flooding the brain and you can get sort of numb/zombified after a while. It takes longer for female brains to recover and get back to "baseline" after orgasm. Maturbation can be like a drug- too much instant gratification can make everthing else except masturbation and the internet seem boring and not worth doing.

If you really want to stop masturbating, you should stop watching porn. Try installing web plugins that restrict access to certain websites (like porn sites) with a password (you can give the password to your friends) like Leechblock or something similar. Avoid looking up anything that may trigger you. You should also think about why you feel that it's wrong and how it's negatively affecting your life.

Don't think you can watch porn and not masturbate to it. With someone like you it's not going to happen. It's best you avoid it altogether.

That is some serious bs you are spurting. You come across very biased (religious?), bigoted and ignorant sorry I have to tell you.

Reply 11

Drunk Punx

19

You guys sound so sexually repressed :rofl:

Seriously, watching a bit of porn whilst giving yourself a once over isn't going to kill you. Take it from someone who knows, eh?

Reply 12

tapir

8

Original post by xylas

That is some serious bs you are spurting. You come across very biased (religious?), bigoted and ignorant sorry I have to tell you.

Porn can be addicting and any kind of addiction is not good. If someone wants to stop and regain some self control, you're shouldn't enable them.

Reply 13

ZERØ

8

Original post by Kalikuku

I'm a girl with a high sex drive, i already know that. I watch porn and masturabate admittingly but I want to stop, as well as keep myself pure aka not meddling with anyone before marriage.

People with habits will know it is hard to stop a habit. Unfortunately i have gotten into the habit of watching porn and masturbating which is bad because i really want stop before I do eventually have sex with a guy but then realise it isn't what it is in porn because porn is unrealistic.

How do i stop????

Ok I know i'm not a girl but I had a similar experience as you. I could not go to sleep without masturbating, and i would usually wack off 1-3 times a day.

Now I got myself into a relationship (long distance) and I rarely touch myself. I know long distance and all that s h i t but tbh any relationship you start or hobby will reduce the amount of times you wack off.

I hope that helped :smile:

Reply 14

username775001

20

Original post by xylas

That is some serious bs you are spurting. You come across very biased (religious?), bigoted and ignorant sorry I have to tell you.

The poster is right porn is toxic stuff.
I felt the same way towards people who made all these claims about porn until I did some research.

Reply 15

niteninja1

22

Original post by Kalikuku

I'm a girl with a high sex drive, i already know that. I watch porn and masturabate admittingly but I want to stop, as well as keep myself pure aka not meddling with anyone before marriage.

People with habits will know it is hard to stop a habit. Unfortunately i have gotten into the habit of watching porn and masturbating which is bad because i really want stop before I do eventually have sex with a guy but then realise it isn't what it is in porn because porn is unrealistic.

How do i stop????

It's perfectly natural.

Don't stop or just have sex

You don't!

Original post by Dominoes

The poster is right porn is toxic stuff.
I felt the same way towards people who made all these claims about porn until I did some research.

Please share your research

Reply 18

lillyo

2

I feel like I was in the same position as you. Realising you are doing it too much is the first step and then you just have to make a conscious decision not to watch porn. If you feel the urge, go and do something else to distract your mind. If there is someone in your life then having sex with them is an even better alternative.

Plus, masturbating is normal so every once in a while - go for it!

Reply 19

Paris100

3

Why stop?

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