the only times I've ever done okay with girls is to treat them badly
literally: I even did an experiment about this, because I'm sad like that
I even got a girl to cheat on her boyfriend by suddenly being a dick to her, no joke. it was like pressing an "on" button with her.
I took another girl's virginity through that technique too. I literally ignored her and didn't invite her out to things that I'd invite her friends to. lol. although this doesn't *always* work, and being "nice" doesn't always fail. but it's generally the rule I go by
are you treating them badly? if not, maybe that's your issue. girls, whether they like it or not, love a good prick. they're strange like that.