I'm the only student in his class!

Hey guys,

For my own reasons, I won't specify what kind of qualification I am taking.

In my class, only 4 of the students are taking the higher qualification, including me, so we have a separate class after everyone else leaves.

The only problem is that the other 3 students rarely turn up! So I am usually the only one there and it's really awkward for me. I get really nervous because the door isn't open and although the only time my teacher sits next to me is to explain the work, I get really worried.

I feel like I am a bit paranoid because of the whole male teacher/female student situation and I don't know what to do! He's a good guy really and very professional. It worries me everyday and I feel a bit relieved typing this out.

Please give me some advice!

Hey guys,

For my own reasons, I won't specify what kind of qualification I am taking.

In my class, only 4 of the students are taking the higher qualification, including me, so we have a separate class after everyone else leaves.

The only problem is that the other 3 students rarely turn up! So I am usually the only one there and it's really awkward for me. I get really nervous because the door isn't open and although the only time my teacher sits next to me is to explain the work, I get really worried.

I feel like I am a bit paranoid because of the whole male teacher/female student situation and I don't know what to do! He's a good guy really and very professional. It worries me everyday and I feel a bit relieved typing this out.

Please give me some advice!

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Thank you guys, I do feel a lot better even though I question the fact that the door is closed. Should I point it out to him next time or would that make things awkward?

I can't help dear, but this sounds like a good basis for an erotic fanfic! Tell me dear, have you heard of Tumblr?

It's people like you that make me worried about becoming a male Biology teacher. I don't understand why 1 to 1 teaching would "worry" you... I don't think people understand that being a male doesn't automatically mean he intrinsically wants to molest you.

Would you act the same with with a male doctor?
Would you act the same with a male dentist?
Would you act the same with a male nurse?

How do you think the teacher would feel if he knew you constantly worried about the idea of him being inappropriate with you, when clearly he just wants to teach you the subject he's spent years and years studying. . . all those years of studying and training to become a teacher to then be treated like a child molester.

Sorry it just angers me beyond belief. It's also the exact same reason that I have chosen not to become a primary school teacher, because of this huge unreasonable stigma.

It's people like you that make me worried about becoming a male Biology teacher. I don't understand why 1 to 1 teaching would "worry" you... I don't think people understand that being a male doesn't automatically mean he intrinsically wants to molest you.

Would you act the same with with a male doctor?
Would you act the same with a male dentist?
Would you act the same with a male nurse?

How do you think the teacher would feel if he knew you constantly worried about the idea of him being inappropriate with you, when clearly he just wants to teach you the subject he's spent years and years studying. . . all those years of studying and training to become a teacher to then be treated like a child molester.

Sorry it just angers me beyond belief. It's also the exact same reason that I have chosen not to become a primary school teacher, because of this huge unreasonable stigma.

Take advantage of that and ask, ask, ask, it's better that way at least you won't feel embarrassed asking them silly ass questions. Bare in mind that when you feel awkward, he probably does too, there are many instances in life where people feel lonely in their thoughts, you're not alone, believe you me!

I don't worry that he will be inappropriate with me - I know he's a good person and I respect him. I am concerned about the way it looks to an outsider i.e. if another member of staff comes in. The room is kind of isolated too and there's rarely students or staff around the time my class is on.

I'm really sorry if my post upset you. I didn't mean anything bad about it, it was my own personal problem I wanted some advice on.

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But that member of staff will see it as him teaching you your subject? I mean, just think of it as having your own private tutor. He went through an Advanced Disclosure to be able to teach, gone to child protection courses, had it drilled into his head how to be appropriate with students. Other teachers will have gone through the exact same procedure and will perfectly understand there is nothing wrong with being in the same room with a student, teaching them.

Yes I realise this but I can't stop the worrying. That's why I came on here to get some advice on dealing with that