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Normal behaviour from boss?

I'm a girl in my 20s, and my boss must be almost 40. Not sure if he's married or not, but he's made several comments towards me, and i'm unsure if they're appropriate or not..

I dyed my hair darker the other week, and he told me that it 'looked amazing'. On 2 other occasions, he told me that I was/looked 'very pretty'.

Not sure whether the boss should be saying this or not? Just seems inappropriate to me... what do others think?
Sounds dodgy, is this like a part time job or proper one? x
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Original post by HollyGeordie
Sounds dodgy, is this like a part time job or proper one? x



This is my full-time job haha, he's not there every day, only once a week. But yeah, I don't know if he's just trying to be kind or if he fancies me... :s
At this level I'd just accept it. He's not being *too* bad. If it gets any worse/more forward then maybe do something about it
Original post by Anonymous
I'm a girl in my 20s, and my boss must be almost 40. Not sure if he's married or not, but he's made several comments towards me, and i'm unsure if they're appropriate or not..

I dyed my hair darker the other week, and he told me that it 'looked amazing'. On 2 other occasions, he told me that I was/looked 'very pretty'.

Not sure whether the boss should be saying this or not? Just seems inappropriate to me... what do others think?


Well if that's as far as he's gone then I just think he's got a crush on you but those comments aren't a big deal surely? I mean if he starts using sexual innuendos and stuff like that then you've got reason to worry but words like "pretty" and "amazing" are totally above the belt... I mean it's stuff you hear in Disney films
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Original post by JavaScriptMaster
Well if that's as far as he's gone then I just think he's got a crush on you but those comments aren't a big deal surely? I mean if he starts using sexual innuendos and stuff like that then you've got reason to worry but words like "pretty" and "amazing" are totally above the belt... I mean it's stuff you hear in Disney films


Agree 100%

Could be innocent, could be that he fancies you. Either way it's probably innocent and I'd only escalate it if it went too far.

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Original post by Anonymous
This is my full-time job haha, he's not there every day, only once a week. But yeah, I don't know if he's just trying to be kind or if he fancies me... :s


Just dont be flirty back or even friendly? (not saying u are too friendly..) Some older guys in the work place can be a bit weird lol :rolleyes:

GL :smile:
Yeah I was gonna add that ^^

As long as you don't flirt back or even be too thankful towards his comments it should be fine. Just act awkward and weirded out a little and he'll get the hint :tongue:
Original post by AndrewSCO
Yeah I was gonna add that ^^

As long as you don't flirt back or even be too thankful towards his comments it should be fine. Just act awkward and weirded out a little and he'll get the hint :tongue:


Oh and just mention your "boyfriend" even if ur single OP :teehee:

done lol
Original post by HollyGeordie
Oh and just mention your "boyfriend" even if ur single OP :teehee:

done lol


Your "6ft 5 bodybuilding boyfriend" and "lawyer father who specialises in sexual harassment in the workplace cases" and you're golden :wink:
Original post by AndrewSCO
Your "6ft 5 bodybuilding boyfriend" and "lawyer father who specialises in sexual harassment in the workplace cases" and you're golden :wink:

Ha ha ha!:tongue:
meh he could just be being friendly. if a woman said those things you wouldn't think much of it so unless it gets grossly sexual I would just take it on the chin
Reply 12
I think it is inappropriate to come on to some one who reports to you. And made worse by the age gap which makes it less likely it is reciprocated. If you don't like it I would blank it in the hope of giving a clue. As others have said, at this level its quite difficult to deal with without over reacting
Original post by Anonymous
I'm a girl in my 20s, and my boss must be almost 40. Not sure if he's married or not, but he's made several comments towards me, and i'm unsure if they're appropriate or not..

I dyed my hair darker the other week, and he told me that it 'looked amazing'. On 2 other occasions, he told me that I was/looked 'very pretty'.

Not sure whether the boss should be saying this or not? Just seems inappropriate to me... what do others think?

I think as other posters mentioned these could just be him being complimentary but I think the best rule of thumb is your gut reaction to it. Did it make you feel uncomfortable? I would also be curious to know if he acts a similar way to other employees and how do they react to him. If you feel OK at the moment you don't need to take any action but what you could do is keep a record of it on your phone or somewhere it won't be seen by anyone you work with. Record the date, exactly word for word what was said, where it took place, how you felt and who else was in the room that might have overheard or witnessed it. That way, if you feel comfortable going forwards you don't ever need to use it but if it starts to feel wrong or something you don't like then you have a record to back you up. I don't know what line of work you are in but I would strongly recommend joining a union anyway as its always good to have their backing - just incase.
Original post by Anonymous
I think as other posters mentioned these could just be him being complimentary but I think the best rule of thumb is your gut reaction to it. Did it make you feel uncomfortable? I would also be curious to know if he acts a similar way to other employees and how do they react to him. If you feel OK at the moment you don't need to take any action but what you could do is keep a record of it on your phone or somewhere it won't be seen by anyone you work with. Record the date, exactly word for word what was said, where it took place, how you felt and who else was in the room that might have overheard or witnessed it. That way, if you feel comfortable going forwards you don't ever need to use it but if it starts to feel wrong or something you don't like then you have a record to back you up. I don't know what line of work you are in but I would strongly recommend joining a union anyway as its always good to have their backing - just incase.

* And this one is 5 years old...
Original post by ageshallnot
* And this one is 5 years old...

Lmao how do I keep finding these smh

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