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Girls rank in order of importance for dating a guy?

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Original post by Retired_Messiah
None of the intelligent people I know are doing anything to "make changes to the world" why is your definition of intelligence wild af


Lol, then what are they doing?
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Original post by JokesOnYoo
LOOL, the calculating are done very quickly in my head anyway.


If it's done very quickly in your head (and I don't mean to criticize ... but..) could you perhaps be judging women too quickly? And arguably not judging their intelligence fairly? I would certainly say I often hide mine from others, and there also other types of intelligence as opposed to standard 'book smart'. It could be perhaps that you aren't allowing their passion or intelligence regarding something to be known to you?

As you said, you rate them into categories and for example if one would fall short of yours by a few points that you considered to be more weighted proportionately perhaps you may not stay around long enough to see them made up else where?
I, for example, am not often instantly attracted to people. If I did the same calculations as you there I would instantly dismiss too many people. Where as if I stick around and converse more I often find the attractions blossoming later when I find a personality trait endearing.

~maybe you are 'judging a book by it's cover'
Original post by Damzel
If it's done very quickly in your head (and I don't mean to criticize ... but..) could you perhaps be judging women too quickly? And arguably not judging their intelligence fairly? I would certainly say I often hide mine from others, and there also other types of intelligence as opposed to standard 'book smart'. It could be perhaps that you aren't allowing their passion or intelligence regarding something to be known to you?

As you said, you rate them into categories and for example if one would fall short of yours by a few points that you considered to be more weighted proportionately perhaps you may not stay around long enough to see them made up else where?
I, for example, am not often instantly attracted to people. If I did the same calculations as you there I would instantly dismiss too many people. Where as if I stick around and converse more I often find the attractions blossoming later when I find a personality trait endearing.

~maybe you are 'judging a book by it's cover'


No, i cant write every little detail out into a couple of paragraphs.
I observe and receive alot of information before i come to my conclusions. When i have enough information, the calculations are done very quickly. There's a saying in court which goes by "Innocent till proven guilty". I like to think in the opposite form. "Everyones guilty till adequate evidence proves they are innocent". This way, you can ferret out alot more information. In my experiences, its proven to be more accurate. Its also called thinking backwards or retrograde analysis, search it. This thinking style relates in the same way to a different context. That context for me is mate choosing.
I usually assume everyone is intelligent or more intelligent than me, then after handing them many tests, i can come to a strong but accurate judgement on their intelligence. Same with personality. I understand everyone has layers to peel before you get to the true person. I would say i judge, not by cover, but by the words, meaning etc inside that book. This means i judge by actions.
Good personality
Intelligence
Good looks
Height
Money
Reply 64
Reading all the replies and thinking not me, not me and not me
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Original post by JokesOnYoo
No, i cant write every little detail out into a couple of paragraphs.
I observe and receive alot of information before i come to my conclusions. When i have enough information, the calculations are done very quickly. There's a saying in court which goes by "Innocent till proven guilty". I like to think in the opposite form. "Everyones guilty till adequate evidence proves they are innocent". This way, you can ferret out alot more information. In my experiences, its proven to be more accurate. Its also called thinking backwards or retrograde analysis, search it. This thinking style relates in the same way to a different context. That context for me is mate choosing.
I usually assume everyone is intelligent or more intelligent than me, then after handing them many tests, i can come to a strong but accurate judgement on their intelligence. Same with personality. I understand everyone has layers to peel before you get to the true person. I would say i judge, not by cover, but by the words, meaning etc inside that book. This means i judge by actions.


You say you observe and analyse a lot of information, but you did also state it was done quickly and that is the key word here. The information you generated in that time may not be representative of the person of whole, or may not account for reactions in different situations/scenarios. I am aware of the way you working backwards through the information, and while I agree it is a more effective way of gathering information etc I would not necessarily agree that it would be best for mate selection? I mean I'm open to being shown how it would, but like you said you do the calculation quickly and I feel that is where you might be going wrong. If you do the same calculations in the same way you are conducting them (since you are insistent on doing calculations at all) but do them over a longer period of time, or do the repeated measures before coming to your conclusion. You say that you are judging not by the cover but by the words and content, but as you are doing your calculations quickly you are not judging the 'book' you are judging the synopsis.

Unless of course you doing it quickly, in the hopes of ferreting out people quicker. If so, this is okay but be aware you are going to overlook people at some point who may be suitable.
Original post by Damzel
You say you observe and analyse a lot of information, but you did also state it was done quickly and that is the key word here. The information you generated in that time may not be representative of the person of whole, or may not account for reactions in different situations/scenarios. I am aware of the way you working backwards through the information, and while I agree it is a more effective way of gathering information etc I would not necessarily agree that it would be best for mate selection? I mean I'm open to being shown how it would, but like you said you do the calculation quickly and I feel that is where you might be going wrong. If you do the same calculations in the same way you are conducting them (since you are insistent on doing calculations at all) but do them over a longer period of time, or do the repeated measures before coming to your conclusion. You say that you are judging not by the cover but by the words and content, but as you are doing your calculations quickly you are not judging the 'book' you are judging the synopsis.

Unless of course you doing it quickly, in the hopes of ferreting out people quicker. If so, this is okay but be aware you are going to overlook people at some point who may be suitable.


What i meant by calculating quickly is just plugging values into a formula and getting the answer. I dont need a lot of time to calculate what 1+1 is or 5+8. And i dont have forever, there will be a point where i think i've given reasonable time for each person. Even to the point where i am able to predict their reactions to new situations.
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Original post by JokesOnYoo
What i meant by calculating quickly is just plugging values into a formula and getting the answer. I dont need a lot of time to calculate what 1+1 is or 5+8. And i dont have forever, there will be a point where i think i've given reasonable time for each person. Even to the point where i am able to predict their reactions to new situations.


You're right, you don't need a long time to work out 1+1 = 2. But you do need longer than a short period of time to decide that that woman's number in the first place. This is the whole point I'm making. You are stating you can decided quickly whether she is a compatible woman, but I am saying you don't know her well enough that quickly to have all the proper information, being making that calculation.
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I can't believe how many people have said money… wow
Reply 69
personality is not as important as people like to have you believe.
looks and personality are the same thing to most people OP.


https://s29.postimg.org/6dtmhwwl3/lookspersonality.png

https://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/we-experiment-on-human-beings/



honestly, if you meet a girl online personality counts for about 10%, in a bar/club 20%
Original post by Damzel
You're right, you don't need a long time to work out 1+1 = 2. But you do need longer than a short period of time to decide that that woman's number in the first place. This is the whole point I'm making. You are stating you can decided quickly whether she is a compatible woman, but I am saying you don't know her well enough that quickly to have all the proper information, being making that calculation.


Ive said "I observe and receive alot of information before i come to my conclusions"
Information received is correlated with time. The correlation is slightly exponential. At first, they are resistant.
Hope that clears it up.
girls don't use some complex matrix of factors and rank every guy /10 on each then work out the average to see if they "pass" FFS, it's not a university application, it's mostly just initial attraction and whether you can sustain that during conversation.
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Original post by zayn008
I can't believe how many people have said money… wow


Again..... we were asked to rank them in order..... and most of us put them at the bottom meaning not important...
1. personality
2. intelligence
3. height
4. good looks
5. money
Money isn't really a big factor for the kind of TSR demographic that are mostly students, as if someone has money, it just means "comes from a rich family and their parents give them money" rather than high income as a sign of success, when it might be more of an attraction factor.

There is one factor where coming from a rich family helps attractiveness when you are at college/uni, which is that sometimes the rich kids can be hubs of social circles because they are rich, and because they do a lot of social stuff. When I was at college, there was a guy whose Dad owned a chain of hotels and he was loaded, he had a huge house and used to have massive house parties with everyone round there. He had all sorts of friends outside college from other rich dudes who knew his Dad and they all had flash clothes, there were loads of drugs, it had a sexy glamour that wasn't there in the normal "going to the pub" socials that we had.

At uni you also get these full time socialities, both guys and girls, who are financially secure because of their family circumstances so aren't bothered about their degree, they are at uni for the social life. Because they are well off, they can afford to do everything, they go out every night, they have loads of different social circles, they go on a lot of glamorous holidays as well and so their instagram/facebook looks exciting because they are always in pictures in expensive clubs or on beaches and on boats. Again it makes them seem cool, because people think wow my life is so humdrum, I go to uni, work my part time job, come home and study, then try and get socialising in as much as I can, but how good would it be to have some escape and be part of that James Bond lifestyle that he has.

As people get further through uni the appeal of this kind of person wears off, because everyone is now starting to get more serious about their life plans and goals and when someone is just asking their parents for money so they can party and holiday it looks less impressive.
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Original post by Damzel
Again..... we were asked to rank them in order..... and most of us put them at the bottom meaning not important...


Oh yeah lol I thought it was a free choice thing. Nvm
Not cocky, has the same interests etc.
Taller than me which isn't hard to achieve
:colonhash:
I'm not
Don't have any
Yeah
Reply 77
Can you be more specific please about height? I am 5 ft 11.5 nearly 6ft. so uh is that alright? or too tall lol
Reply 78
Original post by Zeeennn
Can you be more specific please about height? I am 5 ft 11.5 nearly 6ft. so uh is that alright? or too tall lol


I don't know about other girls, but for me there is no too tall. One time I dated a 6ft 7.5 guy and I'm 5ft 2.5 so yeah there isnt' too tall.
BUT around the 6ft mark is ideal, so dw you're fine.
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Original post by Damzel
I don't know about other girls, but for me there is no too tall. One time I dated a 6ft 7.5 guy and I'm 5ft 2.5 so yeah there isnt' too tall.
BUT around the 6ft mark is ideal, so dw you're fine.


ah okay lol thanks

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