My boyfriend is actually annoying

So today I mention a couple of incidents that have happened to me. I wasn't looking for sympathy or anything. I was totally over all of it, I just wanted to share snippets of my day.

I tell my boyfriend a story and he's asking 101 questions, all of which did not help me in any way at that point in time. I'm trying to explain that these things happen in life and he's going into details about how I could have prevented it from happening and gives me a breakdown of how I should have gone about things (as if I didn't already know). It wasn't even that deep, no one was hurt, I just dropped and almost lost a valuable item which didn't even get damaged.

I should have been the frustrated one but he seemed to be more annoyed about my clumsiness than I was. I changed the subject and everything, yet he decides to go into one about my journey to work. He was adament I should have chosen an alternative route to work, the first bus I needed was packed and there was no traffic . I told him that I didn't want to go the long way, it wasn't like I was in a rush. He couldn't understand why I decided to wait a bit longer for another bus to come.

Even when I explained that I needed to stop off somewhere, he mentions another branch which would be out of my way. It all worked out in the end and I didn't make a fuss about a thing - my boyfriend on the other hand still continued ....In the end I decided to just be quiet because no matter what I said didn't matter.


Excuse my bad grammar I'm so tired and venting.

So today I mention a couple of incidents that have happened to me. I wasn't looking for sympathy or anything. I was totally over all of it, I just wanted to share snippets of my day.

I tell my boyfriend a story and he's asking 101 questions, all of which did not help me in any way at that point in time. I'm trying to explain that these things happen in life and he's going into details about how I could have prevented it from happening and gives me a breakdown of how I should have gone about things (as if I didn't already know). It wasn't even that deep, no one was hurt, I just dropped and almost lost a valuable item which didn't even get damaged.

I should have been the frustrated one but he seemed to be more annoyed about my clumsiness than I was. I changed the subject and everything, yet he decides to go into one about my journey to work. He was adament I should have chosen an alternative route to work, the first bus I needed was packed and there was no traffic . I told him that I didn't want to go the long way, it wasn't like I was in a rush. He couldn't understand why I decided to wait a bit longer for another bus to come.

Even when I explained that I needed to stop off somewhere, he mentions another branch which would be out of my way. It all worked out in the end and I didn't make a fuss about a thing - my boyfriend on the other hand still continued ....In the end I decided to just be quiet because no matter what I said didn't matter.


Excuse my bad grammar I'm so tired and venting.

~~Those kinds of people really do annoy me. I just tend to avoid them because they make life unnecessarily difficult :')

He might be one of those people who like to make a fuss and really puff up an argument - even if it isn`t an argument to begin with - and he seems to lack empathy :3

If he is always like that i would get rid no need for negative people. He seems the type that is never happy op run away far far away from him you could do so much better.

I would break up if he`s like this all the time ~ there are many people out there who know how to listen to a story that happened like 13 hrs ago without making a fuss out of it and acting rude.

Your bf is meant to be someone who makes you feel better, not worse

Tell him to take a chill pill kudos to you for putting up with that i would tell him to stop whining.

You need to either sit him down to stop his overly-paternalistic habits or during his "rants" just raise a hand and stop him to force him to listen to what you're saying. Sorry you have to deal with this.

~~Those kinds of people really do annoy me. I just tend to avoid them because they make life unnecessarily difficult :'

He might be one of those people who like to make a fuss and really puff up an argument - even if it isn`t an argument to begin with - and he seems to lack empathy :3

If he is always like that i would get rid no need for negative people. He seems the type that is never happy op run away far far away from him you could do so much better.

He probably thinks hes being helpful. How old are you and your BF? lol

Maybe he hasn't realised yet that women don't actually want solutions to their problems when they're *****ing. They just want someone to ***** to and listen lmao.

When men have a problem they usually expect you to help think of solutions.

You could be right. If I'm looking for someone to vent to I now realise that my boyfriend is not the one to go to lol. I'm 27 and he's 32.

So today I mention a couple of incidents that have happened to me. I wasn't looking for sympathy or anything. I was totally over all of it, I just wanted to share snippets of my day.

I tell my boyfriend a story and he's asking 101 questions, all of which did not help me in any way at that point in time. I'm trying to explain that these things happen in life and he's going into details about how I could have prevented it from happening and gives me a breakdown of how I should have gone about things (as if I didn't already know). It wasn't even that deep, no one was hurt, I just dropped and almost lost a valuable item which didn't even get damaged.

I should have been the frustrated one but he seemed to be more annoyed about my clumsiness than I was. I changed the subject and everything, yet he decides to go into one about my journey to work. He was adament I should have chosen an alternative route to work, the first bus I needed was packed and there was no traffic . I told him that I didn't want to go the long way, it wasn't like I was in a rush. He couldn't understand why I decided to wait a bit longer for another bus to come.

Even when I explained that I needed to stop off somewhere, he mentions another branch which would be out of my way. It all worked out in the end and I didn't make a fuss about a thing - my boyfriend on the other hand still continued ....In the end I decided to just be quiet because no matter what I said didn't matter.


Excuse my bad grammar I'm so tired and venting.

I actually had to end a relationship for this reason.

Life is complicated enough anyway without making a big deal about small issues. My ex would constantly ask questions as though she was cross-examining me about all of my decisions about the small detail of life. And if something innocently came up in conversation lke "I couldn't get X because they wouldn't accept card and I didn't have any notes in my wallet" this would lead to "so why did you let yourself run out of money?" "it's not hard to plan and just make sure you go to a cashpoint so you're prepared in this kind of situation".

I became hesitant to tell her any kind of story of an event that had happened in my life, because I knew it would be dissected, and unless I had chosen the best, most efficient decision at every decision point, I would be held to account on it. Then I'd become nervous about stuff like if we ran out of milk, in normal circumstances I'd just be like, meh, have to wait till tomorrow and get some then. With her it would be like "couldn't you have stopped at the shops on the way home from work? You go past about 3 shops that sell milk" "what do you mean you didn't know the milk was getting low? you had cereal in the morning, you must have been able to see it was running out then?" "well if you forget things do much write them down, make lists, thats what I do, you have a phone don't you? couldn't you set an alert to remind you?".

In the end this low level picking at everything drove me in to a position where I was always double-checking myself and what I did, and certainly what I told her, in order to stop being criticised. And in the end I thought nah, this isn't for me, it will have to end.

I don't think i can put up with that im the type that likes peace and hate anything too intense i would not want someone to make a big deal out of nothing all day can't he see how tiring it is.

I actually had to end a relationship for this reason.

Life is complicated enough anyway without making a big deal about small issues. My ex would constantly ask questions as though she was cross-examining me about all of my decisions about the small detail of life. And if something innocently came up in conversation lke "I couldn't get X because they wouldn't accept card and I didn't have any notes in my wallet" this would lead to "so why did you let yourself run out of money?" "it's not hard to plan and just make sure you go to a cashpoint so you're prepared in this kind of situation".

I became hesitant to tell her any kind of story of an event that had happened in my life, because I knew it would be dissected, and unless I had chosen the best, most efficient decision at every decision point, I would be held to account on it. Then I'd become nervous about stuff like if we ran out of milk, in normal circumstances I'd just be like, meh, have to wait till tomorrow and get some then. With her it would be like "couldn't you have stopped at the shops on the way home from work? You go past about 3 shops that sell milk" "what do you mean you didn't know the milk was getting low? you had cereal in the morning, you must have been able to see it was running out then?" "well if you forget things do much write them down, make lists, thats what I do, you have a phone don't you? couldn't you set an alert to remind you?".

In the end this low level picking at everything drove me in to a position where I was always double-checking myself and what I did, and certainly what I told her, in order to stop being criticised. And in the end I thought nah, this isn't for me, it will have to end.

you cant be prepared for every situation in life and it`s not the end of the world if you run out of milk
Just out of curiosity in a situation like that why didn`t she go out and buy milk if she`s very desperate XD