Your opinion on the silent treatment?

So I'm currently 30hours into the silent treatment from my girlfriend. It is hurting a lot.

In order to stop it hurting me because I need to focus on revising for exams right now, I've stopped caring about her. But that just means being tied down and not-single with this woman who is showing very little visible care for me is making me frustrated and angry with the whole relationship.

Here's the story:

On the saturday of this week we were meant to meet for a short coffee followed by watching la-la land at the movies. Basically, snuggles. I actually wanted to go ice-skating, but she wasn't down as she was too tired. I was getting the impression she just wanted something snuggly so I suggested the movies instead and that film (which is a romance if you didn't know). She agreed on the friday but said she'd get back to me the day after as she was too tired at that time.

She knew my sleep routine involved going to bed at 4am and waking up at 1pm though because I had been working nights recently.

I woke up at 1.15pm on the saturday to messages of "wake up, wake up" followed by "Meet me at X at 2pm".

Obviously that is ridiculous. I'd only just woke up so I text her asking her to hold up...

She immediately responds with "okay, I'm setting off now" after reading my message.

So I ask her wtf is wrong with her? why can't she just wait for a moment to allow me to be able to get into town without extreme rushing (it takes me 40mins on bus to get into town + about 60mins to get ready because of medication I need to take these days in addition to everything else) and offer a consolation plan of meeting her at 4pm.

And at this point she flips. Gets super defensive, pulls out the victim mentality card and begins to go on a rant about how terrible I am, how selfish I am, how unacceptable it is for me to call her names (I think she's literally getting delusional at this point because I have called her no insulting names yet).

So I flip, because frankly I'm very annoyed at the whole scenario and probably woke up on the wrong side of bed because of it. I tell her that I'm no longer interested in seeing her at 4pm and would rather stay at home and get some revision done than go out of my way to meet up with her, try to make her have a good day and only end up being lectured on how terrible I am as a boyfriend.

We then debated the ordeal for another hour until 3pm. After that she gave me the silent treatment claiming that no matter what she says it always seems to get interpreted by me in the worst way. It turns out she didn't intend to be so demanding in her original texts and that they were meant to imply that they were questions. As in "meet at 2 at x?". Certainly didn't at all read like that though. No apology given from her.

30hours later, despite me being awake at 5am sending her an essay on how much I appreciate her (which was probably erroneous but then again... she is really insecure so...) she has not responded to me.

And it hurts a lot. It's tearing me away from her.

What would you guys do in this scenario?

How do you feel generally about the 'silent treatment'?

It seems an extremely unacceptable, immature way of dealing with conflict. I can't tolerate it at all.

Sounds to me like you deserve each other - you're a ****, she's a ****. Gob's a good'n

I think the silent treatment is childish tbh. You're both adults and she should be open to discuss things further. I do think she should have considered the fact you wake up at 1pm and have to take your meditation beforehand. I do feel that insulting you wasn't the right way to go about things. She's lucky you don't decide to not bother with her again because I know quite a few guys that have done just that. You obviously care about her a lot and it sounds like you are going to wait it out and possibly contact her again. Maybe the time apart will help her to see things from a different perspective and understand that there was a little misunderstanding that blew out of proportion. You should definitely let her know how she made you feel.

Why did you wake up at 1?
Is she really that horny?
Text her she's dumped. You don't need that ****

Also girls who can't say sorry are TOXIC

1pm as in the afternoon bud. Not much horny about that lol. I wouldn't mind a booty call if that was the terms of the relationship but I'm not doing that with this girl. This is meant to be a serious, mature, open, trusting, proper relationship.

I'm super emotionally invested in her though. And partially financially too :P

But in all honestly, she is really amazing to be around in person though. The text-talks are just no fun at all though. I don't get it.

Yeah why were you in bed at 1 lol, maybe she was mad because she had been waiting all day to spend time with you or something.

I work nights as security in clubs... So that's my sleep routine.

So I'm currently 30hours into the silent treatment from my girlfriend. It is hurting a lot.

In order to stop it hurting me because I need to focus on revising for exams right now, I've stopped caring about her. But that just means being tied down and not-single with this woman who is showing very little visible care for me is making me frustrated and angry with the whole relationship.

Here's the story:

On the saturday of this week we were meant to meet for a short coffee followed by watching la-la land at the movies. Basically, snuggles. I actually wanted to go ice-skating, but she wasn't down as she was too tired. I was getting the impression she just wanted something snuggly so I suggested the movies instead and that film (which is a romance if you didn't know). She agreed on the friday but said she'd get back to me the day after as she was too tired at that time.

She knew my sleep routine involved going to bed at 4am and waking up at 1pm though because I had been working nights recently.

I woke up at 1.15pm on the saturday to messages of "wake up, wake up" followed by "Meet me at X at 2pm".

Obviously that is ridiculous. I'd only just woke up so I text her asking her to hold up...

She immediately responds with "okay, I'm setting off now" after reading my message.

So I ask her wtf is wrong with her? why can't she just wait for a moment to allow me to be able to get into town without extreme rushing (it takes me 40mins on bus to get into town + about 60mins to get ready because of medication I need to take these days in addition to everything else) and offer a consolation plan of meeting her at 4pm.

And at this point she flips. Gets super defensive, pulls out the victim mentality card and begins to go on a rant about how terrible I am, how selfish I am, how unacceptable it is for me to call her names (I think she's literally getting delusional at this point because I have called her no insulting names yet).

So I flip, because frankly I'm very annoyed at the whole scenario and probably woke up on the wrong side of bed because of it. I tell her that I'm no longer interested in seeing her at 4pm and would rather stay at home and get some revision done than go out of my way to meet up with her, try to make her have a good day and only end up being lectured on how terrible I am as a boyfriend.

We then debated the ordeal for another hour until 3pm. After that she gave me the silent treatment claiming that no matter what she says it always seems to get interpreted by me in the worst way. It turns out she didn't intend to be so demanding in her original texts and that they were meant to imply that they were questions. As in "meet at 2 at x?". Certainly didn't at all read like that though. No apology given from her.

30hours later, despite me being awake at 5am sending her an essay on how much I appreciate her (which was probably erroneous but then again... she is really insecure so...) she has not responded to me.

And it hurts a lot. It's tearing me away from her.

What would you guys do in this scenario?

How do you feel generally about the 'silent treatment'?

It seems an extremely unacceptable, immature way of dealing with conflict. I can't tolerate it at all.

Yeah why were you in bed at 1 lol, maybe she was mad because she had been waiting all day to spend time with you or something.

I empathise big time because I'm always unintentionally jumping to conclusions and my boyfriend is like your girlfriend, flips out in an instant. The thing is they don't put these petty things in the back of their mind and move on, they'd rather keep putting you down so they have the upper hand in the relationship. I just think that if she is going to act childish and not get over it and accept your apology then dump her and she will then reflect on her actions and eventually run back to you, that will teach her a lesson!