Let's talk about sex

Original post by Nunchuck-master-2334

They tried that at my old school.
They also seperated boys and girls when they did it as well.
The problem:
The boys (bar me) got extremely childish about it, whereas the girls ( as far as I know) were more mature, despite the documentary they watched on sex!

yeah i know that can be an issue. When I did it in year 11 it was actually alright despite there being a few immature guys in the room with me.
Also, do you think sepaerating the boys & girls is actually a good idea? I feel like sex-ed class would be a good place to encourage boys and girls to share their ideas about sex as well as othe experiences (i mentioned periods for girls but also girls might be interested in what it's like for us guys).
And, what school year were you in at the time? I feel like that if they did in once we got into 6th form the issue of some people being immature wouldn't be so much of an issue because a lot of the people in my year actually matured quite a lot once we went from year 11 to year 12 last year.

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Reply 81

renphobia

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my parents are teachers so, uh

Reply 82

Alextox

13

I think that both have to take responsibility about this. I have received sex education since the last year of primary school. Through the academic years I was told how to protect my partner and myself from STDs and pregnancy. They also gave us condoms and information in order to dismantle any myth related to this issue. What's more, my parents told me the same information (use condoms, do not expose yourself to STDs, etc) without feeling awkward. Come on guys, sex is not a taboo anymore. You have to speak about sex without problems in order to avoid serious problems

Reply 83

Retired_Messiah

21

idk my combination of nothing from my parents, teachers half assing it and a lot of time on the internet seemed to educate me pretty well. Tho I guess kids with actual lives probably aren't able to do that so I guess... teachers? idk I feel like parents are just awkward and try to impose their moral values while they're at it whereas teachers tend to just give you mostly facts and a little bit of "don't get into cars with strange men" which is pretty sensible.

That said faith schools will probably do it in an annoying moral preaching kind of way which isn't exactly ideal

Reply 84

l'etranger

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I never trusted my teachers enough, my mama would be like ''do not get some girl pregnant :colonhash:

'' and my father would be like ''Go get em tiger''

Porn and friends was probably the best tuition I had.

Reply 85

Devify

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I'd prefer teachers just because it would be less awkward for me personally. Although how I learned was by my mum giving me a book explaining it all and asked me to come to her with any questions I have afterwards. I was good at looking stuff up tho so did my research myself.

Reply 86

mrsuperguy

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Original post by Retired_Messiah

idk my combination of nothing from my parents, teachers half assing it and a lot of time on the internet seemed to educate me pretty well. Tho I guess kids with actual lives probably aren't able to do that so I guess... teachers? idk I feel like parents are just awkward and try to impose their moral values while they're at it whereas teachers tend to just give you mostly facts and a little bit of "don't get into cars with strange men" which is pretty sensible.

That said faith schools will probably do it in an annoying moral preaching kind of way which isn't exactly ideal

Actually my school which is a faith school (albeit a very liberally jewish one) did ot really well. We even did that thing where you put a condom onto a polystyrene penis. Someone in my group broke it off the base as he tried taking the condom off.

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Reply 87

Retired_Messiah

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Original post by mrsuperguy

Actually my school which is a faith school (albeit a very liberally jewish one) did ot really well. We even did that thing where you put a condom onto a polystyrene penis. Someone in my group broke it off the base as he tried taking the condom off.

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Yeah it'll depend which faith and generally how militant the school is when it comes to pushing the faithy bit, cause that tends to vary from place to place.

Reply 88

Sara_t

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Original post by hezzlington

With a strict pakistani mother who saved herself till marriage, i was taught sex is bad, dirty and dangerous, unless you are married ofcourse.

Id say teacher

You are such a troll

Reply 89

hezzlington

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Original post by Sara_t

You are such a troll

What?

Reply 90

username1439610

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Far less awkward being told about it at school than by your parents. Also, if it's a 1 to 1 session with a very good looking teacher then...you know...we may get some very good practical experiments. Just kidding. As you can probably tell I'm a virgin.

Reply 91

Cato the Elder

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My fundamentalist Christian parents would NEVER have taught me anything. The only time they mentioned sex was in conjunction with Christian instructions against fornication and sex before marriage.

Not that it stopped me from finding out :smile:

Reply 92

username2896864

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Original post by UWS

Learn online.

Lol that's one way :biggrin:

Reply 93

Daniellee<3

Original post by She-Ra

Who would you prefer to tell you about the birds and the bees?

Your parents or your teacher?

:cookie:

its less awkward with your teachers tbh loooooooool, but id rather speak about it in a group with friends looooooooooooooooooooooool

Reply 94

Chichaldo

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Original post by Willy Pete

Oh dear aha, could be used in an opening slide of sex ed classes :P

Yes the teachers should make you aware of the risks and how to be safe etc. but let's be honest, when I had lessons about it many of the kids didn't take it seriously so it doesn't work out particularly well combined with the actual teaching content of it not being adequate.
Parents should also talk about it however as they're the people you should ideally feel most comfortable with, there has to be an alternative however as not everyone get's on with their parents, don't have them around for whatever reason etc. where school should offer support in the form as a class as I don't think individual talks would be a solution. xD

Reply 95

isobel goldfish

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Original post by homeland.lsw

tbf my parents acknowledge that i know about sex.
the sex talk was mainly

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use condoms cos we're not helping u raise a ******* child

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if she says no, u stop no questions no loophole no nothing.

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don't feel pressured into doing anything.

the school sex talk was more or less a waste of time, and we all knew what happened anyway. all boys school- it's inevitable.

I will try and give the sex talk to my children one day, not rely solely on teachers merely because idk what the teacher might be telling my child. as awkward as it may be at least i'd know what my child is being told.

wow man what is up with u
from your bff isobel goldfish

Reply 96

I am someone

Original post by Mactotaur

It's the teacher's job, but there is one problem:

Sex education in this country is frankly a joke. Half the 'experts' don't know their own facts, and it barely addresses heterosexual sex, let alone even mentioning that other sexual orientations exist and are perfectly natural. We need better education, because right now we have one of the highest teenage birth rates in the whole of Europe.

you are right... Sad but true!

Reply 97

I am someone

Basically, teachers might explain sex in a more educational kind of way but parents would teach it as education and for life. But , i have to prefer teachers to teach it (if the teacher is good) our teacher taught it pretty normally and nicely and i had no problem.

Reply 98

M1011

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Original post by Josb

Neither. I think special educators should do that. They should also be young so they can relate with teenagers (by using the same words, understanding the new technologies, etc.).

New sex technologies? Damn, am I missing out on something here? :tongue:

Original post by AcademicDevotion

Teach the basic biological functions of it and nothing else. Giving any additional advice simply endorses pre-marital copulations and that is highly undesirable in a society. No counselling or handing out condoms or any wishy washy guff, just proper morality and physical consequences if you dont adhere to it.