There is a guy I have been friends with for about 6 months. I really liked him right away, and he liked me too,and things happened, but then he said he didn't want a relationship due to moving away, and he seemed to cool off. I had feelings for him and he knew it, but I told him I was ok to be friends, even though I would have liked more, but I understood his decision.
He moved 4 hours' train away, but he comes back to my city from time to time as he's got a few friends here. We hadn't seen each other for almost 2 months, and I'd wanted to go and visit him for a day where he lives, and maybe a take a hotel or something, as after all he was my friend, and even though I harboured feelings I respected that nothing more would happen and we were still talking online most days.
I mentioned to him in passing that I should come and visit him in his city, assuming he'd be ok with it. I was surprised by his reaction. He asked he 'why I was thinking about that' and said it would be 'weird'.
He then said it was for the best that I didn't come because we had 'different expectations' and he 'didn't want to disappoint me'.
I was quite taken aback, as I knew we were just friends and I would never travel 4 hours because I 'expect something to happen'. I had just mentioned in passing that I should go one time, and that I'd take a hotel.
He told me that it was best that we wait until he comes back to the city and that we just have a drink but no more, as he 'doesn't want me to get attached'.
I can kind of see where he is coming from but I'm hurt, as he's let other female friends go and visit him before. I don't know why he talks to me online virtually every day and sometimes flirts with me, if he thinks that we need to keep our distance in person.
I'm also hurt that he forbid me from coming. He could have said, come if you like ,but I want to make it clear that we're just friends, etc. but he actually stopped me from coming.
Was he in the wrong ,or am I over-reacting? Thanks