Friends didn't do anything for my 30th and now setting up surprises for others

Find a better group of friends. Or make a big fuss about your birthday so they actually think you want to do something instead of saying you dont really care about your birthday making them think not to bother...

I know that feel mate it happens to many of us.

I'm in a really bad negative mood. In November it was my 30th and this particular group of friends I am with who went to high school with me didn't arrange anything and there was little in the way of meaningful happy birthday messages. Ordinarily that would not bother me as I am not one for birthdays/

However, the same group seem to be intent on doing things for other peoples birthdays in the same group and arranging surprises dinners and have added me into the WhatsApps for these plans. This is where I begin to think 'Wait you are arranging something here but when it was me you did sweet **** all??'. I wouldn't have asked for much even a small dinner/small gathering would have been enough.

I just feel really down and deflated with all of this and my self-worth has taken a knocking as I thought we were all close friends and there now seems to be some heirachy. I haven't told them any of this and they are bombarding me with messages telling me to come but I know if I go my mind will constantly be on the fact that this same group, when it came to me, didn't even bother to lift a finger. And no doubt they'll look to arrange things with others in the group as they hit 30.

Any thoughts? This has been the only chance I've had to get this off my chest.