How to make my mum understand I'm too ill to travel to see her

As I've said, they don't include that information. They say that you're a patient, you've been diagnosed with whatever since whenever, are on whatever medications and you're compliant with therapy, then sign and date it on headed paper. They don't mention whether they think you're fit to travel abroad, it wouldn't even cross their minds. It's not like you're going to say to them you want it to prove to your mother you can't travel abroad, you say you want a general letter outlining your condition.

They don't include their opinions like they might think you're fine to travel or you're making it all up or whatever else you think they might say. I've had two of these letters done for me, all they say is facts from your medical records, not personal opinions or judgements from who's writing it.

What would be the point of it then. She already knows about my condition, it's not like she doesn't believe I have anxiety. I'm not paying 15 pounds for a letter outlining what she already knows.

You really have no idea.
Thanks for nothing.

Please don't let ignorant people tell you that what you're feeling is not valid or that you're not telling the truth. I myself have anxiety and while it's quite mild these days I still hate travelling and can't do so without taking medication for panic attacks.

I'm disappointed that your GP and therapist are both acting that way. Do you see the same GP every time you discuss it? If so maybe it's time for a second opinion, perhaps someone else will not be so ignorant.

Thanks, yeah all the doctors in my surgery know my case pretty well. But to them, im physically well enough to travel so there's no problem.
Its not that I don't want to see my mum but I worry about having a medical emergency while I'm there, it's happened before and I wouldn't be able to go through it again.

Thanks, yeah all the doctors in my surgery know my case pretty well. But to them, im physically well enough to travel so there's no problem.
Its not that I don't want to see my mum but I worry about having a medical emergency while I'm there, it's happened before and I wouldn't be able to go through it again.

Anaxiety is not a medical emergency. If you're otherwise fit and well you're not going to keel over at the airport. Get over yourself and see your relatives you're upsetting by not bothering to visit them.

That sucks :/ they should really know better, mental illnesses can be just as debilitating as physical ones. I'm not sure what to say then, other than just be firm with your mum about it, only you understand how your illness affects you and if you really feel like you can't travel then don't hurt yourself just to satisfy someone else. A lot of people just can't/refuse to understand mental conditions, sadly.

Yeah ive been getting a lot of emotional blackmail lately mainly from my mum and my grandma. Whenever I speak to any of my relatives it's like when are you coming over? It makes me not want to speak to them anymore. It's a crap situation.

Go and see them for two days then to shut them up. Put a brace face on and make them happy, they'd do the same for you.

Anaxiety is not a medical emergency. If you're otherwise fit and well you're not going to keel over at the airport. Get over yourself and see your relatives you're upsetting by not bothering to visit them.

The fact that you spelt anxiety wrong is an issue within itself. As for advising other people please if you do not have anything good to say its best to remain silent.

If a person has anxiety it is serious as anything can occur during travelling therefore the person suffering will feel a nuisance to others

OP please get well soon and take care of yourself and ignore what glasshour has to say!

Yeah, none of us have ever made a typo on our iPads... You're the one who can't get my name right.

'Put on a brave face'
The person I want to shut up atm is you.

With all due respect, why ask a question on here if you aren't willing to acknowledge anyone's advice? @Glassapple has made some valid suggestions, and aside from a couple of silly comments they have acted quite respectfully towards you.

Regarding your question however, if you have explained to her your situation and your reasons behind not being able to go visit, then there doesn't seem to be much more you can do. Does she know the severity of your anxiety, perhaps she thinks it's less of an issue than what it actually is for you?

Nothing should should stop you seeing your mum. unless you physically cant move. You probably just don't want to go not that you cant.

I would put on a brave face if it makes your mum happy, you can cry abut your life after it