Am I being too harsh?

How am I horrible? I didn't say it was just because she was a waitress that I thought she wasn't very intelligent is is also the things she says and how she writes her messages. And tbh if you're messaging someone you barely know you need to make your judgement on/impression of them on whatever info you have, everyone will do that on tinder it's not like it's just me.

Fair enough but its the truth, a waitress isn't exactly a good job. I am not judging her character or personality from that, just the fact she doesn't seem very intelligent and while we seem to get on now I just think the intelligence gap will probably mean we don't have much to talk about.

look all I'm saying is don't judge a book by its cover. You have very little information and you have already come to the conclusion that she is not very "intelligent" and that's just wrong!

You haven't even met her! like I said your very judgemental and a lot of women don't like that in a man. By the way I have come across a lot of, let's just say not very "intelligent" people at uni.Yes they have all the qualifications and stuff,but that doesn't make perfect and know that you are not perfect yourself.Meet up with the girl ,talk to her and get to know her (without sounding judgemental of course ) and THEN come to your conclusion on whether she is right for you or not. if you like her all well and good. if you don't then just move on. 🙂

I've been a waitress for two years now and I can tell you from first hand experience that it's a really stressful and physically demanding job. You need a lot of patience, organisation and the ability to keep a cool head in order to be a good waitress. It bears no impact on intelligence whatsoever.

Also my boyfriend doesn't have any qualifications past a handful of GCSE's and we have so much to talk about and discuss - the idea that we're won't have anything to speak about because I have more pieces of paper with numbers/titles on is ridiculous

I think I would feel the complete same in your situation, I'm not going to lie. But do you really have other plans or anything to loose, apart from time?

Yeah that's what I'm thinking. Even if it goes badly I still get the experience and get to see a film that I want to see anyway and if anything happens it's a bonus.

You're being incredibly judgemental, I'd cancel the date just so she doesn't have to witness you in person

Looool sorry but that is pretty funny.

By the sounds of things you've already made your mind up about not wanting to see her so tbh anyone's input on here isn't really going to change your mind but i'd say try it out but be a little more open minded.

I was thinking the same. Poor girl...

I haven't already made up my mind I am just cautious and I still going to go on the date to see what happens and see how it goes.

Alright, well hopefully it will go better than you expect it too

I swear this is the plot of an episode of Friends.

I swear this is the plot of an episode of Friends.