Need advice on an inicident with a member of staff at college

1. You were in the wrong for not moving.
2. He handled it unprofessionally. I dont think laughing considering it was his friend was the cleverest thing to do.
3. You can give yourself a reserved apology if you insist, part of which you can state he shouldnt have handled it the way he did.
4. You may feel aggrieved, but I wouldnt bet on him apologising. I doubt they would kick you out, even if its your word against his, but its a risk.
5. Either take it to an investigation or just shake hands and deal with it informally. Your behaviour was poor and if youd just have moved then the situation would have been avoided entirely.

Pointless even arguing a valid point with you. Thanks for your input but I wont be listening to it. I'll listen to the more sensible and neutral replies.

Absolute selfish child.

I have agreed to apologise and ill let him decide if he does or not. Just to point out though, it wasnt his friend that passed it was a student, and to put the situation in a bit more context I had no idea what had just happened inside the college and also had no idea he was involved with the incident. Upon hindsight now I know that he was there and witnessed it, I can agree I was in the wrong and why he got carried away.

Weird that you didn't move, but he should apologise too.

I know, I mean I saw a load of police cars rushing onto the scene and as a young lad I was just totally curious I never expected the situation to be what it was, now in hindsight If i'd of known I would of moved instantly, just at the time I didn tbelieve I was doing anything wrong and was being forcefully moved from the situation with no explanation why etc, now I understand why he was emotional and aggressive.. However, I do accept I caused the situation and will apologise to him, I will leave it down to him if he thinks he owes me one..

If it makes you feel any better, then you can keep the apology short. If you want to try and justify your actions, then you run the risk of it being rejected. Its possible to do it in a reserved way but you should get the balance right and I wouldnt trust you to have the experience to do that. Apologise and get on with your life.

If I had been involved I would have done as instructed. I wouldnt have answered back. Thats not a sign of weakness, just the fact people should be allowed to do their jobs.

Okay.

I don't get all the hate you're getting though.

Its annoying because Ive accepted im in the wrong and will apologise. Everyone just has different opinions on things, but in all honesty probably 95% of people are curious when emergency services are about, especially at a place of work, home, study etc.

I will apologise and explain to him that Im not a problem student this was the first time ive ever been caught up in anything remotely like this. I was just intrigued to the dozens of police cars, had I known what was occurring I'd of moved on straight away, I guess I just overstepped the line and felt like I had a right to stand there when trying to be moved.

Why are you still commenting on this thread, has he touched a nerve?

Okay, Im going to make this as short and basic as possible. Unfortunately recently a young student passed away at college (RIP). Whilst at college a hoard of emergency service vehicles turned up right as I was leaving college. At this point I was completely unaware of the situation, and among these vehicles were 6 police cars.

Me and my friend stood and watched curious to what was going on, we were on the car park and a way from the incident and not in anyway blocking a path for the emergency services.

A security guard told me to move, I didnt and continued watching. This happened twice. Now, he began to get aggressive and call me a ****ing dick and pussy several times, me and my friend just laughed in total disbelief. He then grabbed my shirt and tried to pull me to college in which I shrugged him off and just laughed again as if to say wtf is he doing. He then threatened to knock me out twice, and said he'd see me on the car park later on my own. I never provoked any of this just simply laughed it off in disbelief.

So after reporting the incident etc, ive been told the guard was with the student who unfortunately passed away and was extremely emotional and upset, upon finding this out after my complaint I told staff that I understood his emotions now and accepted why he swore at me. I was offered 2 options, I apologise to him and thats the end of it, or I formally investigate it which will most likely result in me losing because I refused to follow instructions and obstructed emergency services (who I was nowhere near), they said If I choose this route and lose I will get kicked out of college for the reasons above. I was also told my friends statement would be unreliable because he's my friend.

I agreed to apologise but said I also wanted an apology for the personal insults and threats, I was told they doubt he'd accept that conclusion and it could then lead to him investigating me which will have the same outcome, me getting kicked out.

I was then told alot of staff have viewed this and believe im trying to seek self indulgence and being selfish.

What should I do? Where do I stand? Is it worth just apologising and feeling complete unjust but knowing it will be over and I can finish my final year?