Parents won't let me pick mixed sex accommodation for uni.

That's a stupid reason for wanting to live in mixed accommodation. What's wrong with living with just girls? It will be awkward living with guys as well especially if you don't know them. Anything could happen. Your parents just want you to be safe, they care for you. If you want freedom and fun, you can still have it while living with the same sex and it will be safer.


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interesting. You are definitely south asian?

I've said before earlier on in the thread I get on much better with guys that girls.

Also, when you say "anything" could happen, you can say the same thing about single sex accommodation.

That's a stupid reason for wanting to live in mixed accommodation. What's wrong with living with just girls? It will be awkward living with guys as well especially if you don't know them. Anything could happen. Your parents just want you to be safe, they care for you. If you want freedom and fun, you can still have it while living with the same sex and it will be safer.


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Look we've all given you logical alternatives and solutions but from the sounds of it unless we go 'oh poor you, your parents deserve to die how terrible your life is so hard' you're going to pout and stamp your foot. You wanted to be treated like an adult? Act like one and welcome to the real world where you DONT get exactly what you want. It may not be fair but you have to make a choice; doing exactly what little madam wants OR making a compromise and not throwing away your relationship with your parents. We, you know the people who have actually experienced university, have told you that mixed accom isn't all it's cracked up to be, and that actually something like this isn't worth breaking off all ties with your mother for, but it's your choice to listen or not

Pretty sensible reason. My experience of all girl flats was also that they tend to be catty and inter-flat issues become a much bigger deal than in mixed sex flats, girls are also less clean in my experience. The atmosphere in mixed flats is nicer. It's no more awkward living with guys you don't know than girls you don't know and nothing bad will happen - if anything you're probably a little safer with guys around.

I suggest, before acting all superior, you read what I've said. I'm breaking off ties with my mother for a variety of other reasons (including, if you really must know, a childhood of physical abuse).

Want to be treated seriously? Get your facts right.

Have a nice day.

If you are serious about this, then you can look into getting finance on an estranged parent basis. You would have had to have left home and broken off ties though.

I've done my research on this and I've spoken to charities that work with estranged students. And I remember when I called my firm they said that if I needed any help financially, they had hardship bursaries.

OP don't be stupid, listen to your parents, they are the only ones who are going to be with you in A&E at 3am, not Molly, Paul or Emily. I suggest until you are financially independent, you listen to your parents. They obviously care enough about you. Molly, Paul and Emily either care about your body or your money.

We all know why you want mixed accommodation, you want to flirt/ potentially have sex with the other gender. Who am I to stop you, go ahead as you please. But remember when **** hits the fan, Molly, Paul and Emily will have pissed off a long time ago.

If I were you, I would be firm, and forthcoming. Not telling your parents you were applying to university probably wasn't a great idea. I stand up for your right to do whatever the hell you like, no doubt, but realistically they may be easier to handle if they are aware of the choices you make (even if they don't like those choices, at least they won't think you're a liar or misleading too).

This is for matters of practicality and ease of communication, mind.

I would say 'I'm applying for mixed halls because that is what I want, because I have confidence in myself that I can behave in whatever way I deem appropriate irrespective of those around me, because you have raised me to be strong and confident and capable of making my own decisions'.

You have a firm already? In any even I posted on my first response as long as you have though about the implications then just be prepared for the practical consequences when you leave and you should be fine. If when you go to Uni, then you should let the relevant people know and cut yourself off from parents and all family etc.

Have you read anything I've said in this thread? Do you know anything about how my parents raised me? No. I get on better with guys than girls. If they really did "care" about me, they would've helped me with my mental health problems and my mother wouldn't have been violent on me when I was younger. Not all parents are good parents. And so I suggest you stop being so judgemental and deal with yourself and the friendship trust issues you seem to have. My best friend has helped me in more ways than you know.

Mental health problems are hard, they are best solved by talking to someone who is a professional, I don't know what your parents could have done.

Violent? If being slapped, then no, that's not violent. If your dad punched you in the face, then yes, fair point.

I still want to see if your best friend turns up in A&E at 3 am.

OP, in all seriousness, have you experienced the real world outside. Do you know how much your council tax is? or your phone bill? what an overdraft is? how to save and invest? I think you are being immature here, making a mountain out of a mole hill.

If you really want to, walk out of your home and don't come back, what's stopping you. You will soon realise how 4 walls, a roof and a warm meal mean so much. Yes, I've been camping and central heating feels amazing once you sleep rough outside.

Oh please stop trying to justify what they did when they found out I had mental health problems. They were more worried about what the "community" would think of them.

Wasn't punching actually. It was having my head smashed against the table multiple times when I was younger. Does that sound better?

Believe it or not I can learn all that at university!

And it's not like I'll be homeless at university. I'll be living in accommodation.

You're being deluded for thinking all parents are good parents. Point? They need to earn my respect and so far, they haven't.