Being Bi

I've been questioning my sexuality for about six months and still aren't quite sure what I want. I'm pretty sure I'm bisexual (I'm 14 and male) can anyone help?

It's that kind of indecisive lifestyle that causes a lot of people psychological damage and leaves them without any idea of who they are. It's fine for the stages where you're still exploring, but eight years, although working for you, is not a healthy amount of time to just be going with things and not having a sexual identity for the vast majority of people. I know I'm gay but I wouldn't just not give myself an identity because of the cliche of not labelling.

Eight years is more than enough time to have figured out who you are; I think it's immature and self-evasive to think otherwise.

Being bi is indecisive? What?

I don't see how you could be totally happy with someone if you know you like (and will obviously miss), sex and intimate company with another sex. How can you be with one sex while in the back (or front) of your mind you like/love something your partner cannot ever give you? That will cause resentment, jealousy and unhappiness.

Doesn't this occur in many, even happy, relationships? (not just talking about sexual matters)

I don't see how you could be totally happy with someone if you know you like (and will obviously miss), sex and intimate company with another sex. How can you be with one sex while in the back (or front) of your mind you like/love something your partner cannot ever give you? That will cause resentment, jealousy and unhappiness.

It's not the same. I wouldn't want to be with a guy who still likes to have sex with girls; I'd feel I wasn't physically enough, that sometimes (or a lot of the time), he'd be thinking/fantasising about something I could never give him, something that he liked/loved, that he'd either have to try (or not try depending on various things) and repress, or cheat on me to get. In the back and front of my mind I'd always think I could never completely satisfy him sexually and I'd be correct; he'd still like sex with girls and I'd be denying him that.

Aside from that, surely he'd feel unfulfilled that he couldn't have something he wanted, that he'd be confused who to be with, who he really is, is anyone ever going to be enough for him when he knows full well he likes people of a completely different sex. It's not fair on anyone to have to feel like that.

It's exactly the same as any other couple. Just like a gay man might miss other men, or a straight man might think about other women. We're not animals that need both sexes, we just like both. We're still fully committed to partners in the same way other orientations are

It's that kind of indecisive lifestyle that causes a lot of people psychological damage and leaves them without any idea of who they are. It's fine for the stages where you're still exploring, but eight years, although 'working' for you, is not a healthy amount of time to just be going with things and not having a sexual identity for the vast majority of people. I know I'm gay but I wouldn't just not give myself an identity because of the cliche of not labelling.

Eight years is more than enough time to have figured out who you are; I think it's immature and self-evasive to think otherwise.

I don't see how you could be totally happy with someone if you know you like (and will obviously miss), sex and intimate company with another sex. How can you be with one sex while in the back (or front) of your mind you like/love something your partner cannot ever give you? That will cause resentment, jealousy and unhappiness.

Oh, not this again.

Bisexual people are not 'indecisive', and if we somehow hurt another person purely because they'd like us to decide we're either straight or gay, that is their problem.

If you feel that living as a bisexual person would make you unhappy, that's to do with you. You don't get to suggest that another person is doing something wrong if they don't have the same problem with bisexuality that you do.

It's that kind of indecisive lifestyle that causes a lot of people psychological damage and leaves them without any idea of who they are. It's fine for the stages where you're still exploring, but eight years, although 'working' for you, is not a healthy amount of time to just be going with things and not having a sexual identity for the vast majority of people. I know I'm gay but I wouldn't just not give myself an identity because of the cliche of not labelling.

Eight years is more than enough time to have figured out who you are; I think it's immature and self-evasive to think otherwise.

I've been questioning my sexuality for about six months and still aren't quite sure what I want. I'm pretty sure I'm bisexual (I'm 14 and male) can anyone help?

I've been questioning my sexuality for about six months and still aren't quite sure what I want. I'm pretty sure I'm bisexual (I'm 14 and male) can anyone help?

It's that kind of indecisive lifestyle that causes a lot of people psychological damage and leaves them without any idea of who they are. It's fine for the stages where you're still exploring, but eight years, although 'working' for you, is not a healthy amount of time to just be going with things and not having a sexual identity for the vast majority of people. I know I'm gay but I wouldn't just not give myself an identity because of the cliche of not labelling.

Eight years is more than enough time to have figured out who you are; I think it's immature and self-evasive to think otherwise.

Bisexual people are not 'indecisive', and if we somehow hurt another person purely because they'd like us to decide we're either straight or gay, that is their problem.

Exactly. I don't know about other bis here, but for me it's more about a person's soul than their bits. Obviously people's bits are interesting but there are more important things.

That's not bisexuality, that's 'pansexuality', which is even more absurd. You should learn what it actually is you think you are before you lecture me about it.

Are you annoyed because I called you out on your rubbish? Sexuality is not fluid (neither is gender), it's all invented by self-evasive people who aren't grown up enough to face themselves.

You're gay or you're straight, not bisexual or one of these new, 'trendy' sexualities. I've found most straight people are are accepting of homosexuals laugh about pansexuality, fluidity, etc. and I don't blame them. It's attention seeking, needing to be different, needing to be accepted for something you're not actually about. You remind me of: https://m.youtube.com/user/RoryDeganRepresent (you spew the same rubbish).