I would first like to thank you, OP, for sharing your story with us and I do know that in many families, societies and cultures, freedom of individual belief does not enjoy the status that in most defiantly should. I would like to quote from that “evil, backwards and archaic” Qu’ran, al Baqara 256, “Let there be no compulsion in religion.” I would ask that everyone respect the choice of our friend here, even if you believe she is misguided, it is for her to be misguided and not for you to misguide her through insulting or threatening behaviour. Indeed, I would remind everyone attacking her, “Many of the followers of previous books wish that they could turn you back into disbelievers, but you should pardon and forgive them (2:109).” In other words, even if she insults or offends you, you do not respond in kind.
I feel mutual respect is necessary for a civilised discussion. Now, OP, you might think me brainless, archaic and sheep like, but that hardly matters. I do disagree with your interpretation of the Qu’ran, the Sunna and Tijamiiya, I am happy to have a discussion about it and don’t worry I have no interest in converting you. I find the claim that Muhammad had a six-year old wife, quite interesting, it peeks my historical bones. The simple truth is we don’t actually know how old Aisha was, it was not mentioned in the Qu’ran (which is the only book Muslims generally consider infallible), while some point to verses in the Hadith (not the Qu’ran) Sayidd Bukhari, but even these cannot be taken at face value. Indeed, given the historical timelines set out by the Qu’ran itself and the fact that Aisha remembers being present at the revealing of ‘The Moon’ chapter of the Qu’ran, which was revealed before the six year of the Call (the Call was the period when the Prophet Muhammad was called upon by God into prophethood), but Khadiji, the Prophet’s first wife, did not pass away until the tenth year of the Call. Aisha and Muhammad did not marry until after Khadiji death. What all of this means is that according to this timeline, Aisha was likely to be 15 and not 6, when she married the Prophet Muhammad.
Often the age of Aisha was estimated based on historic reports on her behaviour, which is why there are a lot of issues with figuring out her age. What I mean is there would be a report of her playing with dolls and other ‘child-like’ qualities but then there would be other reports indicating her physical and psychological development that would place her well past puberty. Indeed, classical Islamic historian, Ibn Jarir Tabari, wrote, “In the time before Islam, Abu Bakr married two women. The first was Fatila daughter of Abdul Uzza, from Abdullah and Asma were born. There he married Umm Ruman, from whom Abdur Rahman and Aisha were born. These four were born before Islam.” This would mean that Aisha was even older than 15 before she married the Prophet Muhammad, exact age is difficult to discern from this, but we would be talking about somewhere in her 20’s.
There are quite a few others too who concur with this view (I am talking about Muslim scholars and historians who lived before European colonization). The main trouble is a misunderstanding of the Hadiths, even when the phrase ‘Sahih’ Hadith is used, it does not mean that the account is historically accurate or that Muslims are required to believe they are true events that took place. ‘Sahih’ here does not mean ‘true’ but ‘authenticated’ and what the word authenticated means here is that the lineage of the report has been strongly established. Remember that Bedouin culture was an oral one, not much was written down, which means that when the Hadith were being written down, they had to trace each report back to the originator. This is all Sahih means. There are many errors within the Hadiths and this is not controversial point as it’s widely accepted within scholastic circles. In truth the obsession with Aisha’s age came after European colonization of South Asia and the Middle East. Understanding the colonial discourse is imperative to this discussion.
I would also challenge your views on apostasy and homosexuality, however, I have taken up quite a bit of this thread already. On a quick note, I do think religious dissent is necessary, I am not who most people think I am and I left the practise of religion (and ideas of religion) of my parents. I don’t want to give the wrong impression about me, which I suspect might arise from this response.
I do hope sanity prevails and no harm comes to you or your sister. Nobody has the right to tell you what to think or believe. Much love and empowerment to you.