I feel like my dad is killing me

Since I was born, my mum and dad, and nana, had all smoked (heavily) around 40 a day. My nana and my mum quit about 8 years ago. Recently, my nana has been diagnosed with COPD (chronic obstructive pulmonary disease). One of the risk factors for this disease is smoking, and this is more than likely the reason my nana got the disease.

My dad always smokes around me, except when my mum is here she makes him smoke outside, but my mum is away so often this doesn't really make a difference. When he smokes in the house, I move to another room or try to cover my face but because the windows aren't open the smoke lingers. I've heard secondhand smoke can be more dangerous than firsthand smoke.

I've explained to my dad that he could be causing me serious, permanent harm and he doesn't really seem bothered (or doesn't really believe it). I've spoken to him even about epigenetic tags that smoking can cause, and he's not interested. I've had problems with my breathing lately, he knows this - tells me not to go on runs because I might overexert myself, but still smokes around me constantly. And it's not like one every few hours, he is a heavy smoker.

Additionally, my grandad has recently had cancer - he's been treated and he's okay now, but this could suggest that his DNA already has mutations, making him more likely to get cancer again. Smoking is known to cause cancer, and still my dad smokes around him.

I really don't know what to do, basically, I feel f***ed over.

You need to tell him to stop. Show him the causes of cigarettes, and just educate him on how bad it really is. Try and convince him to start smoking e-cigarettes instead, although I don't agree with any sort of smoking, they're a lot better than normal cigarettes.

This website should provide more help: http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/smoking/Pages/Gethelp.aspx

Nothing you can do other than lobby your mum. It's his house.

Second hand smoke isn't that dangerous. I think it is mostly just a myth used to try to encourage people to quit.

People directly suck in 40 cigs into their lungs everyday for years and survive. You will be just fine.

Everything is bad for you. Life is about balancing risks. It's probably no more bad for you than the exhaust fumes in the street.

Nothing you can do other than lobby your mum. It's his house.

Second hand smoke isn't that dangerous. I think it is mostly just a myth used to try to encourage people to quit.

People directly suck in 40 cigs into their lungs everyday for years and survive. You will be just fine.

Everything is bad for you. Life is about balancing risks. It's probably no more bad for you than the exhaust fumes in the street.

Since I was born, my mum and dad, and nana, had all smoked (heavily) around 40 a day. My nana and my mum quit about 8 years ago. Recently, my nana has been diagnosed with COPD (chronic obstructive pulmonary disease). One of the risk factors for this disease is smoking, and this is more than likely the reason my nana got the disease.

My dad always smokes around me, except when my mum is here she makes him smoke outside, but my mum is away so often this doesn't really make a difference. When he smokes in the house, I move to another room or try to cover my face but because the windows aren't open the smoke lingers. I've heard secondhand smoke can be more dangerous than firsthand smoke.

I've explained to my dad that he could be causing me serious, permanent harm and he doesn't really seem bothered (or doesn't really believe it). I've spoken to him even about epigenetic tags that smoking can cause, and he's not interested. I've had problems with my breathing lately, he knows this - tells me not to go on runs because I might overexert myself, but still smokes around me constantly. And it's not like one every few hours, he is a heavy smoker.

Additionally, my grandad has recently had cancer - he's been treated and he's okay now, but this could suggest that his DNA already has mutations, making him more likely to get cancer again. Smoking is known to cause cancer, and still my dad smokes around him.

I really don't know what to do, basically, I feel f***ed over.

"Nonsmokers who are exposed to secondhand smoke at home or at work increase their risk of developing lung cancer by 20–30%." not to mention my mum and dad smoked before I was born, increasing the risk that I could've been born with epigenetic tags from smoking, therefore increasing my risk of lung diseases.

I know it's not 100% certain that this will cause me to be very ill, but like I said I'm already experiencing breathing issues, I hate being in a room full of smoke, and it's just downright inconsiderate for a father to put his daughter in a situation like this. Even if the risks aren't extremely profound.

Since I was born, my mum and dad, and nana, had all smoked (heavily) around 40 a day. My nana and my mum quit about 8 years ago. Recently, my nana has been diagnosed with COPD (chronic obstructive pulmonary disease). One of the risk factors for this disease is smoking, and this is more than likely the reason my nana got the disease.

My dad always smokes around me, except when my mum is here she makes him smoke outside, but my mum is away so often this doesn't really make a difference. When he smokes in the house, I move to another room or try to cover my face but because the windows aren't open the smoke lingers. I've heard secondhand smoke can be more dangerous than firsthand smoke.

I've explained to my dad that he could be causing me serious, permanent harm and he doesn't really seem bothered (or doesn't really believe it). I've spoken to him even about epigenetic tags that smoking can cause, and he's not interested. I've had problems with my breathing lately, he knows this - tells me not to go on runs because I might overexert myself, but still smokes around me constantly. And it's not like one every few hours, he is a heavy smoker.

Additionally, my grandad has recently had cancer - he's been treated and he's okay now, but this could suggest that his DNA already has mutations, making him more likely to get cancer again. Smoking is known to cause cancer, and still my dad smokes around him.

I really don't know what to do, basically, I feel f***ed over.

Your chances of developing lung cancer as a young person are extremely low anyway so another 20-30% on that is nothing. You will move out in a few years and any damage done will be reversed.

Crossing the road increased your chance of being hit by a car by 1000% but we still do it.

You're overreacting. Everyone used to smoke in their houses and children weren't dying all over the place.

If you don't like it, buy your own house. He should be comfortable in his house and not spend his evenings sat out in the cold and rain. How about you sit outside instead?

Your chances of developing lung cancer as a young person are extremely low anyway so another 20-30% on that is nothing. You will move out in a few years and any damage done will be reversed.

Crossing the road increased your chance of being hit by a car by 1000% but we still do it.

You're overreacting. Everyone used to smoke in their houses and children weren't dying all over the place.

If you don't like it, buy your own house. He should be comfortable in his house and not spend his evenings sat out in the cold and rain. How about you sit outside instead?

Are you joking or that stupid, 20-30% is absolutely colossal, you go from having a 1 in 100 chance at that age ( probably less than) to about a 3 in 10 chance of getting cancer, which depending on the severity, may be untreatable so could kill- second hand smoking is very dangerous and is particularly cruel because those punished by it are not those who are partaking in any dangerous activities and often, like the OP, know the damage that is being done to them but cant avoid it.

Its more like 1/1,000,000 to 1/800,000. ie it is very unlikely to happen either way.

You miss understand the numbers. Nowhere near 20-30% of people develop lung cancer.

Your chances of developing lung cancer as a young person are extremely low anyway so another 20-30% on that is nothing. You will move out in a few years and any damage done will be reversed.

Crossing the road increased your chance of being hit by a car by 1000% but we still do it.

You're overreacting. Everyone used to smoke in their houses and children weren't dying all over the place.

If you don't like it, buy your own house. He should be comfortable in his house and not spend his evenings sat out in the cold and rain. How about you sit outside instead?