Boyfriend trouble...

Hello..

I've seen a lot of questions on here with both sex's asking questions about there relationship. I hope you don't mind if I add to the list 😬

So I've been with my boyfriend for 16 months now, he's 25 and I'm 20. Since we've started going out (Feb 2016) we've only had one birthday, valentines & christmas together. His birthday came first (sept) which is enough time together to get to know each other's likes and dislikes. He was on a boys holiday during his birthday weekend but we celebrated it a couple days later. Being the romantic type of girl I am, I booked a hotel room, decorated it with balloons, bought him his favourite brandy, paid for a expensive meal out and got him a lot of nice presents which came to a lot of money in total. More to the point I put effort in!

My birthday then came (Nov) and I had planned on going out for my birthday with friends and family. (He knew this for a while) Baring in mind he has met a large number of friends and family unlimited amount of times he didn't want to come as none of his friends were able to come. I didn't really mind aslong as he made it up to me.

Long story short... he didn't plan anything or go out anywhere with me for my birthday or buy me anything for my birthday... I don't mean to sound like a gold digger or expect to much. But I mean he didn't even get me a card or atleast send me a happy birthday cute paragraph or something! No effort what so ever!!!! I felt like a D***

I know money can be tight both ends but I knew what stuff he was spending his money on and it was on a load of rubbish which he didn't need or drank his money away on nights out.
I adventurely got over the matter, with him saying when the money's there we will do something nice together which I bared in mind.

Since then Christmas came, I didn't know whether or not to get him anything baring in mind my birthday but I thought to just forget what had happened in the past and maybe he then realised how upset I got. Nope the same thing happened! I bought him multiple gifts again and got nothing in return- only a card with some cheap sentences in it.

I felt like an idiot once again and had friends and family asking questions too. Like what did he get you ect after asking what I got him. Valentines was better, I got some flowers a card and he cooked dinner which I adored but I still heavily have a grudge up against him for previous events.


Am I in the wrong any how?
Should I feel a way about it?
What can I do for him to realise how upset and silly i feel?
Am I being silly?

Nope you are fine. You are finding he isnt as into you as you would like and he has a thoughtless/lazy/ selfish aspect to his character. he let you down multiple times. its in his nature because its not important to him, even if he has little money then he could have been thoughtful and saved up etc.

I think you should have called it quits as its not going anywhere, but up to you if you carry on. Stop making so much effort and especially stop spending money on him. If you want to be treated better then find someone who understands and is more thoughtful about your well-being and appreciates you more. He's comfy and why wouldnt he be?

Thank you for your quick reply.
I completely understand where your coming from and I do think your correct in a lot of ways with your response. It's just we are so close in other ways such as we've gone on plenty of holidays together, had some life changing experiences with each other and this is the only thing that does bug me! I know it's not always about gifts and valuables but I love celebrating events such as birthdays and Christmas and it's just what I expect!

We are very close as a couple with telling each other stuff and I do look at him as my Bestfriend, and I know he's the same. But he is not a romantic type of guy! Is there anyways I can make him be?