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If you were in a relationship, would you feel like you weren't fully satisfied because you would always only get half of what you're into?

By the way, I think it's great that you're trying to break down the wall/stigma and make it a normal topic of conversation for everyone. Ignore the ignorance of the uneducated :smile:

Reply 41

Anonymous #1

Original post by Marniandrews

This is an interesting question. Definitely not though, I think. If you're having chocolate cake, it's not like you'll be unhappy you didn't have the lemon drizzle as well.

Original post by honour

How old were you when first realised that you were romantically interested in both genders?

About 13. *sigh*. I saw somebody say that they learned they weren't gay by finding that they weren't turned on by gay pornography. I attempted the same to... different results.

To all other posters: I'm going to sleep now. I'll answer more in the morning.

Reply 42

the bear

Original post by Reality Check

I don't think I've read anything quite so euphemistic today! :smile:

ermm *insert banana innuendo here*

Reply 43

Anonymous #5

Original post by computernerd1001

That would be polyamory, so no. Bisexuality is not the same as being polyamorous.

Is it same person having multiple sexualities?
and
Only one sexuality manifest at a time?

Reply 44

Stuart Johnson

Original post by Anonymous

Is it same person having multiple sexualities?
and
Only one sexuality manifest at a time?

I see what you're getting at, and I'll do my best to explain. When you eat good food, you still like other things, but that food is right for you at the moment. If I'm eating an apple, I don't stop liking pears. I just don't happen to be eating a pear at that time.

Reply 45

grom19

Original post by Stuart Johnson

Reporting in. I'm your man to answer questions.

Which gender do you want to marry?

Reply 46

username3118454

Can your sexuality ever be a 'phase'?

Reply 47

Lenniah

Why do you hyphen bisexual?

Reply 48

Stuart Johnson

Original post by grom19

Which gender do you want to marry?

Depends which gender the first marryable person I meet is! Honestly, I have no preference.

Original post by angelike1

Can your sexuality ever be a 'phase'?

Sometimes, yes. People can be bi-curious in their teenage years. For myself though, I am 100% queer.

Reply 49

username3118454

Original post by Stuart Johnson

Depends which gender the first marryable person I meet is! Honestly, I have no preference.

Sometimes, yes. People can be bi-curious in their teenage years. For myself though, I am 100% queer.

How would you know?

Reply 50

Anonymous #1

Original post by angelike1

How would you know?

Because I didn't 'stumble upon' my sexuality in the way some gay people do. Rather than a key turning thought process, it had more to do with realising that the way I felt was not the way that straight people felt. It had always been there. I am explaining this terribly, but I hope you get the gist.

Reply 51

username3118454

Original post by Anonymous

Yeah.

Can it change gradually though?

Could I, as a straight guy, slowly have a greater preference towards men as I get older? (Sorry idk if you know this - I just find the topic really interesting :tongue:

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Reply 52

grom19

Original post by constantine2016

Us bisexuals are practically invisible in the LGBT community due to a lot of biphobia from gays and lesbians. I've been told by lesbians that they would never date a bisexual woman.

is it cos they scared ull cheat on them with a guy? or just find the fact u may D gross?

Also do you find more feminine women and manly men or like manlier acting women and more feminine men? or just normal ones?

Reply 53

username2981082

Original post by grom19

I'd never cheat on someone I'm in a relationship with. It doesn't matter if it was a man or woman. Cheating is just wrong and selfish. I wouldn't date someone who thought I would cheat in the first place. I don't really care if a woman acts feminine or butch or if a man is manly or feminine. That kind of stuff doesn't matter to me.

Reply 54

username2981082

Original post by angelike1

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It is possible. There have been stories of 50 year old men coming out as gay or bisexual when they were married to a woman for a long time. Some people don't ever fully realise their sexuality until very late in life. My friend's uncle divorced his wife when he was 45 because he realised he was gay.

Reply 55

Stuart Johnson

Original post by grom19

It has more to do with being called "indecisive" as to whether we're gay or not. Or rejected for being "half-straight".

Original post by angelike1

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It's not really a thing that changes. In the same way you never woke up one day and said "just realised I'm straight", the same goes for LGBT. If the mental image of two guys going at it immediately turns you off in a way that a guy and a girl doesn't, chances are you aren't gay. The only reason that people come out as older men is because for whatever reason, they repressed that side of them. The pressure to "be a family man" was extremely strong in the past, as well as stigma towards gays that is much reduced.

Don't worry about curiousity. I wish everyone was as open minded 🤷🏻*♂️