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Out 16 year old cat Thomas has gone missing

Our much loved ginger cat Thomas has gone missing. 16 years of age he popped out a few days ago and has not returned. Never done this before, has he gone away to die or could he come back. He was not showing any obvious signs of illness. Has anyone been in this position with their cat and was there a positive outcome?
Original post by tonylion
Our much loved ginger cat Thomas has gone missing. 16 years of age he popped out a few days ago and has not returned. Never done this before, has he gone away to die or could he come back. He was not showing any obvious signs of illness. Has anyone been in this position with their cat and was there a positive outcome?

Aw :console: he's quite an old cat but I do hope he comes back! :hugs:
One of my cats has decided to move out this summer and is now living with someone else locally. Fickle creature.

I haven't seen him for 3 months.

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Our 16 year old female cat Blackie did this. She started walking into doors a few days earlier so she might have been confused or poorly. Was going to make an appointment at the vets a few days earlier and in the meantime keep her in all the time. However she was crying to be let out one night and I felt cruel forcing her to stay in against her will. The next day she was missing. Called her all day and nothing. After two nights of her not coming home we were worried as it was so unlike her. We put up posters everywhere on lampposts and trees and inside shop windows, with her photo on, a brief description , the offer of a small reward [ £20. It was literally all we could afford between me and my son at that time] and our phone number. Walked around everywhere every day.Nothing. My son opened the front door on the 10th morning of her being missing and she was sitting there !! We were so relieved and happy to see her. She was a bit thinner, but not massively so. No idea where she had been. She didn't have a collar on. But somehow she just wasn't the same. She didn't want to stay indoors, even at night. Usually she liked sleeping on my bed with me. But she seemed distant, as if she didn't recognise us. When she was in she kept weeing and pooing behind the TV, which is something she had never done her whole life. I didn't mind and it was no big deal if she couldn't help it, and we got her a litter tray. But she had never in her life used one and had always gone outside, so used to do her business next to it. This carried on for 17 days, from when she returned. I went into the garden one evening, and she was lying down, barely moving, directly over the spot where a little kitten of 6 weeks, not related to her, died 9 or 10 months earlier. I carried her inside. She tried to stand up and her legs were criss crossed and she couldn't walk in a straight line. We knew the end was coming. I picked her up to try and cuddle her and she cried out as if in pain. So I laid her down on the living room floor. Kept trying to give her small syringes full of water to drink but it just dribbled straight out of her mouth. The she arched her head right back, it was almost touching her back, and let out what I can only describe as a death rattle. I've certainly never heard any sound like it before. Then she went into a kind of coma; she was just staring straight ahead, lying down.We were stroking her and comforting her and she just stopped breathing about 10 minutes later. All of this was on a Saturday night and it was pointless trying to get her to the vets as we knew there was nothing more that could be done for her. Me and my son cried buckets, of course. We lay her on a cushion on the sofa and as it was getting dark we left her there for then night and buried her in the front garden, near the kitten the following morning. I've got it all to go through again with another two. [ The mother and sister of the little black kitten]. I hope my story hasn't upset you and that the outcome is very different for you and your cat. Feel free to message me if you like.x
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Original post by Little Popcorns
Aw :console: he's quite an old cat but I do hope he comes back! :hugs:

Thank you for your reply Little Popcorns, it's the not knowing that is the worst thing, but as you say he was getting on a bit. He had a good life with us and was spoilt rotten.
Sorry when you said "out" I thought this was going to be a joke thread about a gay cat...
I don't want to alarm you, but some cats like to go away somewhere private to die, especially if they're very old. Make sure you check any quiet spots near your home e.g. behind a shed, in bushes, etc, and if he's one to go out and explore then ask your neighbours if they could have a look too.

Then again, maybe if he was an outdoors cat he might have gone to visit another family for a while. My half-sister had a cat who would split his time between three homes. Again, check with your neighbours to see if they've seen any sign of him, and perhaps inform your vet/local rescue shelters in case he gets handed in there. Also, try leaving some of your items, his favourite toys, even just a bowl of food outside; if he's lost, then the familiar smell could help him find his way back home.

Hope he's found safe and sound soon!
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Original post by markova21
Our 16 year old female cat Blackie did this. She started walking into doors a few days earlier so she might have been confused or poorly. Was going to make an appointment at the vets a few days earlier and in the meantime keep her in all the time. However she was crying to be let out one night and I felt cruel forcing her to stay in against her will. The next day she was missing. Called her all day and nothing. After two nights of her not coming home we were worried as it was so unlike her. We put up posters everywhere on lampposts and trees and inside shop windows, with her photo on, a brief description , the offer of a small reward [ £20. It was literally all we could afford between me and my son at that time] and our phone number. Walked around everywhere every day.Nothing. My son opened the front door on the 10th morning of her being missing and she was sitting there !! We were so relieved and happy to see her. She was a bit thinner, but not massively so. No idea where she had been. She didn't have a collar on. But somehow she just wasn't the same. She didn't want to stay indoors, even at night. Usually she liked sleeping on my bed with me. But she seemed distant, as if she didn't recognise us. When she was in she kept weeing and pooing behind the TV, which is something she had never done her whole life. I didn't mind and it was no big deal if she couldn't help it, and we got her a litter tray. But she had never in her life used one and had always gone outside, so used to do her business next to it. This carried on for 17 days, from when she returned. I went into the garden one evening, and she was lying down, barely moving, directly over the spot where a little kitten of 6 weeks, not related to her, died 9 or 10 months earlier. I carried her inside. She tried to stand up and her legs were criss crossed and she couldn't walk in a straight line. We knew the end was coming. I picked her up to try and cuddle her and she cried out as if in pain. So I laid her down on the living room floor. Kept trying to give her small syringes full of water to drink but it just dribbled straight out of her mouth. The she arched her head right back, it was almost touching her back, and let out what I can only describe as a death rattle. I've certainly never heard any sound like it before. Then she went into a kind of coma; she was just staring straight ahead, lying down.We were stroking her and comforting her and she just stopped breathing about 10 minutes later. All of this was on a Saturday night and it was pointless trying to get her to the vets as we knew there was nothing more that could be done for her. Me and my son cried buckets, of course. We lay her on a cushion on the sofa and as it was getting dark we left her there for then night and buried her in the front garden, near the kitten the following morning. I've got it all to go through again with another two. [ The mother and sister of the little black kitten]. I hope my story hasn't upset you and that the outcome is very different for you and your cat. Feel free to message me if you like.x


Hello markove21; thank you for your post, out Thomas was an in and out cat all his life except for the last couple of years, then last week he asked to go out, we noticed he was eating grass and plants which I have been told is a sign of sickness. On this occasion he came back, then last Monday morning around 6 am he asked to go out again. I checked on him 15 minutes later and all seemed good, then half hour later and he as gone. Have not seen him since. As I said in my original post he was not showing any signs of illness, although he would rarely get off his chair, we even took his food to him. I think he has gone, but I live in hope, thanks again for your post.
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Original post by folieadeux
I don't want to alarm you, but some cats like to go away somewhere private to die, especially if they're very old. Make sure you check any quiet spots near your home e.g. behind a shed, in bushes, etc, and if he's one to go out and explore then ask your neighbours if they could have a look too.

Then again, maybe if he was an outdoors cat he might have gone to visit another family for a while. My half-sister had a cat who would split his time between three homes. Again, check with your neighbours to see if they've seen any sign of him, and perhaps inform your vet/local rescue shelters in case he gets handed in there. Also, try leaving some of your items, his favourite toys, even just a bowl of food outside; if he's lost, then the familiar smell could help him find his way back home.

Hope he's found safe and sound soon!


Hello folieadeux; we have checked everywhere, he wasn't much of an outdoor cat and he didn't wander far, be to be honest he was a right misery guts, never happy unless he got his own way.

Think you are right he has gone away to die, but as I said in another post, we live in hope!
Original post by tonylion
Hello folieadeux; we have checked everywhere, he wasn't much of an outdoor cat and he didn't wander far, be to be honest he was a right misery guts, never happy unless he got his own way.

Think you are right he has gone away to die, but as I said in another post, we live in hope!


I'm sorry to hear that. Regardless of whether he's still out there or whether he's passed on, take comfort in the fact that you gave him the best life you could. I'm sure wherever he is, he's very glad to have had you. :hugs:

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